dudesomewhere Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 so, me being up way to soon for my first day at new job....ahem...WOOHOO!!! hehe Anyway, I was wondering about my outlook on life and how it does tend to be different from those around me in my general vicinity and even on the internets virtual community. So Friends...Friendship....some of you may be familiar with the fact that I love Seinfeld and Friends. I wonder now if part of it's some subconscious observation is that these characters are friends for 10 years or so. Never really ever growing apart. I always thought this was possible, even before these shows. But as I grew up and got older it seemed otherwise. Do you think such enduring friendships are that rare? Like less than 25% of the people in the world hold onto such things? I'm not talking about friends who are still friends but haven't seen each other in 10 years...I'm talking about friends who stay friends and visit, or email or phone on a fairly regular basis...to the point where there's never really any voids. Do you think it's because some people spread themselves too thin? I don't spread myself thin, do you think that's why I think that way? Outside of my family I only call one person my friend, and that is in light of knowing how many more people have wanted to be my friend. I don't know...in my mind, most people who wanted to be my friend really didn't want to for me, but what I could have offered. You know the whole networking phenomena. That's like selling your soul man...to me anyway, lol. Damn I woke up too early...wth, hehe. Rambling thoughts on life
YellowLioness Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Dude, I saw that you had posted at somewhere around 1 this morning, saying you had gotten up too early. Did you sleep between that post and this one? I like to keep my friends for a long time. The longest I've been friends with someone is 20 years, and I'm 23. As long as people put their friendship first, they can make it through anything.
moimeme Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I have friends I've had since I was in grade school. Along the way, from jobs and other situations, I've picked up others. Many are still friends. A lot are the sort that don't keep in touch, but we get together whenever we're in each others' towns because I live across the country from them, but I also made friends when I moved different places. There are ones who have fallen by the wayside just because of life. Once I've been fond of someone, they never leave my heart entirely. I was actually wondering if people who are extremely tidy also ditch friends easily. I don't toss things easily; I feel disloyal getting rid of an old piece of clothing
Wellnowuknow Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I agree I have my best friend for 10 years already and she has never failed me once. We've only gotten into one fight in 10 years (over a guy lol) and we still call everyday and have a very good relationship. The bond we have is unbreakable now and nobody will ever understand me or deal with me like she has. lol I love her! Then theres some friends that keep in touch everyonce in a while and we meet for coffee and discuss what's happened in our lives, and laugh about old times. And theres some that I wish I still had contact with and I think of ever so often when I hear a song or see a movie. But life happened to them and so what can you do? In fact I'm going to call my friend rightnow and tell her how much I apreciate her. Thanx dude!
Bojickwoman Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I think that sometimes, no matter how sincere our intentions are, friends drift apart. I have found that to be true in my own life, especially with people who I met in grammar school and high school. As people grow up and experience life, interests change etc. Unless you still share the same interests with people, then I think it is probable you will drift apart. I have 2 friends that I have known since grammar school and one friend that I have know since freshman year of HS. All of us still share the same interests, goals and ideas about things and that has formed the base of our friendship, which I feel is important. The other friends that I had known even longer, I had to let go. Besides them being very judgemental of me because they said I was "different" (I am, and have always been an artistic person, creative thinker and too "artsy-fartsy" for them-their words), I didn't have marriage and children in common with them and I was being excluded from outings or just hanging out. I think it is better to have a few very close friends, than a large group of friends who could care less about you.
supermom Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 I have one bestfriend I've known for about 10 years from High School. We call each other almost daily even though we live 90 miles away. I go see her and vise versa. My other bestfriend is my husband
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