HeldbyGravity Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 I've been dating this guy for a little while. There is mutual interest between us that continues to grow, and he is an absolute sweetheart. We joke around a lot, though we've had some pretty deep discussions. A total guy, but very respectful, mellow and kind. He is not the jealous or possessive type. He has now done this a couple of times, mostly when we see a male athlete and get a close up of him. Not EVERY time mind you, it's random. He'll ask if I think that guy is attractive. No matter what I say (as I always answer honestly), he's okay with it! No awkwardness or tension or anything. Someone suggested that this is just a small test to see how honest I'll be- what do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 It could be to test your honesty. Why don't you ask him why he asks you that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeldbyGravity Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 (edited) *shrug* It's not really something that's an issue with me, just something I'm curious about. I wouldn't ask him about something like that, just gonna trust that he has his reasons, but I would feel as if I was calling him out on it or make him feel self conscious about it if I did. Edited October 13, 2012 by HeldbyGravity Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 *shrug* It's not really something that's an issue with me, just something I'm curious about. I wouldn't ask him about something like that, just gonna trust that he has his reasons, but I would feel as if I was calling him out on it if I did! If you're curious about it shouldn't you ask him about it? So you can get to know him better? Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 *shrug* It's not really something that's an issue with me, just something I'm curious about. I wouldn't ask him about something like that, just gonna trust that he has his reasons, but I would feel as if I was calling him out on it or make him feel self conscious about it if I did. I don't think he'd feel you were calling him out, you said you guys have a good connection. I'd just ask him in a pleasant way "why do you ask me that?" and just see what he says. Maybe he's insecure too, wondering what type of guy you find attractive? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeldbyGravity Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 I don't think he'd feel you were calling him out, you said you guys have a good connection. I'd just ask him in a pleasant way "why do you ask me that?" and just see what he says. Maybe he's insecure too, wondering what type of guy you find attractive? Maybe that's the case. He does get pretty nervous around me. Guess it wouldn't hurt to ask him if it's something he continues to do. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Maybe that's the case. He does get pretty nervous around me. Guess it wouldn't hurt to ask him if it's something he continues to do. Yeah, I wouldn't look at it like it's a big deal, but I'd be curious to know why he keeps asking. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 He probably wants to see if you both have interest in the same men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeldbyGravity Posted October 13, 2012 Author Share Posted October 13, 2012 He probably wants to see if you both have interest in the same men. LOL! I'm sure that's EXACTLY it! Link to post Share on other sites
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