did i get played out ? or was she really in love with me ?

[brokenhearted3]

dating her for almost 3 years. everytime we break up she hangs out with the guy "friend" are they just friends or more ? i cant tell. she says they are just friends. i refuse to call her now. cause this is like the 10th time we broke up. she's not calling me either. we never call each other after we break up. how do i make her call me first. i'm still in love with her

[bonespockirk]

if she broke up with you then dont call her because she doesnt love you. if you broke up with her dont call her because you dont/didn't love her. simple as that.

[Calico]

Unadorned opinion?

 

Whatever it is that you have going there strikes me as dysfunctional and you should probably walk away from it. Breaking up so many times over the course of three years doesn't indicate that it's a healthy and successful relationship. Every new breakup just destroys a bit more of what you originally might have had. This can't possibly be fun.

 

The question shouldn't be, "How do I make her call me first?" (this is just a childish power game, why play it?), but instead: "Why do we constantly break up? How can I address these underlying issues and improve the situation? Is there really a point in continuing this relationship?". The answers will serve you better than repeating the same cycle yet another time. You won't get different results if all other parameters remain unchanged.

[itsnotyouitsme]

There must be a reason why you keep breaking up and then getting back together? I think you probably have some underlying issues that you need to discuss with each other before considering getting back together with her or even calling her.

From my own experience, her hanging out with guy friend is nothing more than it seems. When we break up with someone, we ask ourselves a lot of 'what if' questions and sometimes assume the worst in the situation.

[veggirl]

What the eff you have broken up 10 times?!?

 

How many times do you need to break up before you realize "this ain't right" ?! wow.

 

And yeah she is probably sleeping with this "guy friend" everytime you break up so if you're cool with that..........

[NoMoreJerks]

10 break-ups is 9 too many.