sendme Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I have a deactivated Facebook... Randomly reactivated it today... Found some pictures of us my friends had tagged me in! Damn he was handsome... But I won't give... I've worked too hard to get this far! 12 days nc... In tagged myself in those pictures... His stupid sister made a snarky comment about how it was time to delete those pictures fml....
ReadMyThread Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I have a deactivated Facebook... Randomly reactivated it today... Found some pictures of us my friends had tagged me in! Damn he was handsome... But I won't give... I've worked too hard to get this far! 12 days nc... In tagged myself in those pictures... His stupid sister made a snarky comment about how it was time to delete those pictures fml.... Shouldn't have re-activated it. Now your dealing with a set-back lol. De-ctivate again! And wait 6 months to re-activate it lmao. That's what I told myself to do and I have lol. In 6 months, THEN we can go back on Facebook lol.
KatZee Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 Why do you have to be so drastic with facebook? Defriend these people, untag yourself from those photos and that'll be the end of it. You won't see the pictures, you won't see the snarky comments, and you won't see anyones updates. Simple. 3
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 Why do you have to be so drastic with facebook? Defriend these people, untag yourself from those photos and that'll be the end of it. You won't see the pictures, you won't see the snarky comments, and you won't see anyones updates. Simple. Better yet, delete then block them, that's what I did. You can't search them, they can't search you, anything they are tagged in is removed, they simply disappear from facebook. The best part, if you try unblock them facebook give you a warning "are you sure, you won't be able to block (name) again for 48 hours". Almost like them saying "hey, you obviously blocked them for a reason, if you unblock them we'll make you suffer for 48 hours so you can learn your lesson". How do I know this, I almost did until I saw that warning. 2
NoMoreJerks Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 The best part, if you try unblock them facebook give you a warning "are you sure, you won't be able to block (name) again for 48 hours". Almost like them saying "hey, you obviously blocked them for a reason, if you unblock them we'll make you suffer for 48 hours so you can learn your lesson". How do I know this, I almost did until I saw that warning. Hahahaha. That's a good way of putting it. Never looked at it that way!
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 Well I just found out that blocking her didn't work. My profile is public and she must've checked it from another account. I've been going out a lot recently, posted a coulple of pics me going out. Just woke up to 7 texts from her. Not professing her love but that she missed me and mostly jealous comments mixed in. I'm going to wait till later today to see if she texts again. I'm suspicious it was a drunk text barrage. Like everyone here says "if they want to talk to/be with you, they'll knock over walls to get to you." I'm keeping that in mine. 1
dreamstate83 Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 Well I just found out that blocking her didn't work. My profile is public and she must've checked it from another account. I've been going out a lot recently, posted a coulple of pics me going out. Just woke up to 7 texts from her. Not professing her love but that she missed me and mostly jealous comments mixed in. I'm going to wait till later today to see if she texts again. I'm suspicious it was a drunk text barrage. Like everyone here says "if they want to talk to/be with you, they'll knock over walls to get to you." I'm keeping that in mine. I know how hard that can be. My recent ex doesn't really talk to me (she's always been stubborn), but from what I've heard she isn't handling it too well. Just take it as a sign that there was nothing wrong with you after all! It feels good to be missed, even if things don't work out ego++ 1
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I know how hard that can be. My recent ex doesn't really talk to me (she's always been stubborn), but from what I've heard she isn't handling it too well. Just take it as a sign that there was nothing wrong with you after all! It feels good to be missed, even if things don't work out ego++ Yes it feels good, but the more I think of it I get mad. What nerve right? I'd never quit on someone I loved, she did. If there was a problem I wouldn't just leave and join a fu@#king dating website, she did. All I read from the texts is "it sucks your out and I'm not" "it sucks you're trying to move on" "I miss you but not bad enough to want to be with you". No I'm not responding, she threw me away like trash and I'm not trash. I'm taking a fu@#king stand on this one. I'm not letting her have her cake and eat it too. Sorry I had to vent.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I know how hard that can be. My recent ex doesn't really talk to me (she's always been stubborn), but from what I've heard she isn't handling it too well. Just take it as a sign that there was nothing wrong with you after all! It feels good to be missed, even if things don't work out ego++ I know what you mean. My ex has been very sparing in contacting me (she's stubborn as hell), but the times I did see her I could tell that she wasn't handling things well. In a way, it was almost empowering to me to realize that I wasn't the only one who was going through the pain and I was the one acting a lot more in control of the pain. It hasn't gotten me back with her and it probably won't, but at least I know that I'm not the only one who is going through/has gone through a tough spot.
Author sendme Posted October 13, 2012 Author Posted October 13, 2012 Well I just found out that blocking her didn't work. My profile is public and she must've checked it from another account. I've been going out a lot recently, posted a coulple of pics me going out. Just woke up to 7 texts from her. Not professing her love but that she missed me and mostly jealous comments mixed in. I'm going to wait till later today to see if she texts again. I'm suspicious it was a drunk text barrage. Like everyone here says "if they want to talk to/be with you, they'll knock over walls to get to you." I'm keeping that in mine. That's exactly why I just deactivated my account... Facebook is too much drama... the only reason I have it is in case I lose people's contact information... and because there are a pictures on Facebook I don't have anywhere else that I haven't downloaded yet.... Don't contact her... let her be jealous... although the people who end our relationships don't always feel EVERYTHING we feel... they're still people so they're capable of feeling hurt and angst and jealousy... she's going through a part of her process... let her do it all on her own the same way she's making you do it... don't give and don't respond, and deactivate Facebook... I like the six month no Facebook rule.... in the meantime... it's COLLEGE FOOTBALL SATURDAY --- woot woot.... lots of SEC games on tv today... lots to keep you busy
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 Well she hasn't contacted me yet and don't think she will. As I suspected it was prob a alcohol related texting event. I won't contact her, but even this little bit of contact jolts me a bit. Onward and upward. No football games for me, been stuck at work, 1 hour to go. Need to get to the gym asap and really work this frustration out. Hope you're enjoying it.
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 Well I (stupidly) unblocked her today so I could send her my last message. She always gets the last word and I wanted to put my final 2 cents in. I spent 1 hour writing, rewriting, reading and rereading to get my point across perfectly and to the point. Facebook is the only way I could contact her without calling, which I didn't want to do. So I copied the message, unblocked her from facebook and lo and behold her profile pic is with her and her new man. Well I couldn't post what I had written now, she's moving on and what I had to say wouldn't mean anything to her. Probably never would have, so I guess it's a good thing. Maybe I should have posted this in a "breaking NC" thread. Even though she told me she was with someone else, seeing the pic stung a little. More evidence to not break NC, as it has very little upside. I'm not dying, I didn't sob, just another punch in the face. I meant it and actually wrote to her "you look happy, I'm happy for you. I'm actually glad I saw it, this will help me move on" which it will. Well this is prob the last post about my situation on LS. Just an update/vent.
Author sendme Posted October 19, 2012 Author Posted October 19, 2012 Well I (stupidly) unblocked her today so I could send her my last message. She always gets the last word and I wanted to put my final 2 cents in. I spent 1 hour writing, rewriting, reading and rereading to get my point across perfectly and to the point. Facebook is the only way I could contact her without calling, which I didn't want to do. So I copied the message, unblocked her from facebook and lo and behold her profile pic is with her and her new man. Well I couldn't post what I had written now, she's moving on and what I had to say wouldn't mean anything to her. Probably never would have, so I guess it's a good thing. Maybe I should have posted this in a "breaking NC" thread. Even though she told me she was with someone else, seeing the pic stung a little. More evidence to not break NC, as it has very little upside. I'm not dying, I didn't sob, just another punch in the face. I meant it and actually wrote to her "you look happy, I'm happy for you. I'm actually glad I saw it, this will help me move on" which it will. Well this is prob the last post about my situation on LS. Just an update/vent. So glad you posted... the past three days have been extraordinarily hard... I'm at 19 days NC... he's been home a lot which means I have to drive by his car and place to get to my place... that sucks.... I hate it... a lot... I almost stopped by his house, but convinced myself not to... only just barely... so thanks for sharing this... because I can't afford more heartbreak from him... I actually only convinced myself not to break NC this time, because the last time I broke NC I found out the stuff that broke my heart the deepest... so thanks for the reminder that breaking NC often leads to us hurting more... I need to remember this isn't a one way street... he lives NEXT to me TOO... so if he wanted to reach out and repair... he could I'm as easily accessible to him as he is to me, and yet he's not coming, which means he's moving on or trying to... so I'm going to be strong and do the same... I'm sorry you hurt... heart ache sucks.... Please don't leave LS I enjoy your posts!
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 Im not leaving LS, I still need you guys!! I think my saga is over, nothing more to write about her is what I meant. You're exactly right!! They know how we feel, they know we love them and want to be with them but they just don't care, or would rather care with someone else. You've got a harder/longer road than me. I was fine not contacting her but she kept jumping in and out if my life. Now that's over, I've got the closure that I was NOT seeking. 1 thing I should share with you. Before unblocking and writing the letter I thought about posting on LS first to get a clear minded opinion. I obviously chose to not listen to my own advice, hope you have a clearer head than me when/if it comes time.
Author sendme Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 Im not leaving LS, I still need you guys!! I think my saga is over, nothing more to write about her is what I meant. You're exactly right!! They know how we feel, they know we love them and want to be with them but they just don't care, or would rather care with someone else. You've got a harder/longer road than me. I was fine not contacting her but she kept jumping in and out if my life. Now that's over, I've got the closure that I was NOT seeking. 1 thing I should share with you. Before unblocking and writing the letter I thought about posting on LS first to get a clear minded opinion. I obviously chose to not listen to my own advice, hope you have a clearer head than me when/if it comes time. Thanks I'm trying to remember that... I'm not sure why the past few days have been so hard... they just have been... today on my way for my run (literally I HAVE go by his house to get ANYWHERE... no other route) I stopped by and put my ear to the door (HELLO STALKER) totally creepy I know... I was going to knock, and then couldn't... I just sat there knowing he was right there... it was so lame, and weird... I wish he would move... when we started dating we both agreed that if it didn't work out he would move... and he hasn't... I want to see him tonight... but I can't... I hate this...
NewPerspective93 Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 So, how are you guys faring, if I may ask?
Author sendme Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 ugggghhhh.... on one hand I'm good, I'm happy and know this is for the best and on the other hand I am broken and crushed and devastated... I really loved that cad... and I can't believe he could treat me as terribly as he did and then just be done.... it hurts on and off, sometimes it hurts so much I don't know how I breathe, and other times I'll go a whole day and not think of it... I thought it would be better by now... but this week has been a killer! NC 23 days...
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) unblocked her from facebook Just a little update. After i unblocked her she blocked me later on that day and occasionally I would check to see if she ever unblocked me. Well today was that day, I just searched her name and she appeared, WOW. I immediately blocked her again, it felt so good. I AM NOT thinking "what does it mean that she unblocked me?" "does she want me back?", hell no!! I simply hated the fact that the blocking decision was in her hands (childish??). I don't care, she's blocked, she will remain blocked forever. I'm not 100% there (my heart is still holding on a bit) but I am close to completely disqualifying here as a potential mate. I am balanced, valuable, and mature. I don't have time to fix/help a damaged person that chose to walk out of my life. Edited October 31, 2012 by NavyAirTraffic
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