what does he want?

[Goldfsh79]

Hello, one of my good friends confided in me about a physical affair she is having. I thought I would try to get some advice for her.

 

She is having a physical affair with a man who lives out of town. He travels to where she lives every two months for work. Theirs is a physical affair which she is fine with, but she feels he wants more and isnt sure how to tell. they are both married.

 

This is what he does and why shes confused:

-he wants her to sleep over and snuggle every night hes in town

-he emails her constantly and shows jealousy of her husband

 

What do u think?

[RickFox]

As her friend, I think you should tell her to get a divorce and stop the affair.

[Goldfsh79]

I did tell her that, but she is not wanting to listen to me.

 

She is wondering what to do because she wants it to be physical only but it seems he wants more.

[veryhappy]

Unless he comes telling her that he's filed for divorce to be with her, she has nothing to worry about. And I mean absolute nothing.

 

The snuggling - he's making the most of the time; his W may not be affectionate.

 

The jealousy - male territorial instincts; it doesn't mean he wants to be with her, just that he'd want no other man to have her.

 

Unless she hears the word "divorce" as in "I plan to file for divorce by that specific date", the rest is just affair poetry.

[2sunny]

He wants sex.

 

She gives it.

 

I'd tell this"friends" husband!

[kae]

tell her nothing good will come of this and ask her to reconsider her actions because ultimately she will get burned.

 

what does marriage mean to her??

[Artie Lang]

^for once i agree with this poster.

 

if she's good "giving it up" like that, there should be no worries.

 

she's comfortable being OW.....so be it!

 

stay out of it. i mean really.....who are you to be giving advice on "doing the right thing." sounds a bit hypocritical of you.