truthbetold Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I was told once by my Chemistry professor that people in the Psych field ALL had issues of themselves, it's why they chose that field, to work out their own demons. I had my doubts. Because I'm a person who sees both sides of an issue. I understand for the most part counselors and psychologists have you bounce your thoughts off them and have you reach your own conclusions. They are not permitted to force their agenda etc... However the more I do what I do, I see it. The people that are involved in the Psych part of the health profession pretty much do have issues themselves that they're trying to work out. I work with a woman who can be outstanding in her job, but is a lot of smoke and mirrors. She's making my time there miserable "if" I choose to engage, because I get I have a choice to allow her histrionics to affect me or not. Her daughter majored in Psych, her husband was a surgeon. She works with abused women in her spare time. But she makes the office an absolute war space for no other reason than she loves drama. There should be none, but she loves to create it. So I get it. Some people just love drama and will do anything to defend that they can't control it (even though they're steering the ship) They just deserve our sympathy or empathy as it were. Because they really don't get it nor can help it. 1
Quiet Storm Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 I think the big misconception about mentally ill or personality disordered people is assuming that they are dumb. My sister is Borderline, and she has fooled many doctors because she is smart. She knows what to say and when to say it. In her rages, she is certifiable, but at other times, she can seem perfectly normal and well balanced. I can easily see how intelligent mentally ill individuals can succeed in the field, because I know from experience they have the cognitive ability to fool others. 4
Author truthbetold Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 I think the big misconception about mentally ill or personality disordered people is assuming that they are dumb. My sister is Borderline, and she has fooled many doctors because she is smart. She knows what to say and when to say it. In her rages, she is certifiable, but at other times, she can seem perfectly normal and well balanced. I can easily see how intelligent mentally ill individuals can succeed in the field, because I know from experience they have the cognitive ability to fool others. I think that's very true. This lady is far from dumb. Her husband passed away several years ago, rumor has it it was an affair. She was 25 to his forty something they met and bonded at work. His daughters are still estranged to her, they had one child together. She's now in her late 50's. She abhors anything to do with an affair when it gets brought up though, so who knows. She does such awesome work on the side though. She works with domestic abuse and can have such a kind heart. But the other side of her is downright nuts. She fakes calls that pretend surgeons are calling her on her cell in the middle of the OR procedure to ask HER a question. I mean I'm sure she lived the great life with her husband he was in fact on a medical board, very prominent and well known so it baffles me this need to fake things and I wonder how unhinged can she become? It's even rumored that her CA diagnosis is fake to get sympathy! She's very high and low. One minute laughing and joking and the next slamming things and yelling and just making everything really tense for nothing. She thrives on drama and I just don't get it. It's speculated that she's bi polar but that term gets bandied about too much. It's just too much to be holding your breath when at work to not have moods affect me. I know that I'm "allowing" it when I do, but it's just hard to not have that initial stomach drop thing and it's all for nothing. Her child went into the Psych field full force, so I guess that's what I meant when I said I can see my former professor's observation that people who end up in that field are to work out some childhood issues and may be a mess themselves personally. I know an ex of someone personally that same thing, she's very well known and honored in her Psych career but why she got with this guy and couldn't see through his mask and deception. Well she figured it out, five years later. Those that tried to tell her what he was like were dubbed "bitter" and not over him. Yeah, she found out. Drama, yeesh, there's just such an easier way to live. But thanks Quiet, I've always enjoyed your posts. You make such total sense. It's good to have that on these boards! 1
SpiralOut Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 (edited) Umm yes that's correct that people in the Psych field are people too. Their lives aren't perfect. Nobody is perfect. Everyone has problems and makes mistakes. The only way to know why they would choose to work in the field is to ask them why. Maybe it has nothing to do with trying to fix themselves. Maybe they are just compassionate and want to help others. Edited October 14, 2012 by SpiralOut
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