Lonely Ronin Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 Come to think of it DY, isn't this one of your own points of view? Haven't you said you think some men spend so much time watching porn that it effects how they see and interact with women? Shouldn't the same theory apply to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Lonely Ronin I didn't say you were distorted, additionally distorted doesn't have to have a negative cogitation. But it does have a negative cogitation in the manner you presented it. That my point of view isn't valid because you believe it to be distorted because I talk about porn a lot around here. Have you considered how your own interactions with porn have distorted your view points? Actually I have spent time thinking about this. You aren't the first person to comment or complain about my prolictivity to talk about this subject. While I might get a little over zealous at times, and honestly, on this board, who hasn't..... my reasonableness and common sense haven't left me quite yet. The problem isn't that I talk about porn alot around here. It's that certain communication styles cause bitter words and little mini wars where personal attacks become more important to posters then actual discussion. for example, A female teacher friend of mine decided she needed to take a sabbatical, because she had come to realize that she was spending so much time with children between teaching and tutoring, that she had started treating and talking to everyone like children. I don't talk to people like they are pornstars....... In other words she spent some much time doing one thing, that it had negative consequences on other parts of her life. In other words have you considered how your stance on porn, might have affected other aspects of your life, or your opinion on porn it's self? I think my stance on porn has given me more clarity and helped me to figure out better what I want from my relationships. Before this, I didn't want to rock the boat. I tried to do things other people's way..usually "men's way" where we *watched* porn *together* and where I just *accepted* it. Today I have a lot more personal power then I ever excercised when I was younger and more eager to please at any cost..even the cost to my own happiness. The discussions I have here are a small segment of my life. The topic of porn, while I talk about it a lot, is still a small segment of my real life. And I actually am trying to combat a larger problem I see around porn. It's so easily accepted and I don't think it should be. So I tend to be redunantly vocal about that to counter that. I have had negative thoughts about men concerning porn. But that came way before I started talking about it. It wasn't until I started talking about it more that I felt I had more personal power and control over my own life in regard to this topic. Something I never felt I had when you were up to the whims and fancys and desires of what the guy in the relationship wanted. Last time I checked, she wanted advise, and I wasn't forcing her to do what I said. You think everyone should solve their problems like you. Not everyone is like you and not all the same solutions are going to work. Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Come to think of it DY, isn't this one of your own points of view? Haven't you said you think some men spend so much time watching porn that it effects how they see and interact with women? Shouldn't the same theory apply to you? Yes, that could happen. But as I said above, it's given me more personal freedom to articulate what I want from my life and relationships when I wasn't once able to do that. I actually think I am rawly honest about what I think is going on. I don't think men are horrible or evil if they look at porn. But I don't think that means they are doing what's best either. Alot of people can't seem to differentiate the two when it comes to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 You think everyone should solve their problems like you. Not everyone is like you and not all the same solutions are going to work. Last time I checked I was entitled to my opinion, and as I said before she doesn't have to listen. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Alot of people can't seem to differentiate the two when it comes to me. It's your writing style, basically your writing comes off like what you accused me of above. Link to post Share on other sites
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