Still in love with ex, need advice on what to do to deal with my situation!

[IluvAlex33]

My boyfriend and i broke up about 2 months ago, it was the hardest thing i have ever been through.i want him back soo bad, i love him with all my heart. I have tried no contact, but it was too hard for me, i might take it up again for a last resort.

 

My ex and i have decided to be friends and its tough being around him, and knowing he isn't mine anymore, its really hard for me. We broke up for a stupid reason, honestly i don't know why we broke up, he never throughly explained it.

 

I really want my ex back, but it seems like he doesn't want to be around me. Is it that he feels akward being my friend off the bat, or is it me? I think i did a bad thing. I called him a few days ago and told him i was over him. Boy did i lie! Was that a bad thing, should i call him and tell him that i still love him? Or will that make things worse? I really don't understand guys, they are so different from each other, i mean some want a challenge and some want it easy, and have nice things said to them, i don't know its just really confusing.

 

But i need ya'll's help, i want him back but i don't know what i should do. Should i try no contact again, or talk to him like a regular friend? I love him, and the only time i'am happy is with him.Please i need your advice.

[lissab113]

First of all, breathe!

 

Being broken up with is very difficult but first of all, let me make sure I have the facts straight...

 

He broke up with you, and now he wants nothing to do with you?

 

If this is true than the main thing is to gain back some of your dignity. You are more important than him at this moment! This is basically testing your ability to make yourself happy, because he has obviously failed miserably at meeting your needs. Best thing for you to do is not to worry about how your gonna get him back, but about how you can feel better while you get over him (think of it as backing up what you told him). Lose his number, at least for now. Do things that make you happy, and become once more the independent, sexy woman he fell in love with.

 

With this one of two things will happen:

 

1. He will see that you are still that woman he loves and sweep you off your feet again

 

2. You'll discover that you don't need the loser anyway and find someone 20 times better

 

Good Luck!

[IluvAlex33]

First of all, thank you for your post, i shall take it upon myself to do that.

 

Well, im not totally sure if he wants nothing to do with me, he justs acts different. maybe its just the atmosphere we have been around for the past 2 weeks, see i took a volunteer job at a church camp, and just so happened that he was there also volunteering, and i don't know if its just the situation at the camp that makes him act differently or he really just doesn't want to be around me, i mean when i talked to him on the phone we talked like we have been friends for a long time, but i don't know.

[lissab113]

Well, as far as the friends thing goes, I did the exact same thing. I swore that I could be my ex's friend, and it was the most impossible thing I have ever done. As far as the rest of your friends go, don't they tell you about their relationship problems? Most boys wouldn't do that. You'll still be tortured exes until you find peace one way or another. Oh and no more phone calls declaring your feelings on it one way or another. It will do nothing but make things more painful.

 

I hope this helps!