College_Stoodent Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Me and my ex were dating for 6 1/2 years. Just about three weeks ago, she ended the relationship out of nowhere. The two days before this she refused to talk to me saying she needed space and was feeling smothered. She was saying she wants time to be single and not tied down in any relationship and wants to be free in order to focus on her school and finding a job. So I talked to her a bit more, and told her that when she's past all these feelings with wanting to be single, then she can contact me and we'll talk. We've been on NC for almost 3 weeks now. Over the past 6 months she had dropped hints that she thought about being single but I didn't get the message. Throughout that time she acted as if she still wanted to be with me and wanted a relationship. But over those 6 months she started having commitment issues and started becoming more distant. My feeling is that she's left the relationship long ago and is just out and about her life enjoying herself and not missing me for even a second. I know she's not going out and partying and such because she's currently living a sheltered life under over protective parents, which probably contributed to GIGS. What's confusing is that she doesn't even like to talk to people or go out, she just wants to go home right after school, so what kind of fun or freedom is she really wanting or having while she's being single? Right now my close friends and religious leaders and just saying to wait. Wait for an answer, wait to see what direction this takes place. I'm just going crazy in my mind, trying to forget about her and knowing that holding on might hurt me if she doesn't come back. And she was never the type of person to miss me when we were together, so I'm guessing that its either she's never gonna miss me and want me back, or its gonna take A LOT of NC to make her miss me. I have no idea what's going on in her head and if she's already moved on or is just taking some space and time to get her head together like we agreed before we went NC. She's still kept our pictures up on FB and hasn't thrown out any of the mountain of gifts or jewelry I've given her over the past 6 years. Even more confusing, she even allowed me to hug, kiss, and sit in her car for the little while we were broken up but didn't start NC contact yet. So I'm thinking she's not over me, but at the same time she never felt any remorse or sadness about the break up and seems to be living a normal life as if nothing happened. But overall, I'm just trying to feel better through venting and trying to keep my head sane during NC. It's just the not knowing of what will happen in the future that gets me.
Author College_Stoodent Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 My mistake, I thought I was typing in the Break up Section but posted in Dating by accident. Sorry!
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