I still think about my ex daily... after 11 years.

[krkv6s2]

11 years ago a girl broke up w/me. It hurt really really bad, but after a few months I got over most of the pain. We speak very rarely, like probably 4 times in the last 10 years, and it has been 10 years since I've even seen her. We are both happily married now, and our lives couldn't be much more different. I can say w/out a doubt in my mind though that I have thought about her literally every single day of my life since the day I met her, which has been 12 years now.

 

Sometimes I feel like I'm being bad, or doing some kind of hurtful thing to my wife, although I can't help it. I don't go out of my way to think about my ex, it just happens. ALL of the time! The relationship had such a profound and powerful effect on me that it literally changed the way I looked at life.

 

I don't think I'm really looking for help, but just wanted to write it down I guess.

[sghffdmc]

Well, threads like this sure do make me feel hopeless....I'll go crazy if I can never get over my ex...I'm already feeling at the moment like I'll have a really hard time loving someone else again..

[Lisa_Lisa]

It took me 17 years to get over my ex. I've had lots of relationships in between, but I thought he and I were some Romeo and Juliet story mostly because he was poor - and I'm not rich, but my family was opposed to us being together. Because they wanted to keep us apart it fueled the fire of my love for him. If they had just let us experience having a real relationship it wouldn't have turned into such drama for over a decade.

 

He got married and had two children. I got married and divorced and then got married again and divorced, no children. But I always thought of him and we'd get together if you know what I mean whenever we would meet. He'd tell me how much he loved me, and I always believed him. He told me he married his wife because she got pregnant, but - thank God for Facebook - he put a lot of love songs and paragraphs of love to his wife.

 

Something inside me clicked and thought he doesn't love me he loves her. All these years I thought he wanted to be with me, but couldn't. Neither of us ever made the move to throw caution to the wind and begin a life together, mostly out of what would people say type of stuff.

 

We recently got together earlier this year and it started up again. I love you blah blah blah, but I told him to his face, I don't love you anymore. This is just sex. Maybe it was always just sex because a real relationship could never be.

 

Anyways, yeah, after 17 years, I'm so over him. I used to think about him almost daily. My life revolved around this man for so long. I don't regret it because then I'd feel terrible and I don't see it as time wasted more like lesson learned.

 

But now, of course, I'm hung up over some other dude which is why I'm on this website. Go figure. I'm pretty sure this one will NOT last 17 years.

 

Just my two cents.

[mandyo550]

Hi me to was in a relationship for 30 years till he left me for a so called friend. I like you think about him all the time its even harder when you have 2 children together. I have been with someone for 9 years now and love him dearly, but it is not the same when you have raised a familly together . I am sure he feels the same about me . You just need to move on and make the best of situations . I always say things happen for a reason thats the way life goes . Live life to the full you have only one chance make the most of it what ever you choose to do

[Nikki Sahagin]

Love never really leaves you. Not real love.

But you can carry the memory of love for a person without being 'in love' and whilst being 'in love' with someone new.

I don't think it matters that you think of your ex every day. I think most people do.

I think of mine every day but there is no feeling attached to it. My feelings for him are completely dead and gone, but he still pops into my head most days, almost like a habit.