samsungxoxo Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Because men don't know how to men anymore. Afraid of getting their nails dirty. And I'm not trying to play a role. Pretty sure it's a womans natural instinct to wanna be in the kitchen to cook and take care of the family, it's call being nuturing. Quit with all this role bull**** you're getting very annoying let me get this striaght.. It's normal for woman not to be cooking these days?Whoever says we need to do that is either on the wrong side of bed or is not my ideal man. I hardly know anything about cooking complicated dishes. In fact, all I know is the basic cooking skills for survival (ex: I can make breakfast, fry things, make rice and possible soup; those basic things but nothing involving a recipe) and as for kids, forget it; if there was a way to have a doctor proceed with a surgical operation I would pay for it right away. Kids are just not for me. Now with cooking, I will eventually learn recipes since my career will teach me that anyways; though I like the idea of cooking for a large coorporation (esp. if it's an internacional business) and it deals with knowing the origins of its main dishes but not as an ''everyday daily routine'' where I have to feed the man and/or others. Yes, it's normal not to be oligated to do an old-fashioned gender roles.
samsungxoxo Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Lmaaaoooooooooo u need to stop. I never SAID I like that kind of dominance!No sane, smart woman would deal with that type of controlling man for even 1 minute. The ones that do either have low self-esteem, lack self-confidence, have insecurity issues, etc. but they're mainly a train wreck waiting to happen.
Imported Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 You want me to quit with the role bull***? Guess what? I'm a man! You don't tell me what to do.. I tell YOU what to do! You went full retard. 3
samsungxoxo Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 You went full retard.Because he is. If he tries to pull that BS on a professional woman, I doubt the conversation would even continue.
ThaWholigan Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Because he is. If he tries to pull that BS on a professional woman, I doubt the conversation would even continue. He probably doesn't want a professional woman
maybealone Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 You don't get to cherry pick when a man is allowed to be dominant vs. passive. Most men are one or the other. I think "most men" would disagree with you. And no one said anything about "allowing" anyone. The ones who are a mix will not always be dominant at the times you want or passive at the times you want. I'm just being the voice of reality. You can't cherry pick. Well, considering I plan to only date humans with free will, I understand this. When choosing a potential significant other, I would consider style of dominance along with the other characteristics people use to choose someone, such as whether or not we like their looks or their sense of humor or their hobbies. He probably doesn't want a professional woman Or any woman, for that matter.
nessaaa Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I'm talking about women with a family. So if u did end up having kids.. You wouldn't cook for them? Whoever says we need to do that is either on the wrong side of bed or is not my ideal man. I hardly know anything about cooking complicated dishes. In fact, all I know is the basic cooking skills for survival (ex: I can make breakfast, fry things, make rice and possible soup; those basic things but nothing involving a recipe) and as for kids, forget it; if there was a way to have a doctor proceed with a surgical operation I would pay for it right away. Kids are just not for me. Now with cooking, I will eventually learn recipes since my career will teach me that anyways; though I like the idea of cooking for a large coorporation (esp. if it's an internacional business) and it deals with knowing the origins of its main dishes but not as an ''everyday daily routine'' where I have to feed the man and/or others. Yes, it's normal not to be oligated to do an old-fashioned gender roles.
phineas Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 You know what. You're a moron. Go take care of your kids, go fix something, or go sex your woman instead of of being on the fourms you 41 yr old loser. You mad? Yeah, you mad. LULZ!
RachR Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 (edited) You went full retard. I know, right? You never go full retard. Edited October 15, 2012 by RachR
nessaaa Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 You mad? Yeah, you mad. LULZ! relax old fart that saying is so 2009.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I let a man be a man, and I'm aware that I have some feminine strengths that he does not. If there's an emergency, he's going to drive the car because he is simply a better and more nimble driver than I am. And I'm going to console any worried people in the situation, because I'm more nurturing and expressive. I let my boyfriend lead in bed, because he's like a raging animal and our sex is way better when he does. Sexually, he's naturally dominant, and while I'm open to exploring that with him, I make sure I'm pleased and taken care of, too. It brings out his best as a lover when I communicate openly about my desires and make sure he satisfies them. He almost always pays and gives me nice things because he's generous and likes providing material things to help people and make life easier for them (he does this for all his friends and family). It's a bit overwhelming for me to be with someone who enjoys pampering me like this, but I'm learning to recognize that it's one of the main ways he shows the people in his life that he cares. He also does all the driving and prioritizes my preferences for places to go and things to do. And plenty of the time I'll cook us a meal and tell him to go relax while I clean up. When I'm at his place, he does the same thing. I think the family unit has been under attack by some of the powers that be for decades, and a key ingredient in that recipe is getting women and men arguing with each other over trivial things. 3
phineas Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 relax old fart that saying is so 2009. 2009. Is that when you graduated high school?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I think there is a difference between a guy who knows when to take charge, and a guy who's an overall dominant man (i.e. someone who's always the aggressor and makes all the decisions). The former is confident; the latter is controlling. A good guy would know when to take charge, when to be her equal, and when to let her take the lead. I believe this helps demonstrate that he genuinely cares about her. And he would understand that each woman is different, and would be able to adapt accordingly (within reason). "Taking charge" can manifest itself in many different ways, ranging from the little things to the big. There's the obvious examples such as the bedroom. Other instances could be that he cooks dinner one evening after sensing that she's had a bad day at work, or he cleans the house and does the laundry and dishes just to help out & give her a break, or even just showing his humorous side in a timely fashion to make her smile and laugh. Or just, as a spur-of-the-moment decision, taking her out on the town one night. I could go on and on. This doesn't necessarily have to be limited to romantic relationships...this can apply in a lot of situations. Co-workers, friends, parents/family, sports teammates, etc. Most strong relationships have some degree of give and take. That was very nicely said as well as very intuitive!
Pompom Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 My date last night bit me, slapped me, raped my throat, called me his whore, and gave me directions using a pillow sleeve tied around my neck to yank me around. Now my back hurts. And my neck. And every general area of everywhere he put his dick in. Now if he were otherwise my type, I'd come crawling back for more.
Pompom Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Physically very unappealing to me, and excessive sweater. And personality-wise, he just didn't captivate me in the least. But we might just stay **** buddies. Also, while he is totally different, he made me think of the guy I had only just gotten over, and I felt endlessly sad not to be lying in his arms, even if he is not that great in bed, and a liar, and a sadistic sociopath. I once more miss the embrace of the guy against whom I'll be guarding his ex tonight.
ascendotum Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Physically very unappealing to me, and excessive sweater. And personality-wise, he just didn't captivate me in the least. But we might just stay **** buddies. Also, while he is totally different, he made me think of the guy I had only just gotten over, and I felt endlessly sad not to be lying in his arms, even if he is not that great in bed, and a liar, and a sadistic sociopath. I once more miss the embrace of the guy against whom I'll be guarding his ex tonight. Well H50 prompted your rely above, but that now prompts me to ask, what the hell did this guy have then or say or do then to end up with the pleasure of having you gag on his dick, given he is unappealing in both looks & personality (if I may ask)? "whom I'll be guarding his ex tonight" Huh? 1
Pompom Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Well H50 prompted your rely above, but that now prompts me to ask, what the hell did this guy have then or say or do then to end up with the pleasure of having you gag on his dick, given he is unappealing in both looks & personality (if I may ask)? "whom I'll be guarding his ex tonight" Huh? He looked better in his pics... And I was bored out of my mind Gonna have to play bodyguard for a lady friend of mine who is the ex of the guy I tried to get over... He's a crazy-ass stalker who's even trying to get a rapist out of prison to hurt her. His logic behind this: if she doesn't want that guy in her neck, she'll have to crawl back to him for safety. And he's threatened to come see her tonight. And since we got screwed over by the same guy, I feel like I should be there. She's half his size, and he's half my size, see?
Pompom Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 And he has a gun with 2 spare magazines. I know. But he's easily intimidated, or so I've heard. It's mostly to keep his mouth shut, not so much to physically intervene. He doesn't know I know his dirty little secret, but there are people who may hurt her if they knew. He won't reveal it in front of me because he thinks me indiscrete and that I may abuse that knowledge.
Pompom Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 (edited) Indiscrete: I love a good gossip. Though when it's really sensitive intel, I know when to shut it. But he doesn't know the latter. He actually strongly doubts the latter Knowledge: That he's an Arab Muslim who pretends to be a Jew. Which can get you in deeeeeeeeeeeep trouble in this country. Hurt her: Honor killing for inter-religious/cultural mingling/"sullying". Not that I see any honor in that. It does happen. She's literally fearing for her life. I really don't think he'll get violent. I'll wear a spy cam though. Edited October 15, 2012 by Pompom
nessaaa Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 2009. Is that when you graduated high school? . Soft. U bore me.
phineas Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 . Soft. U bore me. And yet you keep responding. LOL!
Anela Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 My date last night bit me, slapped me, raped my throat, called me his whore, and gave me directions using a pillow sleeve tied around my neck to yank me around. Now my back hurts. And my neck. And every general area of everywhere he put his dick in. Now if he were otherwise my type, I'd come crawling back for more. I don't understand the appeal. I'm not a physical fighter, but my first instinct would be to whack them right back. And the pillow around the neck? A guy strangled me when I was a kid, and I've been sensitive about that area ever since. I occasionally wear necklaces, but they have to be the type that will easily slip off me, and I hate wearing anything close around the neck - I keep pulling it away.
Woggle Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 Women say they don't want to be a man's mother but I don't want to be a woman's father. Nothing more annoying than a grown woman who has a need for a man to put her in her place. Why can't a person just act right on their own accord? 1
Anela Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 It takes the general interest/curiosity first and foremost.. Then it's just a matter of trust in that partner. The more violent the rarer, but most women, or so I've noticed, appreciate a little domination on some level. Whether it's just a good pounding or choking- is up to the couple and contains a large spectrum of activities. Straight "vanilla" gets rather boring, personally. And I like having that "thing" in common that a women... Siiigh, miss sex. I've heard of all sorts of things, but the choking and smacking around bother me every time. I read a post on a blog, of someone cheating on her husband, talking about how violent this one guy was with her - the one she still sees. It was horrible - and a dog in the house witnessed it and was scared. Seemed to want to help her. One guys' hands around my throat was enough. I'm sure things can be made more interesting, without that and bruises.
ascendotum Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I've heard of all sorts of things, but the choking and smacking around bother me every time. I read a post on a blog, of someone cheating on her husband, talking about how violent this one guy was with her - the one she still sees. It was horrible - and a dog in the house witnessed it and was scared. Seemed to want to help her. One guys' hands around my throat was enough. I'm sure things can be made more interesting, without that and bruises. My sweet pain will drive you insane. Its not everyone's cup of tea, but there is a few here I'm sure who would love to take a walk on the wildside with pompom. Oh yeah, what I was going to say is, cheating with someone who's into bdsm is pretty risky I would have thought. There's only so many excuses you can come up with to explain away all the bruises, rope burns, scratches, whip marks, etc.
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