phineas Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Absolutely. Tell it like it is. Her: "I don't care where we eat so long as it's not one of the 27 restaurants you've already mentioned." OMG that pisses me off. Pisses me off also. When they told me to pick I would just drive to Chili's or Wild Wings & sit in the bar. EVERY TIME. Plenty of beer & TV's so I don't have to see her pout. They either learned to act like an adult & make decisions or they faded away.
Pompom Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I like to have a say in everyday life, but in bed I like to be dominated, manhandled, bossed around, and feeling at his merci. Getting tied up, some throat grabbing, slapping and face****ing helps. I fantasize about a relationship where my man would just interrupt me at work, tell me to get up, says no word otherwise, pulls my pants down, dumps his load in me without much tenderness, and walks out of the room. Wouldn't even mind wearing a maid's dress and walking on all fours at home. Or even handcuffed to a bed in a basement and only allowed out with him. If it weren't for diseases (in my fantasies they don't exist), I'd have to pleasure whomever he sends to my little dingy room. For a symbolically sad amount of money maybe. Protest is disregarded or punished by rougher treatment. BUT after a day of abuse I want to be held, cuddled and praised, like you do with a good subservient dog And have him get all my custom tailored fashion desires for me. Bring me sushi. And chocolate mousse. And call me his little girl. I like feeling "little". That includes being ****ed raw until his weight feels like a never ending blow with a train wagon. Though there would have to be limits that he'd respect. Like no scat or golden shower ick, no penetrating any flesh that has no natural holes in it, no ass to mouth,... It wouldn't be all rough, he'd reward my behavior with massages and enough cuddling During my previous job, I was once visited by a dom. He chained me to a cross where my toes barely touched the ground and I was mostly standing because I was propped up against that cross. He wipped me (didn't like that and left the whip at home ever since), choked me and I almost fainted and was having a dizzy spell while he ****ed me, and when he was done, I knew I should have charged him extra for the time and "procedures" he took the liberty of, but I felt bent to his authority and didn't ask. Instead, I eagerly agreed to have him drag me around BDSM swinger and gang bang events free of charge. Never happened though. Moral of the story is, the moment a man becomes sexually dominating, I feel this strange pressure in my head and tingle down there, and a sense of duty. Mind you, I don't like when it makes me feel cheerful. I prefer feeling resigned to a pair of bruised thighs. Though I enjoy most sexual encounters as long as I'm not supposed to play the dominatrice. I was asked a few times but failed miserably and felt ridiculous. I know I sound like a case of daddy abuse, but I'm not. I think it stems from my being spoiled and having more freedom than I could savour. In everyday life, I need to be strong and persistent because I'm usually on my own, but when it comes to sex, there's someone else to catch my fall and take care of motivating, penalizing or whatever it is that I need. And the rough handling also reminds me of the fun times I had as a kid when I would build forts in the woods, fight, jump off dunes, hold races etc., just that it's now combined with sex and I no longer dish out and hence, can wash my hands off reproach. 2
ThaWholigan Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 So according to the replies, there must be some balance in every day life between man and woman, although the man must have some kind of personal authority that doesn't make him a doormat or too passive. However, a sexually dominating man is very much in demand . 2
EasyHeart Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 However, a sexually dominating man is very much in demand .Yes. Yes, we are. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 (edited) In my experience those so called sexually dominant men are the ones that come to the kind of bars I go to looking for some hard ___k . Then they don't want to be so dominant in bed. Women are the ones who will throw me on the bed and suck/screw my brains out. In short, people tend to say one thing and want to enact another. I mean totally biologically standard and normative heterosexual people...at least in most ways do that. No one wants to partner with a doormat. No one wants to drag around dead weight. No one wants to have sex with someone who's about as interactive as a blow up doll. In particular allot of men want to be told how to do it right, not just that what they are doing isn't right. Get to know people for who they are instead of a stereotype of who they should be. Then these things work out. @pompom Then there are men who want to be dominated just like that. My proof, dominatrix's make money. Cest le vie. Edited October 14, 2012 by Mrlonelyone
Emilia Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Come on ladies. Weigh in. Even though women like to be independent they like a man who will take charge and even argue with them from time to time. I like confident men, not controlling ones 1
GravityMan Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I think there is a difference between a guy who knows when to take charge, and a guy who's an overall dominant man (i.e. someone who's always the aggressor and makes all the decisions). The former is confident; the latter is controlling. A good guy would know when to take charge, when to be her equal, and when to let her take the lead. I believe this helps demonstrate that he genuinely cares about her. And he would understand that each woman is different, and would be able to adapt accordingly (within reason). "Taking charge" can manifest itself in many different ways, ranging from the little things to the big. There's the obvious examples such as the bedroom. Other instances could be that he cooks dinner one evening after sensing that she's had a bad day at work, or he cleans the house and does the laundry and dishes just to help out & give her a break, or even just showing his humorous side in a timely fashion to make her smile and laugh. Or just, as a spur-of-the-moment decision, taking her out on the town one night. I could go on and on. This doesn't necessarily have to be limited to romantic relationships...this can apply in a lot of situations. Co-workers, friends, parents/family, sports teammates, etc. Most strong relationships have some degree of give and take. 2
nessaaa Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Its always entertaining how women like to cherry pick when women and men are "equal" or whatever. You want a man to be dominant when its convenient for you and passive when its convenient for you. Hope you were joking about the whole "guy in the passenger seat" comment. So what if I get on a bus, plane or train with a female operator? Hahahahah How do you figure? I think a man should play his role... Fix things, do hard physical things that a woman is not able to do, open the door for her, carry the greoceries in the house, clean the snow while Im inside making hot chocolate. Typical **** you know? Men these days don't even know how to fix things. OMG construction worker. So fiinnnnee.
nessaaa Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Whatever weak sauce. Why does a grown adult need to be led around like a child? Normally I don't point out people's poor grammar or spelling. Unless it's when their trying to insult my intelligence. Oh the irony. errr, I have no idea what you are talking about here at all. I can't see where I where I posted about someone needing a ride or me not picking someone up and how you got ass-wiping out of that I don't even....
Mrlonelyone Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 How do you figure? I think a man should play his role... Fix things, do hard physical things that a woman is not able to do, open the door for her, carry the greoceries in the house, clean the snow while Im inside making hot chocolate. Typical **** you know? Men these days don't even know how to fix things. OMG construction worker. So fiinnnnee. Really? So are you willing to play the analogous womans role? Stay home, be pregnant 1/2 the time, bring him a beer when he gets off work, stifle it when the tells you to, perhaps get beaten when he's had a few too many drinks? You know like back in the good old days. All in the Family TV Intro (70's) - YouTube Really?
nessaaa Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Really? So are you willing to play the analogous womans role? Stay home, be pregnant 1/2 the time, bring him a beer when he gets off work, stifle it when the tells you to, perhaps get beaten when he's had a few too many drinks? You know like back in the good old days. All in the Family TV Intro (70's) - YouTube Really? your being stupid. Stop being extreme. It doesn't have to be like that.
O'farrell Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 How do you figure? clean the snow while Im inside making hot chocolate. OMG construction worker. So fiinnnnee. What the hell.................................................... Who would agree to this?
O'farrell Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Men these days don't even know how to fix things. OMG construction worker. So fiinnnnee. In the old days it was tradition for men to teach their sons how to fix cars and stuff. My dad was a mechanic for years. Hes 65 and he tells me cars in the old days were simple and you could learn them fast. These days with the advancement of technology it isn't as easy.
Anela Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Extreme? You're the one who wants to have their cake and eat it. I. hate. that. saying. Why else would a person want cake??? Do you want to photograph it, read it a story? hold it in front of the nose of a starving person, and gloat? wtf? Is going out on a date, and expecting sex at the end of it, having your cake and eating it, too??? Well, then, you guys are extremely guilty of that yourselves.
O'farrell Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I. hate. that. saying. Why else would a person want cake??? Do you want to photograph it, read it a story? hold it in front of the nose of a starving person, and gloat? wtf? Is going out on a date, and expecting sex at the end of it, having your cake and eating it, too??? Well, then, you guys are extremely guilty of that yourselves. Then its only fair for us to want a hot wife who cooks, cleans, serves us beer, and doesn't mind the sports on TV 24/7. And sex is up to us. I just added frosting to that cake
Anela Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Pisses me off also. When they told me to pick I would just drive to Chili's or Wild Wings & sit in the bar. EVERY TIME. Plenty of beer & TV's so I don't have to see her pout. They either learned to act like an adult & make decisions or they faded away. That actually doesn't sound so bad if you're just meeting up. Although, you now have me thinking about what I could choose, to get back at anyone who tried to teach me a lesson that way... I can be an adult, and pick a place to go. No problemo...
maybealone Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I'll get out of the car in freezing weather to fill up the tank because im a man only if you wash my clothes and cook my dinner because you're a woman. In a healthy relationship, one will fill the tank and the other will cook dinner -- not because of some predetermined gender roles or some misguided sense of equality, but because they genuinely like each other and want to do nice things for each other. I just need a girl who will also can be a little dominant herself, occasionally. A little submissiveness goes a long way and always ends up with me getting uber-aggressive and dominant, with a corrective sort of mentality good boy I think a man should play his role... Fix things, do hard physical things that a woman is not able to do, open the door for her, carry the greoceries in the house, clean the snow while Im inside making hot chocolate. Typical **** you know? Men these days don't even know how to fix things. My dad taught me how to fix just about anything. Because of that, I will never need a man around, but I always want a man around. Big difference. More fun this way.
phineas Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Whatever weak sauce. I see how letting a man do your thinking for you has served you well.
phineas Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 That actually doesn't sound so bad if you're just meeting up. Although, you now have me thinking about what I could choose, to get back at anyone who tried to teach me a lesson that way... I can be an adult, and pick a place to go. No problemo... No, these were women I was actually dating. They couldn't be bothered to think of a place to eat yet didn't like any place I picked so I just took e'm where I wanted to go. They didn't like it? tough. Learn to pick. It seriously 100% is like dealing with my children. LOL! For women who i am meeting for the first time there is an extra element in the place picked that has to with their feelings of safety so I try to figure out someplace familiar to them. 1
maybealone Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 Like I said: You want a man to be dominant when its convenient for you and passive when its convenient for you. Just admit it. No. I stand by my original post that I do not like passive men. If you would like to post your definition of passive, I will comment on whether or not our definitions differ.
nessaaa Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 I see how letting a man do your thinking for you has served you well. You know what. You're a moron. Go take care of your kids, go fix something, or go sex your woman instead of of being on the fourms you 41 yr old loser.
nessaaa Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Well, that's fine as long as the woman plays her "role" too. So what are you doing on the Internet? Shouldn't you be in the kitchen? I don't have a man or kids to take care... So not really
nessaaa Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 If you were playing your "role" as a woman you would have kids by now. Why don't you have kids? Why aren't you dating someone? Get it together sister. Because men don't know how to men anymore. Afraid of getting their nails dirty. And I'm not trying to play a role. Pretty sure it's a womans natural instinct to wanna be in the kitchen to cook and take care of the family, it's call being nuturing. Quit with all this role bull**** you're getting very annoying let me get this striaght.. It's normal for woman not to be cooking these days?
nessaaa Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 You want me to quit with the role bull***? Guess what? I'm a man! You don't tell me what to do.. I tell YOU what to do! Lmaaaoooooooooo u need to stop. I never SAID I like that kind of dominance!
samsungxoxo Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Come on ladies. Weigh in. Even though women like to be independent they like a man who will take charge and even argue with them from time to time.At the age of 25, I have no patience for drama nor any type of BS. By now I would send him to hell faster than in my younger years. What it would be helpful is they both share what areas we're stronger at. For instance I know nothing about cars nor fixing a computer but if the man knows then it's a place or he might be clueless balancing bills and since that relates to what I'm studying currently then I can help out too. But to just have to man dominant everything... NO THANKS. I want to share my part in the relationship too. Argument as in constant yelling and more drama? No thanks, I don't have time for that. I think that you meant if discussions in which we share our point of views and different ideas that way it might be used as an additional significant information. If it's a helpful suggestion sure why not!!
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