frederickkk Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 the only reason i keep going, is because i will not meet someone like her, ever again. and im talking from 2 previous long term relationships, an 2 years of being single.
geegirl Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 the only reason i keep going, is because i will not meet someone like her, ever again. and im talking from 2 previous long term relationships, an 2 years of being single. You're 25. Come talk to me when you are 50 and gained some life lessons and experienced living outside of your bubble. It's utter BS when you come on here and talk about how the world has ended because you failed at 2 long term Rs and being single for 2 years. If that's the delusion you choose to live in, then live it. Limit yourself and settle for a woman that manipulated and disrespected you just because you're so sure that life has nothing more to offer you at 25. 2
KatZee Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 the only reason i keep going, is because i will not meet someone like her, ever again. and im talking from 2 previous long term relationships, an 2 years of being single. With this mentality, you damn straight you won't meet anyone like her. And I agree with the extreme denial/mentally unstable comment GeeGirl wrote. Who are you to say she'll regret it? I'm sure loads of people told my ex that but I never regretted a thing. I ended it and moved on and never looked back. I didn't want to be with him. What's so hard to understand about that? She's not feeling it so just chill or you're going to be slapped with a restraining order. That's just sick in my opinion. I've been in 4 long term relationships, have lost two true loves, and there's no stopping me. I'm going to find something even bigger and better. I'm 28 and I most certainly will find love again. I would feel like the biggest idiot alive if I continued chasing my most recent ex. Why would I or you want to be with someone who doesn't even want you? MAN UP.
frederickkk Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Sorry guys, but I know deep down, she is in love with me, but doesnt a want a relationship. thats all it is. i will feel the same in ten years. im certainly not in a bubble. i could go travelling now, for a year, return, and still feel the same.
KatZee Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Sorry guys, but I know deep down, she is in love with me, but doesnt a want a relationship. Stop making excuses. She may care about you but she most certainly isn't "in love" with you. People who are "In love" with their partners, don't dump them. TRUTH. They will be scared as hell at the chance of losing them to someone else. TRUTH. i will feel the same in ten years. No. You won't. In 10 years you're going to look back and feel one of two things. 1. Regret for wasting time on someone that doesn't give a s.hit. 2. Embarrassment for making yourself a doormat. 1
frederickkk Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 i go cold turkey for a week. we sleep together. i dissappear off the radar again for a week. we are kissing and talking. no contact works at bringing her back each time
geegirl Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 Sorry guys, but I know deep down, she is in love with me, but doesnt a want a relationship. thats all it is. i will feel the same in ten years. im certainly not in a bubble. i could go travelling now, for a year, return, and still feel the same. When someone is in love with you, they don't feel the need to bump and grind another. Just the thought of it will be revolting because you are at the forefront, in their heart and mind. That is when you are in love with someone. When she wants to bump and grind, and when she is bumping and grinding, you are vacant from her mind. Those are not the actions of someone being in love with you. When someone does not want a relationship with you, it means they do not have the capacity to want an emotional bond with you. They may still want to have sex with you, but sex is not love. Love is beyond sex and all that's superficial. Love is loyalty, devotion, empathy, compassion, trust, honesty...values that you want to share with each other. Nourishing each other. Keeping each other secure and safe within A RELATIONSHIP. What do you have with her? Nothing. No relationship. Sex and kissing. Back and forth games. Sex. Sex. Mind games. Manipulation. Deception. Disrespect. Love? Nope.
geegirl Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 i go cold turkey for a week. we sleep together. i dissappear off the radar again for a week. we are kissing and talking. no contact works at bringing her back each time NC brings her back for some kissing and talking. Yep. Low standards and expectations. Nothing more. Speaks of your low self-esteem. You'll take anything, actually, nothing and magnify it into something. At the end of the day, you still haven't gained anything since you started posting on LS in August. Nothing to show for but some kissing and talking. Same BS different day.
frederickkk Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 when she wanted to move on, i denied her sex flat out. i was then offered it a second time, and i tried it to see if it would change anything.
frederickkk Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 all these games are simply because she cant let go.
geegirl Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 (edited) Well, you tried sex again and nothing happened. You're still here spouting the same story. Sex does not change anything. It's just sex. She can't let go? YOU can't let go. She's not on here lamenting and moaning. She wants to have sex with others just as she does with you. You're not an exception. You are the rule. You're the one struggling since August. And if she's "gaming" you, then you're the sad puppet that is being played. I'm sorry OP for thread jacking your post. Will refrain from responding to any additional posts from Fred. Edited October 15, 2012 by geegirl
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