zanesfan Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 My best male friend is 37, Im 29. We date for 2 1/2 years back when I was in high school and some college. I eventually left him because he said he didnt see a future with us. So I got married, had a child, and then divorced my husband. I was still in love with my male bf the whole time and he was still in love with me. He came to visit for a week during my separation and I realized it was best for us to remain friends. Through everything he still stood by my side, and I love him for that. Fast forward 5 years later. I went home last weekend and we linked up. It was like old times. We even stayed together that night (no sex). I realized that maybe we do have a chance to start over again. He knows everything about me. I can go to him with anything. But we argue a lot. I told him that I didnt want to argue with him and that he didnt have to raise his voice or curse at me. He said I was being to sensitive. What is wrong with that? He said I needed to change and there was nothing about him to change. I am beyond frustrated to the point I am rethinking our friendship. He gets mad because I quickly get defensive but thats only because of his cruel delivery. Is there any chance of us getting over this hurdle or are we just meant to remain friends?
january2011 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 From your OP, it sounds like he's putting it all on you and he's blameless. Until he accepts some responsibility for your (non-)relationship, I don't think you're going to get anywhere. You've tried quite a few times to make it work and it has come to nothing. Perhaps it's time to move on and get on with your life rather than let this relationship continue to define you and hold you back. I'd also suggest that he's not your "best" anything. Just because you have shared history, doesn't mean that you're good for each other.
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