Necromancer Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Really, I have been asked at bars and the few times i have always said "no". There are many who just want to get the drink for free, So always decline and you will always win. She can just buy it herself. The only expectations are GF or a gal i would be dating the rest get "no". Period. 1
carhill Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Because some other guy will and it's a competition with a lot of unknowns.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 You mean women you just met at the bar ASK you to get a drink for them??? WTF. That's just crazy. I respect myself too much to ask anyone to get me a drink. I've had men offer to buy me a drink and have always said, no thanks, I can get it myself.
carhill Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Most women don't ask directly but rather create the environment conducive to the offer. Body language, tone of voice and an empty bottle/glass help
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I met my boyfriend at a bar (not a night club bar type setting - it was a weekday, early evening and I was there watching a sporting event with my friend). He and his friend sat next to myself and my friend at the bar (it was crowded so there weren't a ton of options) and over the course of the night we began to chat. I continued to order my own beers on my own tab all night. At some point, after we had been chatting for a while, he asked the bartender to put my beers on his tab. I thought that was kind of a nice way of doing it. It was clear that we liked each other and had been having a nice time so he wanted to buy my drinks for me...but if I had shut him down and not engaged him in conversation, he never would have bought me anything, no harm no foul to him.
yongyong Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 You buy girls drinks. she will enjoy the night with her friends. At the end, she will call up her FWB and go to his house to get laid. Buying drinks doesn't increase the chance of getting pussy. 2
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I also agree with a previous poster that I would never, ever, ever ever EVER actually ASK a man at a bar to buy me a drink! How tacky. Classless. 2
Author Necromancer Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 You buy girls drinks. she will enjoy the night with her friends. At the end, she will call up her FWB and go to his house to get laid. Buying drinks doesn't increase the chance of getting pussy. Yep, pretty much. I just don´t get guys who do that....
Author Necromancer Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 Because some other guy will and it's a competition with a lot of unknowns. I´m glad i am not one of those guys.
AlexDP Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Really, I have been asked at bars and the few times i have always said "no". There are many who just want to get the drink for free, So always decline and you will always win. She can just buy it herself. The only expectations are GF or a gal i would be dating the rest get "no". Period. I have never bought a girl I didn't know a drink.. It just seems weird to me.
truth_seeker Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I've done this once and I got some play out of it. The girl did also insist on paying half of the bill. So she was an exception. Generally though, I am not one to buy drinks for anyone unless they buy me a round.
BS76 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Most women don't ask directly but rather create the environment conducive to the offer. Body language, tone of voice and an empty bottle/glass help Believe it or not, more than a few women will go out with no money and expect guys to buy their drinks all night and pay for their cab home. This is why Rule 1 in the pickup community is for guys to NOT buy women drinks, so to prevent them from being taken advantage of and to stop coming across as just another guy wanting to get into her panties. When women ask you to buy them a drink, tell them no or play it off with something like the following: "I only buy drinks for friends and family. Tell you what, you buy this round and I'll get the next one."
BS76 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 You buy girls drinks. she will enjoy the night with her friends. At the end, she will call up her FWB and go to his house to get laid. Buying drinks doesn't increase the chance of getting pussy. Yup. Normal guys are beta as hell and don't know how the world works these days. Sad to say it, but my dating class is full of these types.
bac Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 She can just buy it herself. The only expectations are GF or a gal i would be dating the rest get "no". Period. She certainly can buy it herself and she can save her money drinking it at her place as well. But, she goes to a bar to find a male to get laid. If your expectations are to buy drinks only to your GF, you should have similar expectations about getting laid with only your GF. Let the girl at the bar know that, first, you want her to become your GF and, only after that, you will buy her drinks and have sex with her.
sydneysider1978 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 For me, being bought a drink is a nice, old fahioned, part of the dating game. I take it as massive compliment but I'll generally only accept if we've been talking already and I feel like I like and feel comfortable with the guy. I'll usually end up buying him a drink back if we continue to chat. I don't like feeling like I owe anyone anything. And buying me. $5 drink certainly doesn't mean you're getting lucky. It's all just part of the male / female game. Tough cheese, either play it with grace or don't... If you are whining about the money you spend and not getting lucky, go see a professional 1
NoMoreJerks Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Really, I have been asked at bars and the few times i have always said "no". There are many who just want to get the drink for free, So always decline and you will always win. She can just buy it herself. The only expectations are GF or a gal i would be dating the rest get "no". Period. It really depends on how he comes off. If he just pops out of the blue, introduces himself, and offers to buy a drink (as some guy did to me at the bar the other day), it's a turn-off for me because it indicates he's really interested in sex, because he seems to be "rushing" the whole process. I flat out refuse to have anyone buy me a drink in such a circumstance. Talk to me for an hour or two, then offer to buy me a drink at a convenient time during a break in the conversation, and I will probably not reject it. I might say, oh, it's alright, thank you, I'll get one for myself, but I might also say, oh, thank you, and accept it (depends). I usually feel uncomfortable accepting drinks or anything else from anyone (including female friends), but I might make an exception depending on body language, how the conversation is going, how comfortable I feel around him at that point, etc. But of course, if I'm going to be drinking more, the next drink that I get for myself, I will pay for it myself, and not accept that he get another one for me. It just gets to be too much IMO if I allow a guy to buy me more than 1 drink. It borders on the abuse, even if he might be willing to do it out of "chivalry." I might actually offer to buy him a drink after he gets me one. I hate the feeling of "owing" anyone anything.
RogerWallace111 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 buying a drink for a woman you don't know who asks you to = wack buying a drink for a woman you don't know right off the bat, in an attempt to win her over = wack buying a drink for a girl you know, have been gettin freaky on the dancefloor with, or have been talking to for a spell and are feeling some fledgling chemistry with = perfectly legit 1
RogerWallace111 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 it doesn't have to be trying to get laid, show off, etc. it can just be an acknowledgment that you're enjoying her company, or a kind of flirtatious gesture. not hugely different from when youre having a great time with a friend, laughin it up, and buy him a beer with a kind of "damn I love you man, great to be hanging with you again !" sentiment. just bromantic vs romantic 1
youngrichlatino Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Really, I have been asked at bars and the few times i have always said "no". There are many who just want to get the drink for free, So always decline and you will always win. She can just buy it herself. The only expectations are GF or a gal i would be dating the rest get "no". Period. Because most men are stupid. They think that if they buy them drinks they will get laid.
Oxy Moronovich Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 You buy girls drinks. she will enjoy the night with her friends. At the end, she will call up her FWB and go to his house to get laid. Buying drinks doesn't increase the chance of getting pussy. Yep. And these women end up going home with dudes who don't buy them drinks. In fact, sometimes these women end up going to bars after they've banged that dude who didn't buy them a drink. I've been that dude. buying a drink for a woman you don't know who asks you to = wack buying a drink for a woman you don't know right off the bat, in an attempt to win her over = wack buying a drink for a girl you know, have been gettin freaky on the dancefloor with, or have been talking to for a spell and are feeling some fledgling chemistry with = wack I fixed the last sentence for you. If she's already been getting freaky with you and talking to you, there's no need to buy her a drink. You've already won her over. I buy drinks all the time. I do it for women, men, family, coworkers, my mother, whomever. It is no big deal to buy someone a drink. Why the fuzz? So if a group of strangers walked up to you at the bar and wanted you to buy them the most expensive drinks on the menu, you'd say, "Sure. What's the fuzz?"
threebyfate Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Why do men buy a drink for a woman? Because women deserve the drink, just for being women. So obvious.
Oxy Moronovich Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I've said it before and I'll say it again. You, Pierre, are a CLASS ACT. That's the difference between you and the rest. Yes, Pierre's racism and beta-male personality truly clashes with my own.
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