a.b Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I woke up this morning, and I completely forgot that me and my girlfriend had broke up 2 weeks ago. I know it sounds crazy, but I really did. I got my phone, typed a good morning message to her and I was about to hit send when it hit me. Now I feel like I've been knocked back when it felt like I was doing so well. Imagine had I sent that text, I would never have been able to explain that.
dreamstate83 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I don't buy it! It's ok to have relapses though as long as you stop yourself in time
Author a.b Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 I don't buy it! It's ok to have relapses though as long as you stop yourself in time There is nothing to 'buy' it's what happened. There is nothing to gain from lying to a bunch of strangers on the internet.
dreamstate83 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Maybe you just need more sleep if you wake up thinking you are still together then!
Author a.b Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 This is why I haven't told anyone of my friends, cause they will all think i'm crazy or lying.
dreamstate83 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Alright well I'll play with the hypothetical. Let's say that you really did completely forget you were broken up until just before sending the message. It's good you caught yourself in time. Sending a message like that, especially with you still being connected to this person emotionally, would completely wreck your train to recovery. It would have gone like this: -Send message. -Wait, constantly refreshing for message to be responded to. -When it's finally responded, it's not what you wanted. -You are back to day one of the break up all over again. Stay strong and keep on truckin' 1
veggirl Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Understandable. I reach for my phone to text my ex occasionally, when it's a situation where I normally would text him. Sucks.
Author a.b Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 Understandable. I reach for my phone to text my ex occasionally, when it's a situation where I normally would text him. Sucks. Thank you, for not thinking i'm crazy.
Chi townD Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 You're not crazy. It was a habitual response. If it was something that you used to do, then it's an automatic response. Somthing that you always did. Now, you have to break that old habit. And I wouldn't worry about it too much. Especially when you first wake up. You're not awake yet and you're on auto-pilot. 1
Author a.b Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 You're not crazy. It was a habitual response. If it was something that you used to do, then it's an automatic response. Somthing that you always did. Now, you have to break that old habit. And I wouldn't worry about it too much. Especially when you first wake up. You're not awake yet and you're on auto-pilot. That makes sense! I think i'll be better served not keeping my phone next to me when I sleep, that way I have to get up before getting my phone.
SadPanda22 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 You're not crazy, I have done the same thing myself. At the time my ex and I had only been broken up a couple of weeks. Something crazy happened at my work while I was on break (when we were together I always called him on my break, it was a habit that I had for years) and I was like, "Oh wow, I need to call ****** and tell him about this!" As I reached for my phone I remembered that I couldn't call ****** because we were no longer together. It was such a weird feeling.
veggirl Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 You're not crazy, I found myself doing it at work. Whenever something funny happened I would reach for my phone to text him. I still check my phone a lottt to see if I missed a text, out of habit, and that's really annoying.
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