kaylan Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 (edited) So I met this girl at my friend A's birthday party a few weeks back. A is a good friend of mine that I made in college almost 2 years ago. He goes to my alma mater and is finishing up, so I still visit him, and hes actually living in my old house from when I was in school. Anyways, I met this girl at his party, and shes pretty chill and we got to know one another. We actually have a mutual friend and she knew of me before hand because she used to see me around campus...and apparently we might of had a class together but I didnt recall that part. So during the party I was flirting with the idea of maybe taking a liking to her, but I noticed A's friend B had previously been talking to her so I backed off. I reckoned he met her during a prior visit. B is A's high school friend from their hometown. B is cool, but we are only acquaintances, and have only chilled a handful of times when A has organized bigger hangouts. So I was talking to the girl a couple weeks back online, and I mention something about A...so she messages him to make fun of him and then he messages me. He goofs on me, and then tells me "hey dude, find your own girl, thats B's booty". To which I replied "Um dude...we have a mutual friend, Im just networking...besides have they even done it?" And he replies "yeah they have had a thing going since early summer". So I made a note of that, and was just gonna leave it be, and make friends with her since she added me, and since we have a mutual friend. It never hurts to have more chick friends to network. Anyways, we talked a bit more, and I started taking a liking to her, and the subject of boys came up and she mentioned how her and B dont even really talk and how thats gone down the tubes. Which brings me to this weekend. Its my birthday weekend, so Im going to my old place to hang out with A, an old housemate of mine, and other friends. I told the girl she should come chill and hang with everyone, and told her to bring our mutual chick friend as well since I havent seen her in a while. And she actually invited me to hangout with her at the bar earlier this week but I couldnt go...so while our convos have been generally just friendly, Im assuming we both recognize an undercurrent of intentions. My problem is that Im not sure how A would feel about this. In my eyes, B isnt hooking up with her anymore (according to the girl). Also, B isnt my friend, and merely an acquaintance Ive met a few times. We never talk or hang unless its been with A. But Im sure A doesnt want to deal with 2 good friends going after the same girl. Then again, Im not even sure if B is still going after her. I have to check with A to make sure B and her are done like she says. Either way, I dont think he can tell me its not cool to go after her. If B was my friend, Id surely back off....because thats bro code....however I dont really know the guy at all. Thoughts? Edited October 12, 2012 by kaylan
KraftDinner Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I'd say she's fair game. You aren't friends with B. But if you think it'd cause a conflict with A...then it's touchy. Was he joking when he said she was 'B's booty'?
Author kaylan Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 Nah he wasnt joking. He was letting me know they had a thing. But like I said, according to her, they arent hooking up now, nor are they speaking to each other at the moment.
phineas Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Find out what's really going on from A. If he's your friend & her friend & B is out of the picture he shouldn't have problem with getting you two together.
veggirl Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I would ask A about it again. Tell him that you've been talking to the girl and she said it's over and done with B. Beyond that, I wouldn't worry about it, she can make her own decision and you don't owe B anything...she's not off limits. eta: HAPPY EARLY BDAY!
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