ziggue Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Why would a guy go out of his way to make you like him, still keep making you think he likes you and then pulls out when you say you don't want a friends with benefits thing. It is just not fair. Especially when he does not properly respond to you when you promptly tell him a month into it that you are not up for casual. In response to that I got "I will see where it goes" just can't believe I still let that go on for another month and a half. He just should have been more upfront with me to begin with. Know now to question that answer more next time.
Chocolatebox Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 He's such a jerk! Believe me,don't lose your precious time with people that don't respect your wishes and they try and try to get you to bed even though you told them you don't want to! I would say to tell him to go fuq himself,but it's no use. Just ignore him and don't feed his ego. Find someone who's really interested in a serious relationship 2
SmileFace Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 How was he no up front when he pulled out when you expressed that you wanted a relationship? Stop playing the victim here. He is not into - you went back. You see that you can't change him, so move on.
todreaminblue Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Why would a guy go out of his way to make you like him, still keep making you think he likes you and then pulls out when you say you don't want a friends with benefits thing. It is just not fair. Especially when he does not properly respond to you when you promptly tell him a month into it that you are not up for casual. In response to that I got "I will see where it goes" just can't believe I still let that go on for another month and a half. He just should have been more upfront with me to begin with. Know now to question that answer more next time. No its not fair he should have told you up front what he wanted from a relationship this is the part that might sting a bit so i hug ya while saying it you should have made it clear( you are responsible in finding out where you stand) and found out before you invested any more time into the relationship that wasn't on the cards.....when i get involved in a relationship for starters i let them know i am exclusive from the start....i get laughed at with what i expect now....because i have five kids and am unmarried....i dont want a fwb situation....my best friend laughs at me when i tell her i wont be having sex again unless i am married.....she cracks up but sex to me is part of a committed relationship she knows i get hit on so she thinks ill cave probably..i will not..i have made mistakes and been engaged to be married twice.....twice it hasnt worked due to cheating....it shouldnt honestly be sex...it should be making love....and you cant make love if someone doesnt love you to begin with and if they do love you....they are willing to wait...having sex isnt love or being in love....making love is phenomenal but only when it is right......so good on you for sticking to your values....dont drop them stay true.....best wishes.....deb
Leigh 87 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 If he was that good of a catch, and had a good enough personality and was attractive enough and exuded the rigth vibe: he would not need to string women along. if he wants casual and was good enough to attract enough women, he could have simply found plenty of women who wanted the same thing. But no, he found you, saw you as an easy target, and rather then respect your wishes, he knowingl hurt you, and did not care about your feelings because he is inconsiderate. And more tellingly; he cannot go out to find girls who he can be totally upfront with, because he is either too lazy to find a girl he WONT hurt, or he cannot pull enough chicks TO have enough options for a casual arrangement. Either way, he is a jerk who does not care about you feelings, and is not that great of a catch anyway. 3
Author ziggue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 SmileFace The first time I had mentioned anything along relationship lines. He just gave me the answer saying, "I will see how it goes" I did not question him about it and assumed he wanted to take things slow so I stuck around. At least now I know to be more upfront next time. Not playing the victim I am just hurt. But at least now was strong enough to walk away after hearing for sure that a relationship was not what he wanted. He just should have told me when I first mentioned it and keep wondering why he did not...
Author ziggue Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 (edited) Leigh 87 Food for thought there! Showed him though that I was not the easy target he thought I was in the end. Would explain why he is still single. LoL. Edited October 12, 2012 by ziggue
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