Themrandres Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Simple question.. Do people really get back together after a breakup. It seems like everytime people ask questions about how to get back together sombody just tells you to give up and it won't happen. But like you always hear stories about it and half the songs on the radio are about it. Is getting back together real or is it just in the movies.
Clarice Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Yes they do! All the negative people on here really wind me up! I am speaking from personal experience
robaday Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Ive got back together with every person Ive had a break up! Not saying this is true in all cases by any stretch, but yeah it happens a lot. Id say most couples have had at least one break up.
thembones Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I know a few people who have split and gotten back together. I do not see that happening in my case, but unfortunately stuff like that gives us false hope. So you nor I should really really not even think about it, continue NC and really focus on moving on. You are not really trying to move on if you want it to work. Trust me, you are just hurting yourself BADLY. I did it for a month, looking at my phone every night and getting sad because no text was received. It is not fair to us to do that ****. Sure it might be possible, but if you bet on that you will never experience life as you should. You will just be a shell of a person. 1
Mr Scorpio Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Simple question.. Do people really get back together after a breakup. I got back together with my ex after the breakup. Then I got dumped again. Be careful what you wish for. 4
Author Themrandres Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 Like I'm not saying that i just wanna hear "don't worry u always get back together" but I don't wanna constantly have people tell me there's no chance and no point just because it didn't work out for them. Like I'd rather hear 50/50 chances!lol
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 Like I'm not saying that i just wanna hear "don't worry u always get back together" but I don't wanna constantly have people tell me there's no chance and no point just because it didn't work out for them. Like I'd rather hear 50/50 chances!lol There is always a chance, however it is out if your hands right now. I'm in the same boat, however you can't convince them to come back. Even if you did convince them how confident would you be, you'd be on egg shells the entire time. Free will, let them go, they might come back, they might not.
Beth_81 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I recently reconciled with my boyfriend following a split. I was certain that he was the one for me (still am) and was relentless in my actions to make him see it too. Things between us are now better than ever!!! So my advice would be to give your ex time to gather their thoughts, before approaching the subject of 'us'. If its meant to be, it will. But most importantly if you are given a second chance, please learn from why you broke up in the first place.
Author Themrandres Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 Yeah like I don't want to just hear sombody say theres a chance and then just only rely on that, but I'd rather just go with the flow doing what's best for me and letting the cards fall where they may, knowing it could go ether way.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 Simple question.. Do people really get back together after a breakup. It seems like everytime people ask questions about how to get back together sombody just tells you to give up and it won't happen. But like you always hear stories about it and half the songs on the radio are about it. Is getting back together real or is it just in the movies. We got back together, but it only lasted about a week... I don't regret trying/ giving him a second chance, but... it was not a good idea... made me feel like crap. Maybe in the short run some people will be able to get their ex'es back, but I am not so sure what that says about the relationship in the long-run.. A break-up doesn't happen out of the blue, for no reason whatsoever..
Danb32 Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 So all these people that DO get back together.... how? Surly all this NC, get over them, leave them, move on isn't the way they did? I find it annoying how this section of the forum is 'Second chances' yet everyone still says 'no, shes/he's not coming back, move on, go NC' 1
Mrlonelyone Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 So all these people that DO get back together.... how? Surly all this NC, get over them, leave them, move on isn't the way they did? I find it annoying how this section of the forum is 'Second chances' yet everyone still says 'no, shes/he's not coming back, move on, go NC' Yes it is annoying. One time I got back together with an ex after a couple years of NC by knocking on their door. They were single, so was I. The key is we didn't break up because our relationship had gone bad. There were always external circumstances at work. That seems to be the recipie for a good second chance. A long time with NC. Dating other people. Realizing just how good what you had was, and one person having the guts to take the risk of rejection and reach out.
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 . That seems to be the recipie for a good second chance. A long time with NC. Dating other people. Realizing just how good what you had was, and one person having the guts to take the risk of rejection and reach out. Kinda off subject but I do and don't want her back. I miss her badly because there is a hole in my heart/life, however she left me/she quit us and that will leave lasting scars. Back on subject, I'm in a bad spot for reconciliation. I'd take her back soon but the longer she waits the more I think of the bad, the more I move on, the more I remember how she behaved afterwards. She drunk texted me last night that I'm an amazing man, she misses my passion, my love for her, misses being held by me. Her sober self better realize that soon because I'm moving on fast.
zoomzoom Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I would say the best thing to do is just think and tell yourself it's not going to happen. You can't hope and bank on it because the odds are not in your favor at all... It's up to her to make that attempt and be clear about it and by the time that happens if it does, you may not feel the same way:cool:
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