Gravity Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Hey guys, just thought i would open the board to more discussion. I would like to know what the general feeling is on good guys. Are girls attracted to them, are they hopeless in love or if you have any stories or advice please feel free to share it.
Fayebelle Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 I love him- he is wonderful to me- we're gonna get married- have kids and be disgustingly happy forever. OK- that's not guaranteed but it's an awful lot easier to imagine when you have a nice guy.
Curt Posted July 28, 2004 Moderators Posted July 28, 2004 This are threads that might be of interest... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t22058/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t39184/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t38778/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t28739/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t20683/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t19415/ Some good crap there.
dudesomewhere Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 the answer truthfully...and in general...meaning majoritiveily...ad nasuem is yes...nice guys do really come last. Some women don't want you to think that...though I don't know why hehe...I'm content to finish last. It is in my nature...some nice guys don't want to finish last so they funk themselves up, either by torturing themselves mentally or becoming the jerk. Of course when the become the jerk they then finish first
mronederful Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 who cares? women don't want nice guys, they want guys who treat them bad and spray it on thier face
lissab113 Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 nice guys only finish last before a certain age....around 25 the bad boy thing should wear off and they'll be flocking to you
Vampyre Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 I've been told I am a nice and sweet guy and girls are not knocking down my door
xeon124 Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Originally posted by mronederful who cares? women don't want nice guys, they want guys who treat them bad and spray it on thier face Nice guys finish last because they look for girls in the wrong place. If you are a nice guy, you would pick up chicks at a place like, Church... you might have to wait for sex until marriage, but you will probably be getting a good girl who respects nice guys. You don't need to be going after club ho's, or sluts, these are bad girls and they deserve the bad guys they end up with. Nice guys finish first in church
lioness Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Originally posted by dudesomewhere hehe...I'm content to finish last. It is in my nature...some nice guys don't want to finish last so they funk themselves up, either by torturing themselves mentally or becoming the jerk. Of course when the become the jerk they then finish first Some women save the best for last. Nice guys are great. Besides, every woman has to figure out on her own that the "bad" boys are jerks.
fundamental Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 ***Some women save the best for last. Nice guys are great. Besides, every woman has to figure out on her own that the "bad" boys are jerks.*** By the time she figures it out, why would any decent guy want her???? LOL... it's too late, it's too late. Seriously, women like nice guys, women dislike weak guys.
white_angelbreath Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 (giggle) yep, nice guys finish last.. Years ago, I was young, wild and reckless. I had fun with guys who are short of being called "nice guys." I was attracted to them, for one thing, there being different. But it took me quite sometime to realize they're not so different from other men at all. They're still men like all other men. Maybe I just got bored of them. There is really a stage in life that you want to settle down with the man of your dreams. If I want to settle with a single man in my life for all eternity, definitely he should be a nice guy, who shall respect me the way I want to be respected and treated. Bad boys are headaches. I want happiness, peace and prosperity in my life and I believe nice guys are good in giving these things that I want for my life. Bad boys only makes girls cry. No way I want to cry if ain't good for me!
Dork Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 Originally posted by fundamental ***Some women save the best for last. Nice guys are great. Besides, every woman has to figure out on her own that the "bad" boys are jerks.*** By the time she figures it out, why would any decent guy want her???? LOL... it's too late, it's too late. Seriously, women like nice guys, women dislike weak guys. I agree with fundamental and that a woman will choose a man that is "like" her. As in nerdy girl with nerdy boy. high maintainance girl with tough spend-monies guy.
ziggue Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 It's hard to tell if nice guys finish last. When I was on the dating scence I always thought 'all the nice guys were either taken or gay'. Lol. . Then again since there were no nice guys left it seemed. Most the time ended up with the bad boys. Been with some shockers. . After what seemed like forever finally found a nice guy. Aren't they the ones everyone wants to settle down with? .
johan Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 Fundamental is right. Nice is good. Weak is bad. Nice + strong = desirable. Nice + weak = wuss. A lot of times nice guys also come off as wimpy, probably because it's clear just how much they are willing to sell out for love. Like that curly-headed guy with glasses on Sex in the City.
dudesomewhere Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 take this how you will... I am nice, I am patient, I am understanding, I am very gentle but I am by no means weak...cross me the wrong way and I'll break you in half. And of course the wrong way is by harming someone...usually physically...but I know I might crack if someone I care for is verbally berated. So it's only a rare occassion that some moron is too macho for his ass when he sees a really buff guy standing there telling him to wise up...he keeps going ang going and then....Usually, people are wise enough not to want to get beaten up on purpose hell, I'm no push over, just my extreme patience, understanding and quiet decisions give that appearance.
Silas25 Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 I don't think that nice guys always finish last. It is just alot of women have to go through having atleast one jerk in there life until that nice guy comes along. Then they know what they actually have and can appreciate them for being a great guy. I have been there done that and now I have a really nice man that I want to keep aslong as possible...
birdstealingbread Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 It's hard for the nice guys, definitely. A lot of girls count on them for the emotional fulfillment we don't get from the jerks, but for some reason it's that very niceness that often knocks them out of the running when it comes to dating. The girl doesn't feel she needs to do anything else to keep him around because the nice guy is always there for her. So it can be quite a shock to realize that a nice guy is interested in you the same way the bad guy is, because you've always put him in this other category. This is my situation, and I only wish I had realized sooner! Like other posters have said, though...I really do think nice guys end up better off in the long run. Jerks only stick around so long. Girls grow up and get wise. Me, I'm glad I got the "bad boy" thing out of my system early on. (He's still a friend, but hey, he's a jerk.)
dudesomewhere Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 Originally posted by birdstealingbread It's hard for the nice guys, definitely. A lot of girls count on them for the emotional fulfillment we don't get from the jerks, but for some reason it's that very niceness that often knocks them out of the running when it comes to dating. The girl doesn't feel she needs to do anything else to keep him around because the nice guy is always there for her. So it can be quite a shock to realize that a nice guy is interested in you the same way the bad guy is, because you've always put him in this other category. This is my situation, and I only wish I had realized sooner! Like other posters have said, though...I really do think nice guys end up better off in the long run. Jerks only stick around so long. Girls grow up and get wise. Me, I'm glad I got the "bad boy" thing out of my system early on. (He's still a friend, but hey, he's a jerk.) So real...so honest, hehe. I'm so glad women are "professing" what's going on. So what's the real age women get done with jerks...some have said around 25...I'm thinking more along the lines of 45....hehe
amerikajin Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 It depends on what "nice" means. Women want a guy who is confident. They want to know that whatever problem they have in their lives, they will be with a partner strong and capable enough to help them out. They don't relish the thought of having to be a mother to her husband. They don't want to spend time trying to pick up their s.o.'s self esteem. They want the guy who can be strong enough to pick them up in a time of need. It's all about r-e-s-p-e-c-t. Women don't want a**h***s, but they don't want pussies either. They want a guy who's nice, but at the same time, someone who can be an a**h*** when he has to be. Jerks and pussies are two sides of the same coin. They're both insecure people, except that the jerk manifests his insecurity by trying to be manipulative and surly. By contrast, the weakling's insecurity results in submissive behavior. Now, between the jerk and the wuss, the girl will usually end up with the jerk. That's because the more submissive wuss man will allow a girl to come and go as she pleases; the jerk, by contrast, will do everything in his power to control his lover's life. In one situation, the girl dies of boredom and frustration at having to carry the load in the relationship and seeks out another relationship; in the other, a girl finds herself in a very dangerous situation and hopes to find a way out before it's too late. Women who are truly satisfied in their relationships usually seek out well-balanced men, and they are usually strong themselves.
sinner Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 I find self-proclaimed "nice guys" to be braggarts, pathetic and dishonest. The whole self-proclaimed "nice guy" schtick is simply one strategy in sexual competition. It's just another way to draw attention and pity to oneself in a desperate attempt to get laid. Self-proclaimed nice guys are worse than the "bad guys" because at least the "bad guys" are honest and upfront about their amorous intentions. Self-proclaimed "nice guys" manage to be both dishonest and pitiful.
wouldlikeaniceman Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 i really hope that its not true that nice guys come last because i am looking for somone right now to fall inlove and spend the rest of my life with. somone who loves kids but hopefully doesnt want anymore. i am having my last right now. would that be possible for me to find being so young and all?
ladyangel Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 Originally posted by sinner I find self-proclaimed "nice guys" to be braggarts, pathetic and dishonest. The whole self-proclaimed "nice guy" schtick is simply one strategy in sexual competition. It's just another way to draw attention and pity to oneself in a desperate attempt to get laid. Self-proclaimed nice guys are worse than the "bad guys" because at least the "bad guys" are honest and upfront about their amorous intentions. Self-proclaimed "nice guys" manage to be both dishonest and pitiful. Well, you'll never have to worry about finishing last, will you, Sinner?
Samson Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 Nice Guys? BAHHHHHHhhhhhhhh..........................[color=blue]Horse Apples[/color]! They are just as popular as "Good Girls." I'd rather have a Bad Girl.
wouldlikeaniceman Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 i dont really think of them as good guys. the kind of guy i am looking for that i consider a good guy is a nice guy that doesnt hit his woman or the kids. loves kids, likes the outdoors. loves to spend time with his wife or girlfriend. ok ok well some ppl might call them a good guy but i dont really see them that way.
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