Kmc1292 Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 I've been seeing this (Jewish) guy for over 2 months. Mind you I'm half Jewish. I met him online and we hit it off instantly. We went on dates had "sleepovers" and things were going pretty well. He owns his own business and has said he might need to move at some point. After about a month I asked him about getting serious. He was so cold and said I'm not looking for anything serious because you're not full Jewish and I might be moving. I still continue to see him. Is me not being totally Jewish and him might be moving just an excuse? I like him a lot am I crazy for still seeing him even though I know it can't go anywhere?
geegirl Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 (edited) I've been seeing this (Jewish) guy for over 2 months. Mind you I'm half Jewish. I met him online and we hit it off instantly. We went on dates had "sleepovers" and things were going pretty well. He owns his own business and has said he might need to move at some point. After about a month I asked him about getting serious. He was so cold and said I'm not looking for anything serious because you're not full Jewish and I might be moving. I still continue to see him. Is me not being totally Jewish and him might be moving just an excuse? I like him a lot am I crazy for still seeing him even though I know it can't go anywhere? Yes, you are "crazy" for seeing him when he tells you he is not looking for a relationship, when you are and when you know it is not going anywhere. You being half Jewish was not an issue when he met you. Him moving was not an issue when he met you. Now that you want more, it is an issue. Again, he was not looking for anything serious and that is why the moment you brought it up, his excuses came a flowing. Please have respect for yourself. You've just taught him that he can have whatever he wants from you even when he doesn't give you anything. And if you are sleeping with him, stop giving him the goodies when he has ZERO investment in you. Edited October 11, 2012 by geegirl 1
Author Kmc1292 Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 Yes, you are "crazy" for seeing him when he tells you he is not looking for a relationship, when you are and when you know it is not going anywhere. You being half Jewish was not an issue when he met you. Him moving was not an issue when he met you. Now that you want more, it is an issue. Again, he was not looking for anything serious and that is why the moment you brought it up, his excuses came a flowing. Please have respect for yourself. You've just taught him that he can have whatever he wants from you even when he doesn't give you anything. And if you are sleeping with him, stop giving him the goodies when he has ZERO investment in you. Thanks for the advice:)
kezB Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 religion can be very important to som people, so maybe he is a little upset that you don't share his religious views, but that doesn't mean u should go changing your believes. But if you do really like him maybe you should try having a serious talk to him about how you feel. But then again if he doesn't want a serious relationship now, that doesn't mean he wont be interested later, if that makes sense. Anyway that's what i would do if it were me. Hope i help...even a little. (also i don't mean to critics but how can you be half Jewish? how can someone be half of religion, it doesn't make any sense xD)
Balzac Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Being a Jew is cultural heritage and religious. It's heritage passed by mother to children. One can convert to religious Judaism. What one cannot do is pass heritage through the father. I believe that must be her reference to "half Jew".
Quest4_TheLost Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Yes its as simple as dump him.. When someone tells you I am not interested in a relationship.. You take it as just that. Do not wait hoping things will change. You will only end up hurting yourself. If you want to continue seeing him knowing that things won't change thats your call. But you will mostly get attached to him if your not already and you will still get hurt in the end.
Ami1uwant Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 I've been seeing this (Jewish) guy for over 2 months. Mind you I'm half Jewish. I met him online and we hit it off instantly. We went on dates had "sleepovers" and things were going pretty well. He owns his own business and has said he might need to move at some point. After about a month I asked him about getting serious. He was so cold and said I'm not looking for anything serious because you're not full Jewish and I might be moving. I still continue to see him. Is me not being totally Jewish and him might be moving just an excuse? I like him a lot am I crazy for still seeing him even though I know it can't go anywhere? This is nothing personal against you.... He basically told you that he sees no long term future with you because you are not 100% jewish. This is his preference and you need to respect that. This is one of those fundamental realtionship criteria that needs to be determined before it goes anywhere. Him potential moving is another huge factor. He could be moving for an entirely new job or a transfer to some place else with the same company. Do you want a LDR? Are you willing to move where he goes? Could these be excuses....sure....could he be making these things up...yes....but from what you said I dont believe these are just lines he said. Either way...why bother wasting your time iin this?
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