ARR Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 hi all this is my first post here and really want to hear what y'all think. me and my ex of 3 years broke up about 5 months ago(she left) it was a real bad 3 years a lot of fighting due to her inability to handle criticism and having anger issues. the relationship was a big mess and still i loved her to dead i would have taken a bullet for her.She left and broke it off with me as many times before the only difference is this time i didnt fight for it or try to talk her out of it as all the other times.after she begged me to take her back and i constantly told her no not now i want to see first that you are trying to change.she didnt accept that and slept with someone else later found out for her self it was a mistake and tried to correct it again with me but offcourse it was quite difficult for me to accept.lately she really has been making an effort to change and it is looking good but i'm not to sure yet. the problem is meanwhile i've gotten to know someone else and that has moved verry fast when it should not have. the new girl is a reall knock out but there have been somethings that make me say HMMMMMM i did catch her telling a lie to me anbout some other guy that was calling her and it really boosted my not trusting her. if i anylize it i should leave them both behind and be on my own but i cant and i really want to believe my ex will be a bettr woman but am still uncertain. the words that touched me the most was when she told me "if we hung on 3 years with all my bad habbits imagine what we can do when i actually make an effort and do thing right this time around" I REALLY NEED SOME ADVISE this situation is killing me
WhatYouWantToHear Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Here's my advice: Be alone for a while. That doesn't mean you can't have sex and go out with hot chicks, just quit falling in love with them and expecting them to be perfect. As for your ex, you can never have her the way you want her. She's damaged goods. I don't know what caused it and while I'm 90% certain she will always be damaged, she will never get undamaged and be with you. Her behavior needs consequences for her to have a chance at realizing that. That consequence is you having nothing to do with her.
Author ARR Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 Here's my advice: Be alone for a while. That doesn't mean you can't have sex and go out with hot chicks, just quit falling in love with them and expecting them to be perfect. As for your ex, you can never have her the way you want her. She's damaged goods. I don't know what caused it and while I'm 90% certain she will always be damaged, she will never get undamaged and be with you. Her behavior needs consequences for her to have a chance at realizing that. That consequence is you having nothing to do with her. i know that its probably best to be alone for a while but its so freaking hard to make that decicion. as for my ex she was dealt a ****ty hand from the beginning never had anyone care for her always had to provide for her self and cant help feeling for her and honestly i still love her and miss her like crazy
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