paperboy48 Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 I received an email from a woman on match a few days ago...we have some things in common and have exchanged a few emails back and forth. Never having done this before...how does this work? I ask her for her number to call her...and if so, at what point? Then if th phone calls go good for a while, I ask her out? I was thinking about askign her to go bowling at some point rather than sitting in a bar/restaraunt staring at each other trying to think of things to say to each other....
oaks Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Rule 1 in the online dating protocol is: don't be a dickhead. That's about it, really, as everyone is different. Sometimes you can offer your phone number, or ask for the other person's phone number, in your very first email and it works (but usually not) and sometimes people won't want to give you their phone number until after you've met (and only if they want to see you again) and everything in between. Personally, I usually ask to meet before asking for phone numbers, and if they say yes then I ask for her phone number (and give mine) and then take the communication off the dating site to sort out the specific details of the date. But, this doesn't always work... perhaps sometimes because this doesn't fit well with the communication style or expectations of the other person. So rule number 2 is: Clear communication is good, but everybody's communication style is different. which leads to Rule 3: Wing it. 1
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