Isbnd Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 My girlfriend and I are breaking up after 6 years. We started seeing each other right after I separated from my wife of 10 years. She has been my best friend and we have been through a lot together over those 6 years. I love her very much but unfortunately I don't think my heart is in it as much as her's is. We live together and I have 3 children (14, 12, 8) from my marriage who absolutely love her. My kids live with my ex-wife but they stay with me every other weekend and I have them this coming weekend. So my questions are: Do we tell the kids together we are breaking usShould I move the visitation next weekend and get everything sorted with my GF firstDo I move out and give her time and space to figure things out? Oddly enough when my wife and I decided to separate it was around this same time (November) but we decided to not do anything until after the holidays because of my kids and I slept in the guest bed room. I really don't want to do that again. That sucked. She doesn't want this and the whole thing will be very emotional. I just want to be as kind as I can to my girlfriend and want to minimize the emotional impact on my children. I've avoided putting up a really long post with all of the dramatic history but would be happy to expand on any of it if anyone is interested.
Lisa_Lisa Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 This is just my opinion, but maybe you should sort whatever it is you need to sort out with your girlfriend. Once you officially end the relationship then maybe you should have a talk with the kids on your own. If they want to see her or vice versa then that should happen because the kids might feel bad thinking she just 'went away.'
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