blue_jay_bird Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 **** Dear Dumpers out there....can you answer this question? Is the person you replace for your ex really someone special, or is it someone you just found to kill time? I just rack my brain thinking he's in love now, or will be soon. It makes me want to reach out. I guess every situation is different. But, I feel so easily replaced. Is this person just a distraction. He's even inviting her to hang with his friends. I know i'm suppose to believe she's nothing special. Right, but, I need to know.
geegirl Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 **** Dear Dumpers out there....can you answer this question? Is the person you replace for your ex really someone special, or is it someone you just found to kill time? I just rack my brain thinking he's in love now, or will be soon. It makes me want to reach out. I guess every situation is different. But, I feel so easily replaced. Is this person just a distraction. He's even inviting her to hang with his friends. I know i'm suppose to believe she's nothing special. Right, but, I need to know. Every situation is different. There is no way to analyze another person's connection with someone else or their motives. The person that comes into their lives may be transitional or it may be special. A rebound could turn into something special or it may just be a rebound. No one can tell, except for maybe the dumper. The fact is, after a break-up, people move on and that means encountering others and creating new experiences with them. You will go through that as well. It's just that he's detached and doing it as a faster rate than you are because you're still affected. Finding someone else, regardless of motive or meaning is part and process of moving on. You have to accept that he is moving on and let go. There is no way to know.
KatZee Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 I'm the dumpee this time around, but my last relationship I was the dumper. The guy I essentially left my ex for wasn't a place holder, and it wasn't just to kill time. And although we didn't end on the greatest of terms 3 years later, I needed to be out of that relationship in which I left him. I wasn't happy and it wasn't fair to him or I to remain in something that didn't make me happy.
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