Balzac Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Look, weak character is not the deal here. He gathered information by some means, observation or direct exchange w buddy. Or he didn't but has no reason to acknowledge you. Based on your shares here we can only speculate. I can tell you what my experience is. What my professional associations in practice are.
Author ShellyGrahams Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 Well, I should've been more specific. The two guys that he hangs out with the most(that i've met and associated with in the past) are like that and I just wanted to see if he's the same way. "to see if he's just like the rest of his tribe of friends(fake,bastard-ish" Seems pretty judgmental to me.....
yongyong Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Not being judgmental means you are being foolish. You are ignoring all the facts and thinking 'what if he's not??' 'there is 1% chance' Don't you get ripped off all the time? Well, I don't want go through life just assuming he is just like them because then I would be judging and i'm not the judgmental type. For Example, If a guy is friends with a bunch of weed heads, I don't want to assume he smokes weed. Granted, There's a chance that he does but at the end of the day, I just wouldn't know unless I asked.
Author ShellyGrahams Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 If I acknowledged him first in person, wouldn't that be reason enough for him? Look, weak character is not the deal here. He gathered information by some means, observation or direct exchange w buddy. Or he didn't but has no reason to acknowledge you. Based on your shares here we can only speculate. I can tell you what my experience is. What my professional associations in practice are.
Balzac Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 If you are asking whether saying hello is reason enough for him to strike up a friendship? Not seeing it. You have not revealed your age. Your professional rank compared to "tribe" dudes nor how many guys you have dated or friend zoned within this work place. I think these factors are relevant.
Author ShellyGrahams Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 Im not that kinda shy..just "awkward shy" in the beginning when meeting people. But once the ice is broken, i'm so normal it doesn't even make sense that i acted shy in the first place. OP, do you have an online dating profile? That can help you meet people when you are shy. If you do, do you get many hits?
Author ShellyGrahams Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 Im 21 years old,a college student and work part time at a coffee shop in my area. I've hooked up with one of his friends, let's call him "Jack"and dated his other friend "Jim". They're age group is around the 16-17. If you are asking whether saying hello is reason enough for him to strike up a friendship? Not seeing it. You have not revealed your age. Your professional rank compared to "tribe" dudes nor how many guys you have dated or friend zoned within this work place. I think these factors are relevant.
Balzac Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Ok got it. Remove all references to adult or professional behaviors. Two down, one to go. Just ask him out or let him know you are available.
Author ShellyGrahams Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 I'm actually still a virgin...lol but Idk If I should be so forward with him. I mean every single interaction i would have with him would go straight back to his "pals". But at the same time, I don't want to play mind games,either. So you lost your virginity at 14-15 years old...you should be a pro by now and not "shy". Come up to him, say hi and that he seems familiar, like you know him from someplace. Then tell him you remember him from so and so. Then go with the flow, you should be able to tell by then, if it's green light to ask him for a number.
Author ShellyGrahams Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 What's wrong with just being friends with him?? I don't like him romantically...I'll admit I think he's attractive but I don't want for anything other than friendship. Besides, He has a girlfriend anyways. Ok got it. Remove all references to adult or professional behaviors. Two down, one to go. Just ask him out or let him know you are available.
stillafool Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 (edited) Okay to be honest if the guy were interested in you in any way he would have said hi to you already. From what you say it seems he is being stand offish to tell you he is not interested in any way. If his friends are jerks why do you want this guy when he is showing no interest. He knows what he is doing and that's why he didn't reply to your email. I think it would be a bad choice to approach him. You can go ahead and say hi but don't expect any romantic interest from him. When guys think a girl is hot they will give you the look. Even shy guys can't help but look. He's not looking and it sounds like he is purposely avoiding you. I think you do have a romantic interest in this guy or you wouldn't be so worried about being friends with a man who shows no interest. Why do you need to be his friend when he has a girlfriend? When is he suppose to have time to hang out with you? Edited October 11, 2012 by stillafool
Author ShellyGrahams Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 (edited) He's been acting stand-offish even before I starting associating with his friends; which makes me wonder If he has something against me for some reason.... Okay to be honest if the guy were interested in you in any way he would have said hi to you already. From what you say it seems he is being stand offish to tell you he is not interested in any way. If his friends are jerks why do you want this guy when he is showing no interest. He knows what he is doing and that's why he didn't reply to your email. I think it would be a bad choice to approach him. You can go ahead and say hi but don't expect any romantic interest from him. When guys think a girl is hot they will give you the look. Even shy guys can't help but look. He's not looking and it sounds like he is purposely avoiding you. I think you do have a romantic interest in this guy or you wouldn't be so worried about being friends with a man who shows no interest. Why do you need to be his friend when he has a girlfriend? When is he suppose to have time to hang out with you? Edited October 11, 2012 by ShellyGrahams
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