mortensorchid Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Now this is rather interesting, if not ... Well interesting is the only word I can use to describe it. About a year ago, I ran into this guy I know through a few friends. He seems like a good guy, on the surface that is, I barely know him. There was a message sent to me (through a friend, I know, just like junior high school) that he was interested in me. I turned him down at the time, because I was with someone else (or thought I was, which turned out to be a wash but that's another story). Recently we chatted one night several weeks ago, he was friendly enough and didn't seem angry or annoyed that I had rejected him so long ago. He contacted me through Facebook the other week, he asked if I wanted to meet up for dinner some night soon. A good thing? Sure it is. The problem I have is this ... I'm not very attracted to him. Is this one of those classic situations where a woman rejects a so called "nice guy" because he's not attractive to them? I will not go psycho on him or run away, I feel like I'm grasping at straws left right and sideways should something happen as such. I barely know him, so I have no idea what he's really like. I might as well go for it, right? What does one do?
Author mortensorchid Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 So I emailed him on this through Facebook. I said that I was not going to be in the city during this week (save for Friday night art walk), maybe another time? He said simple "Sounds good". I guess it's not worth it anyway. Otherwise he would've arranged for another date/time.
yongyong Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I guess it's not worth it anyway. Otherwise he would've arranged for another date/time. WHAT IS THIS??? I am sure if he said 'ok then what about this day?', you would've said 'geez this guy is a mosquito, he doesn't get it and go away' 1
Author mortensorchid Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 There were a few text messages (connected through Facebook) where he made mention that Sunday was going to be 75 degrees. I responded "Will it really be 75 degrees on Sunday? Didn't know", thinking that he was asking for a Sunday get together. No response. Bad communication skills no matter what he was really trying to point out or ask. Moving on.
Author mortensorchid Posted October 19, 2012 Author Posted October 19, 2012 Well there was nothing WRONG with him, I barely know him. The little I have seen of him he seems like a good guy and all. But I think if he was interested he would've said "Let's get together on (day)", I have a feeling he might be chain yanking.
carhill Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 His lack of definition, combined with your apparent lack of interest, e.g 'I'm not very attracted to him', equals non-start. Let it go. Permanently.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 The fact that you're not that interested should be enough for you to talk away instead of soaking up the attention and interest for your own validation because maybe "something will develop". It's not a big deal, just know what you want and are looking for, If this is your impression of him then you should stand by it instead of "giving it a shot" and acting like he should be more attentive, what If he's only mildly interested in you and just seeing If he can have a quick hoop up with you, still worth it then?
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