Necromancer Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Is it the butterflies, great connection between personalities?. Link to post Share on other sites
GirlontheLam Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Physical or "emotional" chemistry emotional chemistry: being around and/or talking to them feels effortless and natural. Like you have known each other forever or "we are on the same wave length" Physical: "butterflies" a "spark" or an overwhelming desire to touch, kiss or something else. Like that whole, I can't keep my hands off you feeling. If you are really lucky, you'll feel both when you meet someone. The relationships that last, tend to have emotional chemistry with a healthy does of physical chemistry. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Chemistry is what happens when my seed hits my chick's eggs after I bang her. Link to post Share on other sites
bob the brave Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 36-26-36 If by butterflies you mean physical attraction, for me, I think it is both with a 30-70 split. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Is it the butterflies, great connection between personalities?. what girl on the lam said on repeat I think chemistry can come down to liking the same things having a bond with that beliefs as well makes talking easier on an emotional level ,having similar passions...it is a beaker over a bunsen burner of possibility....there is a connection that starts the spark that leads to emotional connection.it must be sciiiiiience i tell ya... if a smile can make your heart go spastic i would say that is physical..add that to the beaker..maybe.....it has an emotional tinge....or tangent....not quite sure ...i do know that i burnt my eyebrows off in an experiment so i am the last person who should be talking science....i lost a whole eye of lashes too....i developed a love of ray bans then.......so as far as science goes i should move away from the bunsen burner..i daydream while doing science experiments....deb Link to post Share on other sites
JayL Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 One question popped in my mind... What's the difference between "interest" and "chemistry"? I'm just curious since my last relationship that shattered to pieces apparently had an incomplete chemistry due to lack of interest? Basically, my ex told me that she felt the "spark" when we first met and then it faded after a week or so, and so did the interest level. Before we broke up, I asked her if she ever felt the chemistry between us... she said there is chemistry, but something is missing, which is the interest level, which always prevented her from having that emotional connection towards me? I was so confused when she said that. She wanted to be with me due to the fact that we had similar goals, I'm an educated man with a career etc. Can anyone explain? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 One question popped in my mind... What's the difference between "interest" and "chemistry"? I'm just curious since my last relationship that shattered to pieces apparently had an incomplete chemistry due to lack of interest? Basically, my ex told me that she felt the "spark" when we first met and then it faded after a week or so, and so did the interest level. Before we broke up, I asked her if she ever felt the chemistry between us... she said there is chemistry, but something is missing, which is the interest level, which always prevented her from having that emotional connection towards me? I was so confused when she said that. She wanted to be with me due to the fact that we had similar goals, I'm an educated man with a career etc. Can anyone explain? lack of interest? or something missing...if something is missing i class it as a cop out......an excuse in other words..... interest is an initial attraction to me ....that makes you want to research(explore) further chemistry or feelings.Being interested in someone is wanting to get to know them better..exploring that initial attraction.dating friendships. i guess she got to know you further then thought nah...something missing so what do i say now to him to let him down gently....yep lack of interest....even though obviously interest is what got you together in the first place......you have to want to continue being interested in someone because you enjoy being with them that they have that something that peaks interest......you are interested in them.....its wanting to know more ....she obviously wasnt interested in knowing more......she should have said that instead of something missing.....or lack of something....there is a positive.....she didnt waste your time or effort experimenting with you...i wish you love in life....deb Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 What exactly is chemistry when it comes to dating? Wanting to mash your bodies together and suck the life out of each other. Stimulating conversation is a distant second.... Link to post Share on other sites
JayL Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 lack of interest? or something missing...if something is missing i class it as a cop out......an excuse in other words..... interest is an initial attraction to me ....that makes you want to research(explore) further chemistry or feelings.Being interested in someone is wanting to get to know them better..exploring that initial attraction.dating friendships. i guess she got to know you further then thought nah...something missing so what do i say now to him to let him down gently....yep lack of interest....even though obviously interest is what got you together in the first place......you have to want to continue being interested in someone because you enjoy being with them that they have that something that peaks interest......you are interested in them.....its wanting to know more ....she obviously wasnt interested in knowing more......she should have said that instead of something missing.....or lack of something....there is a positive.....she didnt waste your time or effort experimenting with you...i wish you love in life....deb Thanks for the input. It took us over a month and a half to end it. I always felt something was wrong, so I attempted to leave a couple of times, but she stopped me from doing so. Even got to the point where she introduced me to her entire family...had sex every week. I'm past it, but I still feel stupid and used for letting her drag me on, while she figured things out, which turned out to be a no. The sad part was, I was already falling for her when she figured things out. Link to post Share on other sites
Daniel V. Ross Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 In having dates, it is just normal for you to feel nervous especially if it is your first time. Link to post Share on other sites
Necris Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Is it the butterflies, great connection between personalities?. No idea man, I've heard of this term before but it seems to be just some undefined nebulous feeling of lust or something, but chemistry just has a cooler name. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Maybe it is that thing where you encounter someone and feel like back when you were kids and you had a "crush" on a boy (or girl!) I think it is when you just know something is in the air. I had a feeling with my partner, we had a connection, but I do not think it was " chemistry" necessarily. I think chemistry is to do with being good looking and really feeling it with them on a physical and another level too. MOst couples are not good looking and therefore have to rely on a connection rather than that smoking hot chemistry bullsh*t 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Come to think of it, I have just had it with certain guys. based on how they looked and how we interacted... There was nothing that speciala bout them, that just had a certain look about them, and who I was and how I looked just.... = chemistry. I did not feel it with my partner as soon as we met, and I am majorly sexually attracted so... I doubt chemistry is needed? Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Physical or "emotional" chemistry emotional chemistry: being around and/or talking to them feels effortless and natural. Like you have known each other forever or "we are on the same wave length" Physical: "butterflies" a "spark" or an overwhelming desire to touch, kiss or something else. Like that whole, I can't keep my hands off you feeling. If you are really lucky, you'll feel both when you meet someone. The relationships that last, tend to have emotional chemistry with a healthy does of physical chemistry. This! Of course for the relationship to work those feelings have to be mutual. Link to post Share on other sites
GirlontheLam Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 One question popped in my mind... What's the difference between "interest" and "chemistry"? I'm just curious since my last relationship that shattered to pieces apparently had an incomplete chemistry due to lack of interest? Basically, my ex told me that she felt the "spark" when we first met and then it faded after a week or so, and so did the interest level. Before we broke up, I asked her if she ever felt the chemistry between us... she said there is chemistry, but something is missing, which is the interest level, which always prevented her from having that emotional connection towards me? I was so confused when she said that. She wanted to be with me due to the fact that we had similar goals, I'm an educated man with a career etc. Can anyone explain? Well I have a guy friend (long friend-zoned to use "LS speak.") We have chemistry, and I am not remotely interested in dating him. I can see it happening. For me, the lack of interest was pretty certain. We have incompatible lifestyles. Friends is fine. More would not work out at all. So I am guessing something felt wrong for her, and the chemistry faded. Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Well I have a guy friend (long friend-zoned to use "LS speak.") We have chemistry, and I am not remotely interested in dating him. I can see it happening. For me, the lack of interest was pretty certain. We have incompatible lifestyles. Friends is fine. More would not work out at all. So I am guessing something felt wrong for her, and the chemistry faded. I concur as well. One friend in particular I was crushing on for quite a while and we definitely had emotional chemistry, but there was never any "spark". I'm still kinda bummed about it, but I know that it wouldn't last if she gave it a chance anyway because of that. We're still best friends, too. It basically all comes down to just ...rolling with the paces really. If you force something, chances are it'll eventually break. Link to post Share on other sites
JayL Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 (edited) Well I have a guy friend (long friend-zoned to use "LS speak.") We have chemistry, and I am not remotely interested in dating him. I can see it happening. For me, the lack of interest was pretty certain. We have incompatible lifestyles. Friends is fine. More would not work out at all. So I am guessing something felt wrong for her, and the chemistry faded. Perhaps... She had perceived me to be very proper and calm, which she said was a turn off. Although, she has also seen me take tequila and vodka shots one after another and chugged a vodka bottle at a party. She's the type to never stay home, I'm the type to always stay home or just do something relaxed if we go out. I party crazy if there's an occasion, if not, I'm happy doing small stuff. On the other hand, she'll go out and party just for the heck of it. I don't know.... I'm tired of thinking what went wrong, why the interest faded etc etc. All I know is she lied to me many times about many things that I recently had to find out from other people she did not know we both knew... I'm just going for the next girl if I meet a normal one...if normal still exists these days... Edited October 11, 2012 by JayL Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Maybe it is that thing where you encounter someone and feel like back when you were kids and you had a "crush" on a boy (or girl!) I think it is when you just know something is in the air. ^^^^ THIS! I'm in that zone these days. Link to post Share on other sites
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