NYC-BigKat Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I just dont know u know . Anyway um..he's between 40 & 45 & messes with girls anywhere between 17 & 40. He was in a relationship with a lady 35 last month but she broke up with him when he cheated with a younger girl I think was 20 or 21. My family wants nothing to do with him 'cause he likes to drink & smoke weed alot & he sells the weed alot too. Yesterday me & him was at the mall & he told me to approach these 2 teen girls but I said no! He laughs & goes to them anyway & they flirt with him & he gets their numbers & I dont know what to do 'cause now he gave me one of them & the girl says she is 17 & I dont wanna get in trouble but my uncle says they are legal. Is he lying? He also had sex with 8 girls last month & 2 teen girls mixed in. I'm worried 'cause every time we hang out he wants to get a girl, any girl! I do love girls but I want a girl that I want not some girl he just throws at me all the time. Should I stay away from him? Are alot of other guys like this?
yongyong Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Even after 40s, guys check out young girls like that. It's mainly a fantasy because what kind of young girls (18~28) would date guys in 40s? Anyways, I am sure a lot of guys want to know how he DOES that.
ascendotum Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Its up to you entirely if you find your uncle creepy or enjoy spending time with him. Do what you feel comfortable doing, and not what people here say you should do. I thought you were having a hard time meeting girls, so it sounds like spending a little time with him might help your confidence with girls. Why are you worried about hooking up with the 17 yr old girl? If you don't find her in the least bit attractive, then let him know and don't bother calling her of going to meet her, but otherwise see what happens. Your uncle is not role model on one hand, but when it comes to getting women, it sounds like he could teach you a few things. 1
xdahliax Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Your uncle is in pedophile territory. There's no reason for him to be approaching girls who aren't even legal yet. I'd stay away from him, you don't need that kind of influence. Take it easy and find a girl you actually like... 1
ascendotum Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Is it illegal for teenagers under 18 to have sex in america?
somedude81 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I just dont know u know . Anyway um..he's between 40 & 45 & messes with girls anywhere between 17 & 40. He was in a relationship with a lady 35 last month but she broke up with him when he cheated with a younger girl I think was 20 or 21. My family wants nothing to do with him 'cause he likes to drink & smoke weed alot & he sells the weed alot too. Yesterday me & him was at the mall & he told me to approach these 2 teen girls but I said no! He laughs & goes to them anyway & they flirt with him & he gets their numbers & I dont know what to do 'cause now he gave me one of them & the girl says she is 17 & I dont wanna get in trouble but my uncle says they are legal. Is he lying? He also had sex with 8 girls last month & 2 teen girls mixed in. I'm worried 'cause every time we hang out he wants to get a girl, any girl! I do love girls but I want a girl that I want not some girl he just throws at me all the time. Should I stay away from him? Are alot of other guys like this? Does he teach a class?
xdahliax Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) Is it illegal for teenagers under 18 to have sex in america? The age of consent is between 16-18 in the U.S. If the OP's uncle is in New York, the age of consent is 17. So as long as he sticks to 17+, he's fine. Doesn't make it any less creepy, though. Edited October 10, 2012 by xdahliax
yongyong Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 If he just stares at them, scares them away, yes. But if they are flirting with him? OP, Did they look uncomfortable when he approached them? or were they flirting with him just like guys around their age? Your uncle is in pedophile territory. There's no reason for him to be approaching girls who aren't even legal yet. I'd stay away from him, you don't need that kind of influence. Take it easy and find a girl you actually like...
123321 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Your uncle is in pedophile territory. There's no reason for him to be approaching girls who aren't even legal yet. I'd stay away from him, you don't need that kind of influence. Take it easy and find a girl you actually like... Pedophile has a specific meaning that has nothing to do with sex with teenagers, and you have no way of knowing from the OP whether it's legal or not. Care to go for strike 3?
xdahliax Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Pedophile has a specific meaning that has nothing to do with sex with teenagers, and you have no way of knowing from the OP whether it's legal or not. Care to go for strike 3? I know it has a specific meaning, but a lot of people would find it disgusting. That's why I said pedophile territory, and didn't flat out call him a pedophile. I also didn't say that it was illegal, I actually said that if he slept with girls 17 and over (which is what the OP mentioned), he was safe. I know that you're in a hurry to justify sleeping with 17 year olds, but next time read my post. 2
Shaun-Dro Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I just dont know u know . Anyway um..he's between 40 & 45 & messes with girls anywhere between 17 & 40. He was in a relationship with a lady 35 last month but she broke up with him when he cheated with a younger girl I think was 20 or 21. My family wants nothing to do with him 'cause he likes to drink & smoke weed alot & he sells the weed alot too. Yesterday me & him was at the mall & he told me to approach these 2 teen girls but I said no! He laughs & goes to them anyway & they flirt with him & he gets their numbers & I dont know what to do 'cause now he gave me one of them & the girl says she is 17 & I dont wanna get in trouble but my uncle says they are legal. Is he lying? He also had sex with 8 girls last month & 2 teen girls mixed in. I'm worried 'cause every time we hang out he wants to get a girl, any girl! I do love girls but I want a girl that I want not some girl he just throws at me all the time. Should I stay away from him? Are alot of other guys like this? I know I'm going to get a lot of flack for this, but I think your uncle here is actually doing you a favor and guess how? He's exposing you to more and more dames that you otherwise had no access to getting all on your own. Remember that. You and your family may be against his lifestyle but he's really just being a typical alpha male who feels no fear in self-expression. That's one of the reasons he's so successful with these women, be it young or older. I think you can learn a thing or two from him, Bigkat.
123321 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I also didn't say that it was illegal .... "There's no reason for him to be approaching girls who aren't even legal yet." - xdahliax Reconcile please. He didn't even say he was in America, in most of North America and a lot of Europe the AoC is 16ish and in many States in America 17 is completely legal unless there is some sort of power imbalance, which wouldn't be a AoC statute anyway. I guess you did go for strike 3.
xdahliax Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 "There's no reason for him to be approaching girls who aren't even legal yet." - xdahliax Reconcile please. He didn't even say he was in America, in most of North America and a lot of Europe the AoC is 16ish and in many States in America 17 is completely legal unless there is some sort of power imbalance, which wouldn't be a AoC statute anyway. I guess you did go for strike 3. Take a look at his name. It was a wild guess. There are some places in America where it also isn't legal yet. Which means that certain people still have something against a 35 year old sleeping with a 17 year old. Certain people would include me. FFS, people are barely grown at 17. Some are still in high school and take the yellow bus home... 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 If he just stares at them, scares them away, yes. But if they are flirting with him? OP, Did they look uncomfortable when he approached them? or were they flirting with him just like guys around their age? Um...how it happen was he called to them from the top floor inside of the mall & they looked up & then he said something silly but they laugh & then he told them to wait up but they ran away laughing. But after that they took the escalator & came up anyway & thats when he tried to get me to go to them but I couldn't so he did & they laughed and started running and then they kept laughing & just started liking him. 1 of the girls was really talking alot to him & he was leaning against the railing just nodding & smirking & they look to be liking it & then he got their numbers. Its um.. really really weird. My friend on my block says I need to found out what he says to get them so interested. I just dont wanna wound up so bad like him but other than the weed & chasing girls so much he very nice & easy to talk to & hang out with.
yongyong Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Well you should be very thankful to have an uncle like that. I think your dating life is set as long as you learn from him and try on your own. Does he look a lot younger? does he dress differently? I still can't understand how 40 year old can talk with teenagers in a cold approach. Does he get turned down a lot too? Um...how it happen was he called to them from the top floor inside of the mall & they looked up & then he said something silly but they laugh & then he told them to wait up but they ran away laughing. But after that they took the escalator & came up anyway & thats when he tried to get me to go to them but I couldn't so he did & they laughed and started running and then they kept laughing & just started liking him. 1 of the girls was really talking alot to him & he was leaning against the railing just nodding & smirking & they look to be liking it & then he got their numbers. Its um.. really really weird. My friend on my block says I need to found out what he says to get them so interested. I just dont wanna wound up so bad like him but other than the weed & chasing girls so much he very nice & easy to talk to & hang out with.
ascendotum Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Its um.. really really weird. My friend on my block says I need to found out what he says to get them so interested. I just dont wanna wound up so bad like him but other than the weed & chasing girls so much he very nice & easy to talk to & hang out with. Your friend is right. you should have not have stayed back, but wandered up with your uncle to meet the girls. A. You could have observed his routine. B. You could have been introduced to the girls by your outgoing uncle, and maybe have had a date tee'd up with one of them.
Shaun-Dro Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Um...how it happen was he called to them from the top floor inside of the mall & they looked up & then he said something silly but they laugh & then he told them to wait up but they ran away laughing. But after that they took the escalator & came up anyway & thats when he tried to get me to go to them but I couldn't so he did & they laughed and started running and then they kept laughing & just started liking him. 1 of the girls was really talking alot to him & he was leaning against the railing just nodding & smirking & they look to be liking it & then he got their numbers. Its um.. really really weird. My friend on my block says I need to found out what he says to get them so interested. I just dont wanna wound up so bad like him but other than the weed & chasing girls so much he very nice & easy to talk to & hang out with. It's his confidence that's attracting them. There's nothing more appealing to a teen girl than an older man that knows how to approach them. At first, these girls may think, "he's a little old for me" but after a while they can't help but feel flattered at the attention and they wound up giving in, unlike the immature unwanted attention they receive from guys their age. And clearly he's a true Casanova because you stated that he nails women in their 20s and 30s too. Your uncle is no fluke! Bigkat, you need to stick with this guy and just benefit from what he does with the dames and discard his negative characteristics. You can, in time, make what you learn from him your own and become a better pickup artist. This will definitely improve your happiness level since women are defining it for you right now. 2
123321 Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Take a look at his name. It was a wild guess. You make a good point, still, legal and not pedo.
ja123 Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 From what you described, your uncle is a sex addict. Sex-addiction is actually quite serious and can prevent one from establishing a meaningful relationship. Just google "sex addiction" to find out more. 1
Shaun-Dro Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 From what you described, your uncle is a sex addict. Sex-addiction is actually quite serious and can prevent one from establishing a meaningful relationship. Just google "sex addiction" to find out more. I, myself, am also a sex fiend as well and I think it's perfectly normal for a man to be that way. There are many women who fit the bill as well. That's why prostitution is everywhere and ain't going anywhere any time soon, with an unlimited supply of clients.
ja123 Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 I, myself, am also a sex fiend as well and I think it's perfectly normal for a man to be that way. There are many women who fit the bill as well. That's why prostitution is everywhere and ain't going anywhere any time soon, with an unlimited supply of clients. There's a difference between loving sex/being open-minded/high sex drive versus sex addiction. Addictions take over the person. Regarding your comments about prostitutes being sex addicts. Some percentage of women who practice prostitution might also be sex addicts, but not every woman who is in prostitution is a sex addict. The way you commented makes it sound like all prostitutes are sex addicts. This is untrue.
FitChick Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 A 40-year old man goes after teenagers because the can't get women his own age. They know he's a loser.
123321 Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 A 40-year old man goes after teenagers because the can't get women his own age. They know he's a loser. Or doesn't want to get women his age, more than likely.
danny in van Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 A 40-year old man goes after teenagers because the can't get women his own age. They know he's a loser. oh i bet he can, and will do that when he's 60 or so!
danny in van Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 'sex addict' is a term I'm gonna guess invented by women to try to make a very old and tried and tested thing appear as deviant. If these girls like the attention he gives and willingly go for him too, then what's the big deal? He may be more charming and all round more attractive than anything else they've had. Probably short term, but most hookups are. Not everyone is trying to meet "the one". People that imply that are just projecting their own wishes. It's a free country and what he does with others is his & their own biz!
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