amythan Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Hi, The guy who was my ex bf until one month ago texted me to "catch up". He wants to meet on friday and i do not know what to do. The story started a few months ago when we met through mutual friends. He chased me and he told me that he will be back to his country in Nov. I said no, that i didn't want to be heartbroken then and he said that he was serious about me and if things went well he could stay here or we could move together. MY mistake, i should have understood that seven months is not enough time to make such a big decision. Fast forward i started getting nervous because i got the feeling that he was passing his time with me. I asked a few times and he didn't want to talk about it. He brought me on holidays abroad and when we were there I asked what his plans were respect to me. And he dropped the bomb. He doesn't love enough. He promised to think about us, started avoiding me and finally he made think that everything was fine (one of the most cruel thing anyone did to me), and dumped me right after. I know I was naive but I trusted him and now i am sure that he always knew he was leaving for sure (without me) and of course, that he didn't want to invest in a relationship with an expiration date. He lied to me because he always made me think the opposite until I confronted him. And now he wants to see me. He is leaving next month. I am not in love with him anymore and i resent him but at the same time I am curious to hear what he has to say. I am afraid he is doing this out of guilt or he tries to sleep with me. But I am also more scared about being hurt and disappointed again. Should I go ? Probably he want just to explain himself to relieve his guilt .. I do not think I will see him never again in my life and of course there is not a friendship to keep. Thanks for reading.
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 You can go, just remember all the pain you are feeling now is going to be multiplied by a factor of 10 when he leaves again. Don't talk yourself out of that one, IT IS A FACT!!! Whatever progress you have made up until this point will be out of the window, especially if you have feelings for him, and I can tell you have feelings for him. How do I know you ask? Well if you didn't have feelings for him you wouldn't have thought this hard, or posted on LS. Also keep in mind the meeting might not go as planned, he might be apologetic, he might not be remorseful. So really think about what I wrote about, if you can handle the pain or if it's worth it to you for one last fling, then go for it!!
Million.to.1 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Don't reply. Don't go. In one month he will be gone and you will be free from this forever. Do not open old wounds by meeting up or communicating with him. It's not worth it. You owe him nothing, and you are well into the healing process and doing really well. Don't look back. 2
Jack32 Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 If you want to get closure on the whole thing go and see what he says. As long as you are ready for disappointment and do not expect much from it you dont have much to lose. On the other hand your emotions come into play whether you want them to or not, so it depends on how well you can handle that aspect.
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