Alex DeLarge Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Hey all, So I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 2 months now.. And I'm starting to feel that something is up. Now there's a reason for this other than what's happening at the moment.. We have a long long history together and it's kind of complicated, so I'll give some history here.. Backstory About 8 months ago, her and I had sex for the first time. She said she wanted to be my girlfriend, then changed her mind the next day. After a month we had sex again, but she still did not want to be my girlfriend, then she started avoiding me most of the time (we were friends before). She told me she did not want a boyfriend at the time. I took this as a "nice" way of saying that I am revolting and moved on. I eventually stopped contact with her because it was messing with my head. I still had feelings for her and we'd still occasionally kiss, but that was it. I started casually dating a few months later with a few different girls.. One of them liked me a lot and she said she wanted me to be her boyfriend. I agreed and I had a blast with her. We were always together and had a ton of fun. Not one fight, great sex, and absolutely no jealousy issues on either side. For once I felt happy in a relationship... But then that all changed. This woman and I had gone away for a month. She went to see her family, and I went to do some fieldwork for grad school. During this time, I started receiving multiple texts from the girl I'm currently dating who was begging for me back. I told her "I'm sorry, I have a girlfriend.. And things between us did not work out. It seems that we're just incompatible, I hope the best for you though." But eventually we started flirting which escalated into sexting etc.. By the time I got home, I had broken up with my current girlfriend and started dating this one. (The one who did not want to date me before.) Now when we first started dating again, things were going strong. Great times together, no jealousy whatsoever, just like with my ex. But then suddenly out of nowhere it hit.. She started to "wonder" who I was texting and all that when I had literally spent every day with her. She would get jealous and accuse me of talking to other women and nag at me for little things I'd do.. (Things that are not annoying enough to actually MENTION.. very minor.. For example: driving the speed limit on the highway when other cars are going 70). Around this time, she stopped sleeping over, does not want to come to my house anymore (only wants to spend time at her house), and now, we only have sex about once a week. Current situation For the past 2 weeks.. My girlfriend has been constantly nagging me for little things. Her and I smoke marijuana (please keep your views to yourself on this).. I bought some MJ for us which we split. On my way home from work one night I had smoked the rest of mine. I told her and she got angry with me and called me selfish for not sharing my half with her (I was gonna pick up more anyways). Another example.... Her and I went for a day hike the other day (we both love to hike) and she fell and hurt her shin (minor scrape.. nothing crazy). We were about half-way up the trail, then she demanded that we turn around I said to her "Oh it's just a little bruise we can take care of it when we get back down, let's just keep going" then she got very bratty with me and started walking away down the trail... So we left and went home. She has also been constantly complaining about being sick for the past 2-3 weeks when she really isn't. She'll have gas or feel tired and that's her excuse to be bed-ridden until 3-4pm for 2 weeks. Although, she does have a possible yeast infection at the moment, so I can completely understand that. Lately, she will NEVER sleep over my house when she used to every other night almost. She says she feels uncomfortable not having her own body wash/shampoo and all that at my house and doesn't feel like preparing a bag to stay over. I could understand this if she lived a few hours away, but she lives a 10 minute drive away. Conclusion Okay, I don't know if I'm in the right mind.. Or just being an egotistical male with these annoyances in my relationship. I'm slowly starting to lose affection for my girlfriend due to her behavior lately. I just want to be able to sleep in the same bed with her and have a good time, but she's so irritable and then it tends to rub off and put me in a bad mood as well. I feel like this relationship is turning somewhat poisonous, but I still want to put in an effort to save it. But at the same time, I just feel annoyed being around her lately. I'm also starting to kick myself for breaking up with a girl who was really nice, thoughtful, and caring for the girl who had all ready rejected me once before. If anyone from a different perspective could help analyze this behavior to help me determine if I'm just being a selfish idiot, or if I have my head straight, that would be great. Thank you!
Mycteria Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 You need to break up with this b*tch.... ....but just out of curiosity, why did you break up with the other girl for her? Is the current girl more attractive or was she more fun at first or what? (I'm not judging you, I completely understand whatever the reason was, even if it was for looks). I'm just genuinely curious. 1
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 So...what exactly do you find appealing about this woman? Genuinely curious.
MrCastle Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Alex, it's good to hear from you. You don't know me on this site, but I know you from another (I use a different username there) Anyway, have you just told her outright how you feel? Just sat down with her and tell her what's going on? The relationship may be slipping, but you may be able to salvage it, if both of you talk it out and see how the other feels.
JamesM Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Let me get this straight.... You were miserable with Girl 1 and she dumped you. You found Girl 2 and were happy for the first time in awhile. You dumped her for Girl 1 when she begged you to return. Now you are miserable with Girl 1...again. What is the question? I think you know the answer, but for some reason you have almost an addiction to Girl 1. And now if you call Girl 2, then you will be the one who was flight and left, so she will wonder whether she should take you back. Drop Girl 1 and decide why you feel this attraction to her. Then move on...maybe to Girl 2 again?
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