RyTom21 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 My name is Ryan. I'm 28. In 2001, my family and I started a tradition. Every year on Christmas morning I drive down to my parents house and we watch The Santa Clause and Jingle All The Way back to back. It has become an essential part of the holiday experience for me. It's something I want to continue with my future wife and kids. I have had a couple of girlfriends, but I haven't had the courage to mention the tradition to any of them. I'm worried they will think its stupid and not understand why it means so much to me. So I have a question for all of the women out there. If you started dating a guy and he later said its important to him to watch these 2 movie ever year...would you think he was weird?
SmileFace Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I will ask him what snacks he will want to have during the movies. I am not a Christmas person at all but family traditions are very important to me so I personally will appreciate it. 6
LittlePrince Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 My name is Ryan. I'm 28. In 2001, my family and I started a tradition. Every year on Christmas morning I drive down to my parents house and we watch The Santa Clause and Jingle All The Way back to back. It has become an essential part of the holiday experience for me. It's something I want to continue with my future wife and kids. I have had a couple of girlfriends, but I haven't had the courage to mention the tradition to any of them. I'm worried they will think its stupid and not understand why it means so much to me. So I have a question for all of the women out there. If you started dating a guy and he later said its important to him to watch these 2 movie ever year...would you think he was weird? Will you have a temper tantrum if you don't get to see these films?
roxys Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 No I wouldn't think it's weird. It's sweet to have family traditions. 1
TaraMaiden Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 You'll probably find over time that you'll establish your own family traditions and do things slightly differently. What about if she and her family watch "White Christmas" and "It's a Wonderful Life" on Christmas morning, instead? What then? And what if you get invited away to see other people on some Christmas? See? Flexibility and adaptation... It's all fun, and you won't faint if it doesn't happen. 1
LittlePrince Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 You'll probably find over time that you'll establish your own family traditions and do things slightly differently. What about if she and her family watch "White Christmas" and "It's a Wonderful Life" on Christmas morning, instead? What then? And what if you get invited away to see other people on some Christmas? See? Flexibility and adaptation... It's all fun, and you won't faint if it doesn't happen. Do you celebrate any holidays?
iris219 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 If a girl likes you, she will have respect for your family's traditions (as I'm hope you would have for hers as well). My best friend is seriously anti-Christmas (thinks it's a pointless holiday). Her ex husband had a certain tradition that she always thought was dumb. When she was deciding whether or not to divorce him, this tradition was one of the things that made her realize she couldn't stay with him. Clearly, she didn't like him enough to have respect for the tradition. I would be annoyed if a man expected me to sit through the same two movies year after year, but I wouldn't care if this was his family's tradition as long as I could opt out.
TaraMaiden Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Yeah, sure... Not in a devout way, but when the whole family is involved you join in and have fun...It's silly to sit to one side and say "Huh! I don't believe in God, keep your roast dinner, I ain't playin'.....!" as For Buddhist Feast days, I take part in those too....
geegirl Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I would say, "Ok, then after Jingle All The Way we must watch A Christmas Story!"
Mycteria Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I wouldn't think it's weird at all but does this mean that she can never see her own family for Christmas?
Quiet Storm Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I would say, "Ok, then after Jingle All The Way we must watch A Christmas Story!" Or Christmas Vacation! That one has me laughing every time I watch it. 2
ThaWholigan Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Or Christmas Vacation! That one has me laughing every time I watch it. The one with Chevy Chase in it? That one is funny 1
HeldbyGravity Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 My name is Ryan. I'm 28. In 2001, my family and I started a tradition. Every year on Christmas morning I drive down to my parents house and we watch The Santa Clause and Jingle All The Way back to back. It has become an essential part of the holiday experience for me. It's something I want to continue with my future wife and kids. I have had a couple of girlfriends, but I haven't had the courage to mention the tradition to any of them. I'm worried they will think its stupid and not understand why it means so much to me. So I have a question for all of the women out there. If you started dating a guy and he later said its important to him to watch these 2 movie ever year...would you think he was weird? I personally would encourage any tradition like that. It's part of family culture- fine, I'll watch it with him, and I'll enjoy it! Someone who does not want to accept you, Fully, All of you, might not like it, and might even whine about it. But frankly, that kind of girl is not worth your time!
Author RyTom21 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Thank you HeldbyGravity. That's the best answer I've received so far. :-)
kare bear Posted October 13, 2012 Posted October 13, 2012 No, not at all. My family has a tradition were we on New Years eve watch all of the star-wars movies back to back. I would just start a conversation and be honest with who you are talking with. Ask her if her family has any traditions. A lot of families have traditions, don't be afraid of your families. 1
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