bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 hey everyone, he just texted me right before my mid-term exam asking if i can talk for 5 minutes. i haven't responded. we havent spoken in 4 weeks. been broken up for 3 months. what could he possibly want? i explained i had to do NC bc i needed to move on. FML.
Calico Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Ignore that. Pretty please. If it's something serious or significant, he'll message you again. Actually, he would call. Text is what you do when it doesn't matter or when it's on a whim. This is a bell, and you are not a servant or a dog. Don't jeopardize the progress made in those four weeks of work and pain and agony! 8
geegirl Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Please don't respond. Only days ago you saw him with his new girl and living his life. Don't derail yours for this. Please. 5
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 thanks guys, thank you, thank you thank you,.... this is why i had to come here first.... to hear this. 1
yessy21 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 hey everyone, he just texted me right before my mid-term exam asking if i can talk for 5 minutes. i haven't responded. we havent spoken in 4 weeks. been broken up for 3 months. what could he possibly want? i explained i had to do NC bc i needed to move on. FML. DONT DO IT. DONT DONT DONT DONT!! STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. ignore the text. ignore it all. You are NOONES SECOND CHOICE 3
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 DONT DO IT. DONT DONT DONT DONT!! STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. ignore the text. ignore it all. You are NOONES SECOND CHOICE i will ignore it... even though it sucks! but like calico said if its important he will call or find another way...
ponette Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 i disagree that text is used only 'on a whim'or 'when it's unimportant'. i myself have used text to AVOID the stress of actual voice on voice contact, which can therefore suggest it could be important. all the same, based on your story, let that one slide and wait for what comes next.
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) i disagree that text is used only 'on a whim'or 'when it's unimportant'. i myself have used text to AVOID the stress of actual voice on voice contact, which can therefore suggest it could be important. all the same, based on your story, let that one slide and wait for what comes next. i have also done this bc i am not a call a person type of girl. i usually text first to get a feel for it and then call. but - i will ignore. there is nothing to talk about. i clearly explained to him 4 weeks ago that we couldn't be friends bc i was trying to move on with my life... i told him specifically we cannot talk anymore... and he admitted he is getting to know a new girl. so i'm not sure why he is contacting me. he recently unblocked me from instagram too. Edited October 10, 2012 by bluefairy812
TaraMaiden Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Remember the No Contact Guide and description of what is genuine, and what is breadcrumbs..... Read it again, if need be.... Good Luck, stay Strong!! 1
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Remember the No Contact Guide and description of what is genuine, and what is breadcrumbs..... Read it again, if need be.... Good Luck, stay Strong!! thank you so much, everyone.. i wish there was a way for me to buy you all a nice big cup of coffee and a basket of cookies (i have a sweet tooth!) for taking the time to give me the best advice. i appreciate all of your words.
Frank13 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 He probably wants to ask you what he should get his new girl friend for her birthday or some garbage like that. 1
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 He probably wants to ask you what he should get his new girl friend for her birthday or some garbage like that. LOL haha i wouldnt be surprised!
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Remember the No Contact Guide and description of what is genuine, and what is breadcrumbs..... Read it again, if need be.... Good Luck, stay Strong!! phew! just re-read the NC contact guide. i feel better now. 1
TaraMaiden Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I'll send you my PayPaL details immediately! Mine's a Mocha with marshmallows, and chocolate hobnobs...... 2
yessy21 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 i have also done this bc i am not a call a person type of girl. i usually text first to get a feel for it and then call. but - i will ignore. there is nothing to talk about. i clearly explained to him 4 weeks ago that we couldn't be friends bc i was trying to move on with my life... i told him specifically we cannot talk anymore... and he admitted he is getting to know a new girl. so i'm not sure why he is contacting me. he recently unblocked me from instagram too. Thats because he isnt feeling her that way and your are the second choice. . (while crossing arms in front of chest) 'hmph!' i feel like he is disrespecting you. 1
geegirl Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I'd like Earl Grey tea and Walkers butter cookies, please! 1
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Thats because he isnt feeling her that way and your are the second choice. . (while crossing arms in front of chest) 'hmph!' i feel like he is disrespecting you. he is in a way.... :/ and now that i think about it, the ironic thing is that he usually doesn't text people! LOL. he knows i am also seeing someone! i have no idea what he wants. if it's serious and i know i am getting ahead of myself here.. but lets say he DOES want to have a reconciliation is a text really the way of doing so?
yessy21 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 No. stop thinking about it. think about...... Nutellllllaaaaaaaaaaa mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm 1
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 nutella and double stuffed oreos
TaraMaiden Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 nutella and double stuffed oreosThat well-known Industrial catering specialist lawyer's firm..... 1
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) he just called me.. no voicemail. what a mind f*ck. Edited October 10, 2012 by bluefairy812
ponette Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 hey....listen...don't play that. YOU WAIT. he texted, and NOW HE'S calling. you're driving the boat here. YOU WAIT. NOW YOU'RE IN CONTROL. (and i HATE putting it that way.) 5
geegirl Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 "i love you but..it's not going to work, we are not right for each other"/"it's not meant to be"/"just because you love a person doesn't make them the right person for you" The above is what he told you a few weeks ago. And now he's with another girl. What's changed in a span of a few weeks? He is disrespecting your need to heal. You never had the choice but to accept what he said. Now he thinks he can breeze in and out whenever he feels he can pick up his rag doll? Unless he has something of substance, and when someone wants you bad, they'll do what it takes to get the message to you. Not leaving a message is throwing bait. You have control. Don't give your power away. 3
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