kaylan Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Ok, Ive been a member at my gym for 3 months, and I go 4 days a week. And usually an hour and a half to two hours each time. So as I regular, I recognize faces and Im sure other people recognize me. Theres this one girl Ive seen around, shes cute and I usually hit the gym the same time she does twice a week. In the past Ive caught her looking at me a couple times, and shes caught me a couple times watching her work out. I previously just assumed we both simply had wandering eyes. It happens in the gym...sometimes someone looks good, or they are doing an exercise youre not familiar with, or their workout simply motivates you. One time a week or two ago, she was actually working out near me and I simply asked a question about the exercise she was doing....I was wondering what muscle group it mainly targeted since I wasnt familiar with the exercise. But that was the only time weve spoke. Which brings me to yesterday...I go to wall of mirror where the cable machines are at to start my routine. And I simply glance around and catch her staring at me and we lock eyes for a second, but then I feel awkward and look away. A couple minutes later I look towards her again, and shes looking again and we lock eyes for a second time. It slightly weirded me out, because I figure a smirk, or something should come from that. Not that you simply stare at me, then lock eyes with me, and we both look away. But tbh, I always look away first, because its creepy if you lock eyes for too long. At least for me it is lol. So Im wondering what to do. Because people usually go to the gym to work out. Not pick people up. So Im thinking this girl either: a) is curious about my routine. b) weird and simply stares at funny looking people like myself lol. c) wants me to talk to her. Thoughts?
irin Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 kaylan are your sure your not british? LASS? do you use this in america as well? sorry for the O/T point.
Author kaylan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 kaylan are your sure your not british? LASS? do you use this in america as well? sorry for the O/T point. Lol Im a NYer. But football (soccer) is my favorite sport, so I end up watching a lot of SkySports since the EPL is my favorite league. And from that I started watching BBC more, so Ive picked up a tiny bit of British lingo because of the tv...ie...bloke, lass, tosser, etc. And saying things "pack it in chaps" instead of "lets go boys". Or saying "this dude is a right jackass" instead of simply calling the guy a "huge jackass" Plus my old coworker was Scottish...so he rubbed off too. Tbh, I think the slang I use also has to do with a lot of UK folk being on this forum. My English variates based on who Im speaking to without me consciously thinking about it. 1
irin Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Lol Im a NYer. But football (soccer) is my favorite sport, so I end up watching a lot of SkySports since the EPL is my favorite league. And from that I started watching BBC more, so Ive picked up a tiny bit of British lingo because of the tv...ie...bloke, lass, tosser, etc. And saying things "pack it in chaps" instead of "lets go boys". Or saying "this dude is a right jackass" instead of simply calling the guy a "huge jackass" Plus my old coworker was Scottish...so he rubbed off too. Tbh, I think the slang I use also has to do with a lot of UK folk being on this forum. My English variates based on who Im speaking to without me consciously thinking about it. kudos lad. for using "football", and for watching the bbc. its a great media organisation, their news is informative (actually providing facts of the events, not biased) when i watched american news stations i seriously cringe. and extremely informative programs. really educating ive learn so much from just watching the documentaries about the world/history on bbc4. again sorry for off-topic.
ascendotum Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 K, you mentioned 'smirk', but I get the impression you meant for her to do it. I actually thought you could have looked at her again, and if you caught her looking at you again, then you could have given a bit of a smirk for her to see. Then again later in the session, glance over at her again, and hopefully you would catch her again, but this time she would return the smirk. Pretty much then you know you would be on safe ground to strike up a conversation with her in the future.
stillafool Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Girls know that holding eye contact with a guy is giving him the "green light" . She wants you to talk to her again. If you like her do it.
Emilia Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 But tbh, I always look away first, because its creepy if you lock eyes for too long. At least for me it is lol. So Im wondering what to do. Because people usually go to the gym to work out. Not pick people up. So Im thinking this girl either: a) is curious about my routine. b) weird and simply stares at funny looking people like myself lol. c) wants me to talk to her. Thoughts? I think you should talk to her. I'm sure she isn't weird. I look away quickly too because I'm a bit too shy to stare someone in the eye - unless I know him well of course. I wouldn't smirk but would smile when someone approached me. I'm sure it's obvious that you got to the gym to work out, I know you don't want her to think you chat up just any girl. Maybe you could ask her to help you with something? If she seems to have a favourite, maybe get her to explain to you what she is doing and why she is doing it - like what you have done before. Perhaps this time you could push it a more and say you could train together mutually helping each other out or something?
Author kaylan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) ^Thats the problem. The last time I had a legitimate question. My angle wasnt to try and get with her or anything. I was actually curious about the exercise. Now that shes piqued my interest, Im all nervous and have no idea what to say. This being in the gym has a lot to do with it. If this was a bar or something itd be a lot easier. The workout partner idea did come to mind yesterday since I see her a lot. So if I get the nerves maybe I can try that. I just dont know why she wont smile or simply say hey when I walk by. Simply staring is making me all ner Ive done that to guy and girl regulars I recognize, even if Ive never really spoken to them. Usually after doing that eventually we will end up in convo talking about routines. Simply staring is making me all nervous and worrying if something is on my face haha. Edited October 10, 2012 by kaylan
Emilia Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I just dont know why she wont smile or simply say hey when I walk by. [...] Simply staring is making me all nervous and worrying if something is on my face haha. Maybe she feels the same way
truth_seeker Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Okay, I have experience with this. I can tell you if she's looking at you more than once, she is intrigued by you. Talk to her. Say hi. Don't get any high hopes. She could be nervous. She might just like looking at you. There are women who simply like to get there fill of eye candy and leave it at that. The best way to handle this is to come off in a friendly manner. Keep it light and let her feel comfortable around you. Build on that. If you sense it's going in the right direction, you ask her out. There's nothing worse than romance going awry at the gym. It screws up your work out. It makes the environment awkward and uncomfortable. Someone will eventually have to leave. From my past experiences, women who are leaving the gym, ending their membership, and have had their eye on your from afar, will make a move. If it works out, great. If not, they're leaving anyways so no harm done. Women do not like to feel uncomfortable around men. They want to have the ability to run away if it doesn't work out - no pun intended. That's why a lot of them pull the "my membership is almost up and I'm moving on, I'll take a shot now."
Ruby Slippers Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 If I were approached at the gym, I'd like him to start off with something really light and easy. I don't know what he would say, but just some simple "hello, how are you?", "how's your workout today?" kind of thing. If I was interested at all, I would be responsive and say, "Hey, it's good. How's yours?" or whatever. If she responds to the initial hello, then I think it should get much easier. Then you can extend your hand, say, "I'm Kaylan. I've noticed you here before and wanted to introduce myself." Hopefully you keep chatting and laughing and can get to the asking out / asking for number part. You can talk about your gym and how you like it, how your fitness goals are progressing, whatever flows. I'd be inclined to invite her for coffee or something right after the workout. If she's busy, she'll offer an alternative - her number and getting together another time. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Yeah you're not exactly smiling back either...next time just give her a friendly smile and see how she responds. If you pass by her just smile and say hi...if it's a huge bright smile...like a come talk to me you pussy, smile...then you can attempt some small talk with her. A lot of guys hit on women at the gym, unless you're at a real gym where people really work out...I have to admit, I get pretty turned on by the women who are busting their ass sweating up a storm versus the "I'm trying to look pretty and hot in my spandex not really work out, and look at hot guys" type...I love those women who are dedicated and determined. But anywayz! I'd take it slow because It's a cheesy place to hit on someone and IF it doesn't go well then It might be a little awkward after that..so just be friendly instead of be like "Eh yo, so i saw you looking at me from over dere, you wanna go like out on a date or somethin?"
xdahliax Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I don't really think it means anything. I look at guys (and girls) all the time for no apparent reason Could be his clothing, or that he looks familiar, or his mannerisms... But you can go talk to her, just pretend you don't know something that you know and ask her about it. See how she reacts and whether she tries to keep the conversation going or if she goes out of her way to make sure you understand.
Author kaylan Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Thanks for the responses everyone. Ill try and play it by ear. But at the moment I just feel mad weird haha. The eye locks have just made me feel awkward since neither of us have smiled or said hi. But hopefully some ice breaking happens tonight. We shall see. 2
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