Ex contacted me AGAIN after I told her not to

[k100danny]

Anyone familiar with my story will know what has happened previously. so after getting my last bit of property back and us not meeting while she was back in england for two weeks I sent a message just to let her know i had retreive my stuff and (not in any nasty way) I told her now we have cut all ties there is no need for us to be in touch, take care ect.

 

I had a strong feeling she would contacted me when she got back to italy and he did, basically saying I'm glad you got your stuff back and sorry i didnt think it was a good diea to meet ect. Anyway I replied to this around a week ago and jut said i thought she acted out of line, had no business contacting me and should have sent the watch back to me at the beginning like i asked and left me alone. I said i didn't have hard feelings but feel she didnt act with respect at all even though i had always taken the high ground or tried to. Again I said we have broken all ties now, she has a new boyfriend, we have no reason to keep in touch, I wish you well but please respect me and do NOT contact me again.

 

so a week goes by and another message comes through, I didnt read it i only saw the first line and it said I rally am truly sorry. then i hit DELETE.

 

I am not sure if i have made her feel guilty saying i think she didnt act respectfully to me, but if that bothered her i thought she would have replied straight away and not waited a week. I don't feel there is anymore I can do, I have been polite, told her i wish the best for her and her new boyfriend. never said anything mean about her or him (i dont know him so why would i) and i've said she doesn't owe me anything and please don't contact me agan so WHY IS SHE DOING THIS??

 

I know I will just have to ignore it and she will stop contacting at some point it just seems like she always has to have the lat word which i find annoying, or she cant just let me have the last say and walk away. I've never asked her to come back, never asked about her life now or shown any interest in what she is doing although of course i obviously wonder from time to time.

 

The strange thing is around 30 minutes before I noticed she had posted something on a mutual friends wall on facebook, as she tagged him it came up in my news feed and I had a sneaky feeling it was trying to get my attention. Maybe i'm giving myself too much credit here but i was telling my freind about it and said it was he first time i had noticed something posted by her as we have only a few mutual friends and within a minute of me mentioning it my phone lit up.

 

I don't kno if she expects me to be acting a different way, trying to keep in contact with her, feeling like she has broken my heart and im sat here wondering what if. when in reality im packing my bags to jet of to the south of france to stay with friends and have a great end to the summer.

 

should I just ignore or say look you've got a new boyfriend and im sure he wouldnt appreciate you contacting me (iv mentioned this before) or say I wouldnt appreciate it if my girlfriend was contacting there ex and discussing their sex life ect so please dont do it because it makes me wonder what you were doing when we were together and i'd rather just leave it on a good note.

[geegirl]

Enough already. Stop perpetuating back and forth because that is all you will be doing by sending another email, regurgitating the same thing. You send the email, she will reply in a week, get the last word, you'll come back here asking about why she replied. She replies because you engage.

 

She has a boyfriend. Now you respect that relationship, regardless of whether she does and start moving on.

[TaraMaiden]

If you say anything - it will feed her desire to keep in touch and just validate her effort.

 

Don't ask why - there's no getting inside their heads.

Ignore and BLOCK.

Don't just delete her texts - delete and block her number, completely, and block her on FB, too.

 

If it helps, send her this text - JUST before you completely block her on your mobile (why you haven't done that already, is beyond me....!)

 

"Your message could not be delivered. Recipient has blocked this number."

 

Send.

BLOCK.

 

Move on.

[QdB]

3 things: 1) there emotionally selfish 2) they don't like they cons of dealing with the drawbacks of their major relationship decisions 3) they ABSOLUTELY HATE feeling bad about causing another person pain (including heartache)