redx Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Hi I am new here haha. Sorry for telling my lame long ass story but thank you for reading haha. I just need to let it out. Well what can I said I got dumped by a girl I was falling for 2 months ago. It was an unhealthy 7 months relationship with manipulations, distrust, and disrespect. Friends and family warned me but I didn't see it, even now I cant see it fully. I was naive as I was never in a relationship before and this is my first with first kiss and all that. I was a single guy (and now too haha) with a stable career as an engineer. I am 28 years old (I know it is sad that I am this old to be in a first relationship ever) and is living on my own. My life was stable and secured, but I was pretty lonely and being socially awkward didn't helped either. Then I met her. She was an international student, 25 years old, and she came over here to the US with a goal. At first it was very rosy, we dated for 3 weeks and then I asked her to be mine. I thought I didn't put up much of the chase. She was pretty much fell into my lap. But I was happy, we were. I really believed that. Well, for the next five months we did everything together, went places to see things, did fun activities, cooked for each other, and introduced each others to family & friends, both her (she has relatives here in the US) and mine. I was reluctant at first, but as I slowly began to fell for her... Then came the trouble signs. One day, as we were getting intimate, she then stopped for a sudden and asked if I love her. We only knew each others for a few months. I mean I didn't even know how I truly feel about her. I like her a lot at that time but love was such a big thing to ask. And I believed that love should be something given away voluntary, it is not something to demand from. I didn't say a word. She got upset and asked me to take her home. A few days later, she made her first threat to break it off if I don't give her the answer. Her reason was that our relationship was stagnant and was going nowhere without me telling her that I love her. As a coward, I gave in and told her what she wanted to hear. Well I was developing a strong feeling for her anyway. We were happy again or so I thought. A month later, she dropped the big bomb, her true goal was finally revealed. She told me how my life is easy. But for her, without a green card, she has to worry about school and money because she has to work (illegal too as people with student visa are not allowed to work) and get money for tuitions (which is is a lot for an international student). She said that her relatives can only help so much (and they are very wealthy). So she then asked me, with tears, that if I love her then I can help her a lot if I do a paper marriage with her, which would allowed her to get a green card within a year (this is her real goal, that is to get her family over here. But she never admit this). I was shocked!!! But as a dumb ass, I didn't object. But I didn't agree fully either. This lingered between us for 2 weeks then I told her that if she loved me then she must have patient with me and maybe a year later I could marry her. After telling her that, she started to show me the attitudes and threaten to break up many times in the last week being together. I didn't want it too end and pretend things were still ok as I tried to find a solution. It was all fruitless tho. I tried to hold on but she finally broke up with me after my friends and family intervened to stop me from giving in to her demand. Her reason was that we dont match as a couple and that I am too weak. I guess she couldn't wait that long for me. And so this is where I am now, single again and still missing her a ton even after all that craps. I felt like an idiot for begging her back too. I went NC for 2 months and then just an hours ago, I text her for asking for friendship but she just gave me the cold words. I am such a moron haha. Haha in the end I am the only one that got hurt and even thought it was all my fault as I tried my best as a boy friend. Again sorry for the rambling.
TaraMaiden Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 The moral of this story is: "A Green Card Doth not a True Love Make." You dodged a bullet my friend. She's off to find another victim.... And at one point or another - she will succeed. Thank your lucky stars it wasn't you.
Author redx Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Thanks the kind words. That actually made me laugh.
a.b Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Yeah you are lucky! She's a selfish ***** who used you for a green card! You deserve to find someone who will appreciate you the way you will her. Stay strong!
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