rutgers24 Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 I am writing this post to shed some light on people who may feel like they will never find love again. First off, we are all strong, loving individuals, and we need to remind ourselves of that every day. From personal opinion, I am no longer contacting my ex because I feel that I dont need that negativity in my life. We don't need someone whose going to make us cry every night. We all have the free will to make choices in our life, and I choose not to spend my days stressing about some guy that is not stressing about me. I will say this, I promise all of you, your ex will REGRET either breaking up with you or the way he handled the breakup. My ex has turned into a different person, and in a way I pity him. Remember, what ever religion you are, God doesnt like ugly!..lol...Treat your ex the way he treats you. If he/she doesnt call you, dont call them. I will tell you this, don't get excited if your ex calls you to say Hi or to hang out. It can either be two things: they miss you and want to slowly build a relationship, or they don't want to feel like the "bad guy", therefore they make the effort to be "your friend". In my opinion, your ex right now is not your friend no matter how much they say they are. Being someone's friend after a breakup takes time, as long as both parties have accepted the breakup. Do you remember your previous relationship and how upset you were? I remember I was upset about my previous ex and didn't understand why we broke up, until I found out in TIME. Also, when I stopped caring, he somehow came around, and I didn't even want him back. I hope this post brings some light to anyway who feels sad or angry. Please, don't be. If you stay angry and sad, they only got the best of you. No guy will ever take that away from me. I will always love my ex and shared two years of my life with him, but not its all about me. In closing I would also like to say to everyone that the best feeling in the world is when someone breaks up with you, and you were the best thing in their life. I know for a Fact I am a good person, goes to school, works, and comes from a good family. Remind yourself that they will NEVER find someone better than you. It is all about confidence!
drinana Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Hey rutgers24: Thanks for your post. I love how strong and confident you sound. I just broke up with my SO of 9 years (engaged 5 months ago)... To make a long story short, he lives in VA, flew home to visit, flew back, didn't call me for a week and then called and said "I don't think we should do this anymore - we're different people - i'm not sure if you're the one, blah blah blah". At that point I was so angry that I told him that I agreed and that was that. For 9 years I was always trying to get him to love me the way I loved him. I now realize that I don't need him in my life. I need someone who is going to love and appreciate me just the way I am.. I also work, go to school, come from a good family, etc.. So I'm like you.. I KNOW that he will regret what happened to us. And when that time comes it's gonna be too little too late.. I have moments were I am sad, but then again I remind myself that the person he is now is not the person that I fell in love with.. I also know that he will never find another me. I am getting excited about what my future holds. New experiences, new people, etc. I can't wait to meet the real man of my dreams. I am just glad that I realized that I was so in love with the idea of getting married and of him being "the one" that I was settling. Better to know that now than after we were married and had kids.. I wish you the best of luck.. Keep being strong. We deserve so much better and we will get it.. Things can only get better from here on out... Take care!!
jgs78 Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Well said rutgers24, you really helped me. I am going through a difficult time trying to get over my ex of 6 1/2 years. He broke up with me over the phone and has not tried to contact me in 3 months. I know I have to keep going each day at a time. IT is REALLY hard to think about the positives in my life right now when I have so many negative things. I hope what you said is true about the regret thing. I hope he does regret it. I know right now I feel that way mainly because I just want him back. I just want it to have all been a dream and that it never happened. I know that it's not and that I have to move on, but it's hard to let go. Thank you for your post. I really do appreciate it.
midnitebuterfly Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Originally posted by rutgers24 I am writing this post to shed some light on people who may feel like they will never find love again. First off, we are all strong, loving individuals, and we need to remind ourselves of that every day. From personal opinion, I am no longer contacting my ex because I feel that I dont need that negativity in my life. We don't need someone whose going to make us cry every night. We all have the free will to make choices in our life, and I choose not to spend my days stressing about some guy that is not stressing about me. I will say this, I promise all of you, your ex will REGRET either breaking up with you or the way he handled the breakup. My ex has turned into a different person, and in a way I pity him. Remember, what ever religion you are, God doesnt like ugly!..lol...Treat your ex the way he treats you. If he/she doesnt call you, dont call them. I will tell you this, don't get excited if your ex calls you to say Hi or to hang out. It can either be two things: they miss you and want to slowly build a relationship, or they don't want to feel like the "bad guy", therefore they make the effort to be "your friend". In my opinion, your ex right now is not your friend no matter how much they say they are. Being someone's friend after a breakup takes time, as long as both parties have accepted the breakup. Do you remember your previous relationship and how upset you were? I remember I was upset about my previous ex and didn't understand why we broke up, until I found out in TIME. Also, when I stopped caring, he somehow came around, and I didn't even want him back. I hope this post brings some light to anyway who feels sad or angry. Please, don't be. If you stay angry and sad, they only got the best of you. No guy will ever take that away from me. I will always love my ex and shared two years of my life with him, but not its all about me. In closing I would also like to say to everyone that the best feeling in the world is when someone breaks up with you, and you were the best thing in their life. I know for a Fact I am a good person, goes to school, works, and comes from a good family. Remind yourself that they will NEVER find someone better than you. It is all about confidence! rutgers24, Thanks so much. I needed that! What you said made totaly sence! I would love you chat with you. I have aol aim my name on there is sillyme2323..
LuckyDuck Posted July 29, 2004 Posted July 29, 2004 Well said rutgers! My past relationship of 1 1/2 years just recently ended within this last month. Upon telling her that I didn't want her to call me anymore because of the added pain it was causing me, I also made a point to tell her that she would never find someone like myself and dared her to do so. I pride myself in my ability to treat a woman well, a quality that I believe is rare in todays society. Funny that her friends and family see my qualities but she does not. Anyhow I'll be keeping my head high.
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