strongnrelaxed Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Do you think that spouses have an exclusive right to their partners orgasms? In other words, does a wife or husband have the right to demand that their partner never masturbate and give all sexual energy to them?
veryhappy Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Only if you live in some crazy religious sect. Of course not! 3
johan Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 A wife also has the right to tell the husband, when and if he can have orgasm when they have sex, and also in which direction and how far. 7
CarrieT Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 No. But I have freely given that right to my Master and I will ask for permission before an orgasm. Part of our D/s rituals... p.s. I was only denied one once - and he's regretted it ever since! 2
Silly_Girl Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Do you think that spouses have an exclusive right to their partners orgasms? In other words, does a wife or husband have the right to demand that their partner never masturbate and give all sexual energy to them? In my view, no. I could never sign up to this. Although I like solo sex to be shared to a degree also, so that essentially all sexual activity becomes a part of the sexual relationship that exists i.e. nothing secret or to be ashamed of.
standtall Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Not at all, but you should prefer your husband/wife.
Georgina CG Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 The only way masturbation/orgasms should be restricted in any form, is if said masturbation/orgasms are harming the relationship. As in, sex is being withheld due to too much masturbation. It happens! 4
yessy21 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 the only way masturbation/orgasms should be restricted in any form, is if said masturbation/orgasms are harming the relationship. As in, sex is being withheld due to too much masturbation. It happens! i defenitley agree.
Els Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 No. But I have freely given that right to my Master and I will ask for permission before an orgasm. Part of our D/s rituals... p.s. I was only denied one once - and he's regretted it ever since! Orgasm control is incredibly fun.
sooniechan Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Do you think that spouses have an exclusive right to their partners orgasms? In other words, does a wife or husband have the right to demand that their partner never masturbate and give all sexual energy to them? I would say yes if that person is willing to have sex anytime the other wants it.
KraftDinner Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Well no... But as someone said before, if it affects sex frequency with your partner, that's no good. Not just frequency I guess, but quality/length of time as well. I know a guy who was single for a good decade. He had sex like maybe 3 times during that time. When he got with a live, breathing human he could get very turned on but could ONLY come after using his own hand. Like a 45 minute BJ didn't even do it. Now THAT would be unfair to a partner (although in this case, it happened because he was single...but the point stands).
TiredFamilyGuy Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 The deal I have with my wife, is that each of us will wait until the partner has a chance to get first refusal. No offers are turned down by either of us, unless ill/exhausted. If one turns the other down then the refused person is OK to go off and handle it themselves. Result is, I have so much sex that this question has become irrelevant. That's now. Previously for years we were both miserable and got ourselves off in private from each other, sex was rare. The difference is that we are both talking frankly with each other and have worked out the big "elephant in the room" issues that prevented that beforehand. Communication is the key here. I add that on a practical note, sex is better if you save up for it. 3
Author strongnrelaxed Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 Orgasm control is incredibly fun. Sounds painful to me.
Author strongnrelaxed Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 In case you were wondering, I asked this because it was an issue in another thread.
Toodamnpragmatic Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Many women I bet will silently imply it with their views on pornography and many males need for some form of porn (or attractive women) in order to do the deed. Then are shocked or perturbed that their spouses pester them for sex too often. A fine line no doubt......
Got it Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Sometimes taking care of it on your own is all the energy one has. It is maintenance more than anything else. I am a woman and sometimes I just want to knock one out and go to sleep.
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