nala.x Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Were 20. We broke up a month ago, and were together for nearly a year. I was always insecure about his ex, because she tried to break us and was in his friend group so they always ran into each other. A week before we broke up, we had a fight because he went to her house with all his mates and didn't tell me, so i yelled at him and he said "it's over bye!". I was upset so I messaged a guy he's insecure about, saying "I'm single again yay". The next day he said he doesn't remember saying "its over" but then that night he saw those texts and dumped me. He said he loved me but couldn't be with me because "I hurt him". A week after we broke up him and his ex kissed and she went back to his house! He thinks he has done nothing wrong. Since then they have been seeing each other. She was horrible and controlling, insecure since he cheated on her when they dated last, they fought always AND she slept with 2 of his best friends, why did he go back there? We dated for nearly a year, so he must have had genuine feelings for me..so how did he get over me so quickly? She brings out the worst in him; he goes out alll the time, hardly sees his family, and is rude to his friends. Yesterday I went to his house to pick up my things because he was at work, i was chatting to his family and then he came home, and completely ignored me! He cant even look me in the eye! Why is he like this? Is there anything i can do to get him back? Not because i want him back, but just so I can make him realise what he has lost?
kae Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 baby girl, forget him.. forget his business and go dancing! ur a baby.. go have fun!!!
Calico Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Is there anything i can do to get him back? Not because i want him back, but just so I can make him realise what he has lost? Why does it matter? And why do you believe he doesn't know what he has lost? I don't mean for this to sound hurtful. It's just that us dumpees often seem to be convinced that our dumpers are somehow confused and don't know what they really want. Usually, they do know exactly what they want, and it is not us. It sounds like you were his rebound. This wouldn't make his feelings for you not "not genuine", just different from how he felt about her. Maybe she was his first love, maybe they share more. It's impossible to tell and there is no value or gain in trying to figure out what he is thinking. He may not even know himself (he's only twenty). It doesn't change the situation as it is.
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