thembones Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 My ex left me two months ago and I am doing just fine for 90% of the time. The other 10%, I get down and a little sad, but nothing like when she first left me. We have been in NC, but I still miss something, but I am not exactly sure what I miss anymore. I went over to my grandma's house this weekend and she still had a picture up or me and my ex. I do not understand why she still has it up, as she knows our situation. Something little like that sets me off, but I just sat there and thought for a bit, although I did leave the room just in case I got all emotional. What I am asking is: Do I miss HER or do I miss what we had? I am at the point where I do not even know if I would want her back. I am starting to believe that when I do miss something, it is not her, but what we had together. After figuring out the real reasons why she left me, it makes me think of her as somewhat heartless. I still do love her, but I hate what she has become. We live in the same city, but I have done everything possible to avoid her like the plague for the last month and a half. This post may not make sense to anyone, but it is what is on my mind tonight.
Calico Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Only you can answer this question. I'd offer the suggestion that it's probably a little of both, and that the answer doesn't matter to the situation as it is. Would you now do anything differently if you knew for certain which it is that you miss?
Author thembones Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Just thinking about missing "us" made it easier in my mind. I really think I do miss us than her as a person. I can find another "us" with someone else, but would never find another "her", not that I would want to but it would be harder to replicate. Why am I sad all the sudden today? Just one of those days.
Frank13 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Why am I sad all the sudden today? Just one of those days. I am right there with you. Ten months N/C and was getting better but today seems almost like day one. I miss her a lot.
Calico Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 It's actually the same for me. Had mostly been OK for a month, but in the past two days and today she's constantly on my mind (and in my dreams), and it's rather troublesome. I think it's full moon soon, so maybe it's that. Nothing we can do -- just have to let it wash over us until it passes. And pass it will.
Author thembones Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 Yeah I was doing really great for a while, but something set me off I guess and I was feeling down the whole day. I have never let it interfere with my work, but it did for sure yesterday. It has only been 2 months and I know I will still think about her/what we had for some time to come. I wish I could just forget about her, as she has done to me. It is nice (I guess) to know that we are all going through the same thing. It does help me feel less alone that other people have the same problems as me and some people (kids w/ cancer, diseases, hungry) would kill to switch problems.
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