somedude81 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Of course it benefits women. Basically everything does. Of course it's more easier for them but that wasn't the question. 1
MrCastle Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Casual sex benefits everybody. No strings attached, the ability to maintain personal space and freedom, the ability to focus on more important issues like your future/career/education. Both sexes stand to benefit from it. Sincerely, Anti-relationship guy
mesmerized Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Casual sex benefits everybody. No strings attached, the ability to maintain personal space and freedom, the ability to focus on more important issues like your future/career/education. Both sexes stand to benefit from it. Sincerely, Anti-relationship guy I would just sign it as "a guy" rather than anti-relationship guy. 4
SmileFace Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 It benefits my vagina. Wait, is that too crude? -_- 6
carhill Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 They become more well rounded individuals. They learn what they like and don't like sexually from experience. They learn how to compartmentalize, which helps in other areas of life, like work and relationships. Things started going towards virginity and anal sex towards the end so I shut it off as it really wasn't relevant to topic but it was interesting to hear the viewpoints of the young women and men in the discussion. I admire their ability to discuss such matters openly and transparently and with articulation. Good show. Most of the women I've had relationships with were part of the 'free love' culture and did enjoy casual sex. Did it make them better relationship partners? For myself, unknown but they do seem to glide through life in a more successful fashion. I think, in some ways, their experiences have helped them psychologically, mainly in dealing with what life throws at them. Success is hard to argue with, though I have tried to in the past. Now it's accepted. 2
darkmoon Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Of course it benefits women. Basically everything does. Of course it's more easier for them but that wasn't the question. so what situation/s would you prefer? (genuine question)
MrCastle Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I would just sign it as "a guy" rather than anti-relationship guy. :p
kae Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 casual sex is not good for anyone! Becasue of casual sex have learn`t people to despose of the human body and soul like trash. it puts selfishness above all. It places sex as a criteria for love.. kindness communication respect .. become worthless or an after thought. you can teach someone to like your tot right but a selfish person cannot be thought kindness you are supposed to abstain! young adulthood is a time to develop self control in the individuals so that one day when you in fact get married, you`ll know and believe and trust that men are not sleezy sex hungry machines and women are not penis zombies thereby making one more supportive when people need their entitled space. Abstinence has a societal purpose. The casual sex culture makes people too insecure to have lasting relationships 1
somedude81 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 (edited) so what situation/s would you prefer? (genuine question) I'd rather be in a relationship and have a girl that's only sleeping with me, not getting her rocks from somebodies else I also don't want a girl who's been with a lot of guys and that's what happens if she's into the casual sex thing. Edited October 10, 2012 by somedude81 1
Robert Z Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 casual sex is not good for anyone! It was great for me. My life has improved dramatically since I started engaging in casual sex with prositutes regularly. Becasue of casual sex have learn`t people to despose of the human body and soul like trash. it puts selfishness above all. Selfishness? The need for sex is fundamental. It is no more selfish than drinking water. It places sex as a criteria for love.. Really? Have you ever fallen in love? I did in spite of living a very free lifestyle. Do you reaslly think people who engage in casual sex cease to love, say for example their family members, if they don't get sex from them? I still love my sister but she hasn't had sex with me. Are you arguing that it would be impossible for me to fall in love now? If I am now incapable of loving a woman as my soul mate, which might be true, it is because I listened to advice like yours for way too long. If I had considered my own needs sooner rather than clinging to some fairy-tale version of life, I might not be so bitter and cynical. kindness communication respect .. become worthless or an after thought. you can teach someone to like your tot right but a selfish person cannot be thought kindness If you want to kill kindness, deprive a man of sex for a long time. you are supposed to abstain! young adulthood is a time to develop self control in the individuals so that one day when you in fact get married, you`ll know and believe and trust that men are not sleezy sex hungry machines and women are not penis zombies thereby making one more supportive when people need their entitled space. And your attitude is incredibly naive and insulting. Men and women have natural drives that are perfectly beautiful in their own right. There is nothing ugly about it. Sex is just a part of being human. Why do you feel the need to make it something ugly? What are you afraid of? Abstinence has a societal purpose. The casual sex culture makes people too insecure to have lasting relationships In your expert opinion, right? It sounds to me like you are the one with insecurity problems. You are the one expressing fear and warped perceptions of human sexuality that make it something ugly.
irin Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 sorry Robert but your experiences doesnt count as regular casual sex. where its equal on both sides. yours is simply buying a services which works for you. but casual is sex is different, both parties get the same thing when they participate, not money on one side and sexual satisfaction on the other. kindness does not equal giving sex.
xxoo Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Sexual freedoms benefit both men and women. Casual sex, like monogamy, has benefits and consequences for both men and women.
mandyo550 Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 I just wanted to say after 30 years with same person and never being unfaithful i had a few one night stands after going through certain emotions .I tried everything to keep us together i made a fool of myself begging him to stay with me. Then i felt angry that he could leave me for a so called friend.Then came the time i felt worthless and had no self esteem . That was the time i had a few flings because i thought he didnt want me and i needed to prove to myself that i was still worth something. But looking back now i so regret sleeping with someone for the sake of it. That is not me ! I am now in my second relationship for 8 years . I believe you should know someone well and have a good relationship to be able to sleep with them . So i made a big mistake having a couple of flings that i am not proud of , but at the time i needed someone to prove to me that i was still sexy and it wasnt my fault that he had left me . SO SO happy now they say things are better the second time around !
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