amerikajin Posted January 28, 2005 Posted January 28, 2005 >>>Is it ok for your partner to never buy you anything?<<< A guy who pays for everything is a wussy; a woman who demands a man to pay for everything is a gold-digger. There has to be a happy medium somewhere in between. It depends on the thought behind the action in most cases. THere's nothing wrong with paying for a date to show appreciation for someone after they've earned it, but a lot of guys fall into this trap of taking women out to eat on a boring-as-hell conventional date, thinking that this is somehow going to win over the opposite sex. It amounts to bribery in the form of food in exchange for what the poor sap hopes to be another night out together (yawn). Basically, I handle my dates now by taking a pragmatic approach. I come prepared to pay, but I expect the girl to come prepared to pay as well. I'll pay so that nobody loses face, but if she doesn't offer, if she just assumes that I'm going to take care of her for the evening, she's out - I don't give a rat's ass how gorgeous she is. If a girl can't even be motivated enough to offer to pay for a date with me, she's either really not into me and thinks that I owe her for her time, or she's just a gold digger who needs to be weeded out early. Now, having said that guys shouldn't be expected to pay for everything, if you've been with a guy for a few weeks and you've been giving him some good loving and he isn't offering, he's just being stingy. It doesn't have to be expensive, just a rose or something (that costs, what, a dollar?). If he's not offering anything, then I'd tell him to hit the streets.
joel Posted January 28, 2005 Posted January 28, 2005 did u pick her up from her house or did u meet her at the so and so location? which one -or how did u guys meet up ? lol after one date ur ditching this gal-i be a little more i would try after 4 dates and if she didn't buy me once then i would ditch her for sure. first dates are mostly the guy pays since he aske her out. Originally posted by BrainRightHeartWrong i brought a girl out on a date one night ( after initially going with her absolutely drunk one night as we do in Ireland )... i paid her into the nightclub we went to... i bought six rounds of drinks for us... she never once offered to buy one back... i never bothered with her again... what a turn off!
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 28, 2005 Posted January 28, 2005 lol after one date ur ditching this gal-i be a little more i would try after 4 dates and if she didn't buy me once then i would ditch her for sure. first dates are mostly the guy pays since he aske her out. this particular one was about 4 years ago, she never impressed me that night and i didn't fancy her anyway, there was no spark, I don't need 4 dates to realise this! here if you were having a first date in a bar usually the girl would buy alternative rounds of drink, in the end we might end up buying a bit more but who cares as long as she makes an effort also like my ex we met up first date as such with our friends first at a nightclub, this made the whole thing a bit more casual and easier for us both before we had our first date together
Anais Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 You know what guys women would pay more for themselves and for you if they won’t have the fear that you loose your interest in her because if it. You know how human nature is: we like the diamond because we paid more for it. At least I have heard some women explaining that way why they don’t want to share the bills while dating. We hear often men say: I cared of ex, I love her so much that I bought her a car, ring …. So this is how men measure love, right? Then next why are you surprised if the woman wants it? She wants proof of your love in a “traditional way”. Yes it is better when man gets bigger salary than the woman because he won’t have the psychological problems of being wussy.
Truth Hammer Posted January 29, 2005 Posted January 29, 2005 Why does the guy have to pay for everything? Last time I remember, men and women make the same amount of money for the same jobs. My advice? Get off YOUR lazy ass and pay, girl.
joel Posted February 1, 2005 Posted February 1, 2005 ok whose asian here b/c i am . and in our cutlure from what i hear is that guy/gal go out guy pays for everything all the time and on each date. buhhhh yea sucks anyone here asian too that has anything to say about it-yea i am cbc -chinese meaning.
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