JayL Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 (edited) If you've been talking to a girl for about 2 weeks, went on one date and on 2nd date she mentions. "You seem to really know what you want, I feel intimidated". You hold her hand and her palms were really sweaty, which shows she was nervous. Ladies? Any opinions? Is this an indication that she's not ready for a potential "serious" relationship? That she just wants to play the field and explore? Hence she feel intimidated as she's caught off guard? She said she's been single for a long time, but I never asked how long (not yet at least), have casually dated over the years, her Facebook is full of party pictures. P.S. I've been keeping my distance and just keeping in touch here and there to let her know that I'm interested, but way far from smothering her. Say... we talk everyday, but I'd banter through a couple of text messages and I pull back out until night time just to text good night. It feels like she's a duplicate of the last girl I was with..... really feels like it.... or am I just thinking too much into it because the last one was a disaster of an emotionally unavailable woman? Similarity Fact 1 : Been single for awhile, so did the last one. Similarity Fact 2 : a chain of short-term/casual dating relationships or the "less formal" term "Friends with benefits"? The last one had tons over the years. Similarity Fact 3 : She's intimidated by a man who she knows is looking for a relationship, but still in the process of getting to know each other? The last one told me to give her time to figure out what she really wants with me, which always sparked arguments as I always attempted to walk away and she never let me, she always said there was something, but when I stayed, my needs were not met. (Which went too fast as we turned official after 2 weeks, started having sex etc. and it won't happen this time if this girl turns out normal.) Similarity Fact 4 : She's the same age as my last one. It really feels like a replay..... or maybe I'm being paranoid... Edited October 9, 2012 by JayL
xpaperxcutx Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Surly then my goodfellow, that the problem is not with the girl but with you? It does sound like you looking for a balanced relationship with equal reciprocations yet you are actively seeking out girls who neither provide nor meet your needs? Remember what Einstein said about insanity? You need to reevaluate what you want before you start seeking out unavailable girls.
truth_seeker Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 This girl is not for you. You want a relationship. All she knows is FWB. She's a career serial dater with committment issues. Think about that.
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