TurningTables Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hello everyone. I come in here every now and then to check messages, etc. I feel that reading this site keeps me thinking of the past and my EA. For those of you who dont know me, I had a EA with a MM for 2 years-almost turned to PA before I found this site and stopped it. I have been doing really well thanks to these wonderful ladies here ( LadyG, Fooled,WWIU,MB,TN, Wiser and if Ive missed your name..sorry, but thank you!) I have been in NC for over 10 months. xMM has tried to contact me since then and I have not responded. I have kept my ground. I wanted to let all the OW/OM out there who are struggling- it gets better. You just have to give it some time. Soon, you will wake up and realize its apart of your past. You will no longer dwell on what might have been- but what is HERE and NOW. You are worth so much more than you could ever know. Dont settle! Best wishes! 7
Tenacity Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hey TT, I have been wondering how you are! It sounds like you are in a great place. Congratulations for being strong enough to resist contact from the ex-MM. Ten months... That is terrific! You are definitely on the other side of that tough mountain, as wisernow said. I hope to see you posting more often! (Only if it is healthy for you of course!) Thank you for offering hope! You offered me support during a dark time and I am glad to see you doing so well.
carhill Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 OP, congratulations regarding finding a path which works for you in a healthy way. EA's can often be a bugger to detach from, especially due to the 'what if' factors. I've seen this process in myself and in MW's. Good for you that you worked it out. Best wishes. 1
whichwayisup Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hello everyone. I come in here every now and then to check messages, etc. I feel that reading this site keeps me thinking of the past and my EA. For those of you who dont know me, I had a EA with a MM for 2 years-almost turned to PA before I found this site and stopped it. I have been doing really well thanks to these wonderful ladies here ( LadyG, Fooled,WWIU,MB,TN, Wiser and if Ive missed your name..sorry, but thank you!) I have been in NC for over 10 months. xMM has tried to contact me since then and I have not responded. I have kept my ground. I wanted to let all the OW/OM out there who are struggling- it gets better. You just have to give it some time. Soon, you will wake up and realize its apart of your past. You will no longer dwell on what might have been- but what is HERE and NOW. You are worth so much more than you could ever know. Dont settle! Best wishes! So glad to have helped. Thanks for the update!
Author TurningTables Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 Hey TT! Glad to see you're doing well, and moving on. It can be a long journey, but sounds like you've crested the hill and are on the other side. What's been the hardest thing for you post A? So glad you updated here and give others who are struggling some hope. Hiya Wiser! I hope this message finds you in good spirits! To answer your question: EVERYTHING post A was hard. But I found the hardest things to do was to move on with him contacting me. He would do this cat and mouse game at the end of the EA. He would be talking to me and wham- contact would end and then he would pick me up again 1, 2 or 3 weeks later. He still trys, ( last week- 3 texts that made no sense and me=DELETE!!!). I was hoping that he would get the picture and that I dont want to be "friends" with him again. He drug me threw the mud and still to this day thinks he did nothing wrong. Go figure. 1
Author TurningTables Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 Hey TT, I have been wondering how you are! It sounds like you are in a great place. Congratulations for being strong enough to resist contact from the ex-MM. Ten months... That is terrific! You are definitely on the other side of that tough mountain, as wisernow said. I hope to see you posting more often! (Only if it is healthy for you of course!) Thank you for offering hope! You offered me support during a dark time and I am glad to see you doing so well. Hi Ten. I am so glad that I could help you out. The reason why I dont post or read here alot is because it rips my heart out everytime I read a new story. Its sad that they dont realize that they are headed for so much more pain and sorrow. I want to just yell GET OUT NOW!! lol But, people have to make their own choices. I am in a good place now and I feel so much better about myself. I have realized that I wasent really in love with xMM. It was everything that I had been through with my M that had made me turn to him. I was just miserable. It was wrong time and wrong place and wrong person. Anyways...Thanks for the encouragement! Are you doing better?
Author TurningTables Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 OP, congratulations regarding finding a path which works for you in a healthy way. EA's can often be a bugger to detach from, especially due to the 'what if' factors. I've seen this process in myself and in MW's. Good for you that you worked it out. Best wishes. Thanks!
Author TurningTables Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 So glad to have helped. Thanks for the update! Youre welcome! I wouldnt be as far as I am without your help! I am thankful I found this place.
Author TurningTables Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 Hi TT...........so glad you checked in with us with good news. I'm so happy that you are healing and in a better place. Wishing you all the best! Thank you LG! Like I told WWIU- I am thankful I found this place.
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