MrCastle Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 One more thing: It's funny that the author mentions OLD of all things. You basically have many a girl getting 50 emails a day from guys. For her to answer *your* email out of all the emails she is getting from the other dudes on the site, you need to know "what to say" EVEN MORE than you would trying to meet a woman via cold approach. (And it is NOT the Nice Guy way of writing her 3 full paragraphs of compliments!) Otherwise you probably won't get *any* response. Yeah. I had a nice laugh when OP said "but she supports OLD", it's like, well YEAH! There have been OLD experiments made where guys would make dummy profiles with NO PROFILE PICTURES, and within the first hour of making the profile, would get 5-10 messages. When you're getting 5-10 messages in an hour without having pictures up, there is a problem with the system. 1
oaks Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Why should women settle, and guys shouldn't? They shouldn't. I made specific effort to be inclusive in my assertion that people shouldn't settle for people they find unattractive. So we're agreeing (for once).
verhrzn Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Yeah. I had a nice laugh when OP said "but she supports OLD", it's like, well YEAH! There have been OLD experiments made where guys would make dummy profiles with NO PROFILE PICTURES, and within the first hour of making the profile, would get 5-10 messages. When you're getting 5-10 messages in an hour without having pictures up, there is a problem with the system. So, would guys feel better if they were getting 50 emails a day from fat chicks saying "Hey baby wanna be my emotional buddy? We can sit up and talk about feelings all night!" Because I can certainly do that to all the guys in my area if it would advance the cause of equality. 1
ThaWholigan Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 *Shrugs* Women are told to do it all the time. "Stop being so high maintenance", "stop expecting Prince Charming", "stop being so unreasonable about your expectations"..... maybe it's time men heard it too. I've been told that wanting a guy who finds me beautiful and sexy is too much, and that I should just settle for a guy who thinks I'm decent looking. Why should women settle, and guys shouldn't? I don't think anyone should settle.
LittlePrince Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 So, would guys feel better if they were getting 50 emails a day from fat chicks saying "Hey baby wanna be my emotional buddy? We can sit up and talk about feelings all night!" Because I can certainly do that to all the guys in my area if it would advance the cause of equality. Yes, blame it on equality. It doesn't get enough kicks to the groin.
verhrzn Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I don't think anyone should settle. Good, I'll remember to quote this when an overweight woman comes on here complaining how she can't get hot men to date her. 1
Revolver Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Nerdy and awkward girls wouldn't date these guys. I call it the Meg-Neil effect. Besides some of those girls are hot. This is true. People don't talk about this
LittlePrince Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I don't think anyone should settle. Except a pioneer. They have to settle. 3
Woggle Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Nerdy and awkward girls wouldn't date these guys. I call it the Meg-Neil effect. Besides some of those girls are hot. Very true. Many of them want the same guys other women want. 1
ThaWholigan Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Good, I'll remember to quote this when an overweight woman comes on here complaining how she can't get hot men to date her. I always say that, I don't see why someone should date someone they aren't attracted to - that's a recipe for disaster on both sides. Obviously an overweight woman will have trouble, just like an overweight man would. If they want to get what they are attracted to, they know what they have to do. But dating someone they aren't attracted to and settling is not the answer.
verhrzn Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I always say that, I don't see why someone should date someone they aren't attracted to - that's a recipe for disaster on both sides. Obviously an overweight woman will have trouble, just like an overweight man would. If they want to get what they are attracted to, they know what they have to do. But dating someone they aren't attracted to and settling is not the answer. But what if they can't get who they're attracted to? What if the woman loses the weight and still can't pull the hot guys? Should she settle, or should she be alone forever? 1
ThaWholigan Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 But what if they can't get who they're attracted to? What if the woman loses the weight and still can't pull the hot guys? Should she settle, or should she be alone forever? Depends. If she's happy to settle, then that's her prerogative - as long as she is happy with her decision and as long as the person being settled for is comfortable in the arrangement and getting his needs met. I recall a former poster staying with a boyfriend she wasn't attracted to and was repulsed by sex with him - thus nobody was getting needs met. This is a problem when it comes to settling. She has to figure it out somehow, just like all the guys who are f*cking up and don't know why. 1
verhrzn Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Depends. If she's happy to settle, then that's her prerogative - as long as she is happy with her decision and as long as the person being settled for is comfortable in the arrangement and getting his needs met. I recall a former poster staying with a boyfriend she wasn't attracted to and was repulsed by sex with him - thus nobody was getting needs met. This is a problem when it comes to settling. She has to figure it out somehow, just like all the guys who are f*cking up and don't know why. Maybe they're f*cking up because they're chasing unattainable girls with fake personalities....
LittlePrince Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Maybe they're f*cking up because they're chasing unattainable girls with fake personalities.... Maybe you would be happier if you were an unattainable girl with a fake personality? 1
ThaWholigan Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Maybe they're f*cking up because they're chasing unattainable girls with fake personalities.... You would say that .
oaks Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 But what if they can't get who they're attracted to? What if the woman loses the weight and still can't pull the hot guys? Should she settle, or should she be alone forever? Whichever is better for her. She has free will. But I still don't think that people should settle for someone they find unattractive. It's a bit of a canard, though, because the "alone forever" scenario is hypothetical and unknowable. 1
LittlePrince Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 But what if they can't get who they're attracted to? What if the woman loses the weight and still can't pull the hot guys? Should she settle, or should she be alone forever? That's what cats are for. 3
MrCastle Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 We're deviating from the OP's topic? Whaaaa? Get outta town! I'll say this about settling--there is a difference between settling and being realistic. I know some truly pretty girls, girls that could attract a generous amount of the male population, but they're forever single. I'm not totally sure they've ever had boyfriends or even ONS. Why? Because they're waiting for the perfect man. He doesn't exist. And if he did; I'm sure he'd be looking for the perfect woman. I absolutely have a preference type in my mind that I wished more girls fit the mold for, but if they're lacking in one area or another, I'll still date them. People aren't perfect and I don't expect them to be. You have to manage your expectations if you want to be happy. Very few people find soulmates. Divorce is at 50% and only getting higher. Stop expecting a fairytale ending. No one promised you that. Just be happy with the mate you have. 1
ThaWholigan Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 We're deviating from the OP's topic? Whaaaa? Get outta town! I'll say this about settling--there is a difference between settling and being realistic. I know some truly pretty girls, girls that could attract a generous amount of the male population, but they're forever single. I'm not totally sure they've ever had boyfriends or even ONS. Why? Because they're waiting for the perfect man. He doesn't exist. And if he did; I'm sure he'd be looking for the perfect woman. I absolutely have a preference type in my mind that I wished more girls fit the mold for, but if they're lacking in one area or another, I'll still date them. People aren't perfect and I don't expect them to be. You have to manage your expectations if you want to be happy. Very few people find soulmates. Divorce is at 50% and only getting higher. Stop expecting a fairytale ending. No one promised you that. Just be happy with the mate you have. My point is don't date someone you're not attracted to. Simples. 1
MrCastle Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 My point is don't date someone you're not attracted to. Simples. Absolutely. But manage what it is you find attractive. If you're looking for Brad Pitt with a 100k+ income, 6" height, a penis perfectly designed for your individual vagina and gives you multiple orgasms as soon as he sticks it in, and you won't settle for anyone else; I'd start investing in kitty litter.
mtnbiker Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 ThaWholigan....mind sharing or PM'ing me some of the non-awful PUA info/sites? Could use a little more social situation confidence.
LittlePrince Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 My point is don't date someone you're not attracted to. Simples. and everyone should be able to find someone they find attractive on some level who feels the same way in return on some level, but that's not what people want. Damn you people.
oaks Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 That's what cats are for. but she gets a cat, then she finds a guy but he's allergic... see other thread. 1
ThaWholigan Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 ThaWholigan....mind sharing or PM'ing me some of the non-awful PUA info/sites? Could use a little more social situation confidence. Certainly . Give me a little bit.
LittlePrince Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 but she gets a cat, then she finds a guy but he's allergic... see other thread. Put him in a boy in the plastic bubble type setup with gloves that reach into his environment so you can pet him once in awhile. Problem solved. 1
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