Element i Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 hey all...I am Element i. I got married to this woman a year and half back. I'm from India, Mumbai. its a cosmopolitan place. she is from this little town in Gujarat. I won't beat around the bush and come to the issue straight. I have a feeling I'm being used monetarily. her mom and her keep chatting on WhatsApp and once I read it..it said how she should plan trips every year, to London, Paris, US and all around the world...then she was telling her to plan a baby. and ONLY THEN...not before. she also was bitching about my mom but that's another story... I knew she never loved me. its money and only money...I can smell it... but plz tell me if I'm wrong...this is just one of the most recent incidences... there are plenty many... plz I need your help..
veryhappy Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Do you feel that she loves you? Are you happy with how she's treating you? Do you afford taking yearly international trips? Do you afford having a baby? The fact that she's not from a big city like you shouldn't matter for anything, and unless it's damaging you it's normal that her mom wants te best for her, and it's normal for a woman to start wanting kids two years after getting married. Some nagging about the mother in law is also normal, but it's stuff you should already know and address.
Author Element i Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 Do you feel that she loves you? Are you happy with how she's treating you? Do you afford taking yearly international trips? Do you afford having a baby? The fact that she's not from a big city like you shouldn't matter for anything, and unless it's damaging you it's normal that her mom wants te best for her, and it's normal for a woman to start wanting kids two years after getting married. Some nagging about the mother in law is also normal, but it's stuff you should already know and address. What take care? what love? i have a very strong feeling she is doing all this for a very personal purpose...and that is to roam around the world at my expense. She isn't serious about life. She isn't serous about her career. She isn't serous about taking care of my parents... forget all that, I have never till date seen her being in a serious and ponderous mood. She is, and I regret to say this, from the lower-metality class. People who haven't grown intellectually. I blame her mother completely for this up-brining. She has, not once, been serious in life. I come from a middle, wroking my way up class. My father, in his youth, has literally worn clothes his elder and richer cousins were done wearing...you can imagine the kind of upbringing I had. I was taught the value of money through hard work and struggle. ANd her upbringing is totally wrong and different. I regret this more than anything else today. My parents are emotionally attached to her and I don't want to see them sad. That's why I am still with her. I haven't married her because I loved her. I love her because I married her.
River Rain Posted October 14, 2012 Posted October 14, 2012 I don't understand why you would stay with her only because your parents are attached to her. It's your life right? If you think she's only with you because of the money situation, and there is no true love, then I think you already know the answer. Re-read what you wrote, you listed so many things that bother you about her, not serious about life, her career, parent situation... Life is too short to settle, you should move on and find somebody who loves you for you. At least that's what I think.
Author Element i Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Ok...some update. We had a huge huge fight. I have taken a month's time to think. She has gone to her relative's place. I need to get a spearation from her. WHat are the likely ways I can go about achieving that? After a month, we are going to meet. And I am going to asl her for a divorce. It is over. Am I doing the right thing?
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