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ImperfectionisBeauty Established Member

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I seriously am mentally screwed up! I am in therapy and I can't even express all my issues. I honestly think I am a little unhelpable. I took the advice of some people on here and sent a link to my therapist of a post I made on here and she just emailed me back and said she will look at it. She is going to think I am crazy and then if she can't help me then what?! She is going to think so bad of me. Like the slight snout of respect she probably had for me is going to be totally gone. I'm stressed out to even go see her this week. What do I say? It's so embarrassing. I wish I could just be a normal person who is mentally fine and doesn't need therapy and can handle my own life problems alone.

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Your therapist is not going to judge you. I know a lot of girls like you - perhaps why I try not to be so harsh. I think you really do need to slow down and trust your therapist. She will probably respect you more for allowing her access to things you have posted anonymously about yourself and what you are into. Maybe this way she is better equipped to help you as things you will have told her may be different to what you have told us.

 

Everybody needs help sometimes. Even someone as stoic as I like to think myself to be. It is going to be difficult to open up, especially as you are still a very young woman at 21. Adult in body, but maybe still an adolescent in your mind by the way you think and process things. That is one of the reasons why you are the way you are at the moment. Growth is not beyond you, it's not beyond anyone. You just have to trust yourself, and believe you can have the discipline to outgrow this phase you are in. And for now, trust your therapist. If she's fafs you about, find a new one.

 

If you need any advice from me, you are free to PM me as anyone else is :). There are certain mental difficulties stemming from autism that I have overcome and others that I'm still dealing with daily. If I can provide an insight into ways to deal with it, I'm happy to do so.

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Don't sweat it. Chances are she's seen far "worse". And don't worry about what she thinks about you. Chances are she doesn't have a personal opinion about you one way or the other; you're just another person with issues that it's her job to sort through and try to help you fix.

 

Best of luck.

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CarrieT Established Member

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Chances are she doesn't have a personal opinion about you one way or the other; you're just another person with issues that it's her job to sort through and try to help you fix.

^^^ THIS ^^^

 

I hate to put it this way, but YOU are putting more worries on a "relationship" with a therapist. You are employing her. You are her job and she is a professional. She is not a friend so you don't need to worry about what you believe she is going to think about you in a personal aspect.

 

And showing her your troubles will enable her to help you more so, yes, she will probably have MORE respect for you for opening up.

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ImperfectionisBeauty Established Member

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It bothers me a lot too that my mom really doesn't approve of me going, she is like old school she thinks its for "crazy" people and that I should go to church and not therapy. I love having my mom approve of the things I do because she means everything to me you know? I don't want her to think bad of me either.

 

I'm definitely going to stay in therapy though because I need the help. Thanks for the responses I appreciate it. As you can tell I am kind of a super panicky person haha

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It bothers me a lot too that my mom really doesn't approve of me going, she is like old school she thinks its for "crazy" people and that I should go to church and not therapy. I love having my mom approve of the things I do because she means everything to me you know? I don't want her to think bad of me either.

 

I'm definitely going to stay in therapy though because I need the help. Thanks for the responses I appreciate it. As you can tell I am kind of a super panicky person haha

Why don't you try both? When I was a Christian, my Pastor often gave me words of encouragement that were of great help to me at the time - even though I didn't fully resonate with Christianity itself.

 

I say stick with therapy though. Don't hedge all your bets with the Church or your Mum. If I listened to my mum ALL the time, there are things that I would never have done that I am glad that I did. Trust your gut and go with the help.

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I'm going to see my therapist in a half hour I'm going to have a panic attack I swear

CarrieT Established Member

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I'm going to see my therapist in a half hour I'm going to have a panic attack I swear

 

Calm down and don't be a drama queen. You are not presenting anything your therapist hasn't heard of before and, frankly, your issues are pretty mild...

 

Seriously.

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Calm down and don't be a drama queen. You are not presenting anything your therapist hasn't heard of before and, frankly, your issues are pretty mild...

 

Seriously.

 

I just thought about it, she probably couldn't have read that post I sent her because it is private. That means I am going to have to explain everything to her. I just want to like get it over with and figure out all my issues so I can work on them so I can be happy all the time instead of half the time lol

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I just want to like get it over with and figure out all my issues so I can work on them

The sooner your therapist knows your issues, the faster and easier it will be to work on those issues. No reason to be afraid; she is there to help you and not judge you.

 

Report back after you've had your appointment!

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I'm going to see my therapist in a half hour I'm going to have a panic attack I swear

 

Get a refund and go to a therapist who knows what they're doing. They charge enough while being professionals!

 

So aren't you wondering why you're paying this one only to have a panic attack? Disgusting charlatan, she is. You can't even rely on her being supportive in this instance.

 

Have you ever discussed with a therapist what your desired outcome actually is?

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The sooner your therapist knows your issues, the faster and easier it will be to work on those issues. No reason to be afraid; she is there to help you and not judge you.

 

Report back after you've had your appointment!

 

:D it wasn't bad at all! She wasn't judgmental or anything she actually said that she thinks I am really harsh on myself and I shouldn't be so much. I'm happy I go again in 2 weeks

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:D it wasn't bad at all! She wasn't judgmental or anything she actually said that she thinks I am really harsh on myself and I shouldn't be so much. I'm happy I go again in 2 weeks

 

I'm going to be the first with a qualified:

 

I TOLD YOU SO!

Glad you are feeling better and taking steps forward. Did she read what you sent her or did you tell her yourself?

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I'm going to be the first with a qualified:

 

I TOLD YOU SO!

Glad you are feeling better and taking steps forward. Did she read what you sent her or did you tell her yourself?

 

She read it, I always feel so good after I leave, like a relief you know?

I feel like my issues aren't super bad too... But I still need help for myself so I can be happier but they aren't major

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Get a refund and go to a therapist who knows what they're doing. They charge enough while being professionals!

 

So aren't you wondering why you're paying this one only to have a panic attack? Disgusting charlatan, she is. You can't even rely on her being supportive in this instance.

 

Have you ever discussed with a therapist what your desired outcome actually is?

 

Um … it's not the fault of the therapist that the OP is having a panic attack and is afraid to reveal her issues. A person going to therapy needs to be a full participant in order to be helped.

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I've been going to my therapist for about 6 years now....it takes time and when you're experiencing stress over the years, it helps to go back now and then.

darkmoon Established Member

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Um … it's not the fault of the therapist that the OP is having a panic attack and is afraid to reveal her issues. A person going to therapy needs to be a full participant in order to be helped.

 

i would not hire this therapist based on what I have learned from this thread, fully participant, yes, but that not explain why that participation has led to her customer panicking - unless she has panic attacks anyway which she has not - but tbh the therapist makes money out of trauma pain and panic, so she knows trauma pain and panic well, so she should/could have created a safer environment if she was any good as a professional - compare sitting in a cosy room :) to sitting in a functional one :(

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Um … it's not the fault of the therapist that the OP is having a panic attack and is afraid to reveal her issues. A person going to therapy needs to be a full participant in order to be helped.

 

confiding in or emailing a loveshack thread to a freind/an ally in life should feel ok, no big deal

so where does the therapist come into the picture when compared to this?

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