one goal Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi everyone. There is this really hot girl in one of my classes that I find to be very attractive. Anyways she sits at the opposite end of the table so I don't get to talk to her a lot. I do say hi to her sometimes and try and talk a little to her when I get a chance to. She's really polite too. Like always tells the teacher "thank you" and please. One day I had to dress up for something and she complimented me saying I looked nice today. Is there any way I can get to know this chick better and score a date? I looked her up on facebook and she is a conservative too!
oaks Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Is there any way I can get to know this chick better and score a date? I looked her up on facebook and she is a conservative too! Hi one goal! How's class going? It sounds like you have something in common with this woman. Try talking to her about this.
LittlePrince Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi everyone. There is this really hot girl in one of my classes that I find to be very attractive. Anyways she sits at the opposite end of the table so I don't get to talk to her a lot. I do say hi to her sometimes and try and talk a little to her when I get a chance to. She's really polite too. Like always tells the teacher "thank you" and please. One day I had to dress up for something and she complimented me saying I looked nice today. Is there any way I can get to know this chick better and score a date? I looked her up on facebook and she is a conservative too! Whip out your gun collection. 1
jobaba Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi everyone. There is this really hot girl in one of my classes that I find to be very attractive. Anyways she sits at the opposite end of the table so I don't get to talk to her a lot. I do say hi to her sometimes and try and talk a little to her when I get a chance to. She's really polite too. Like always tells the teacher "thank you" and please. One day I had to dress up for something and she complimented me saying I looked nice today. Is there any way I can get to know this chick better and score a date? I looked her up on facebook and she is a conservative too! Well, since you've already spoken, half the battle is done. Go up to her and say, "Hey, do you think I can get your number? I was wondering if we could kick it sometime?" A friend of mine did this senior year on the last day of class to a random girl he hadn't spoken to before. They are married now... 1
Charlie Harper Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 If you have something in common go for it, if the conservative info is known, use it as a startup point, if you saw her FB profile and ask her about it she will freak out because you are "checking her". Find some common ground even if its as stupid as some assignment on class or the subject, whatever if she likes you the conversation will flow, so LISTEN to her and let her have the control. Just comment on her conversation and if possible and you see chances be funny, have fun even make jokes at her expense or yours. Example: She suddenly talks about she used to have dance classes or something....you know nothing about it and you go.... It would be great if we could dance together sometime, but I was born with 2 left feet!! you smile and most of the time they will tell you they can teach you to dance!!! Believe me just be confident, don't be freaky and let them have control. Even if your first conversation last 1 minute, you will be approachable and most of the time next time She will start the chat.
Author one goal Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 She wasn't at class today, but did stop by before class because she wanted to talk to the teacher to make sure she didn't miss anything but got to class too soon and didnt' see the teacher. Since I'm at class super early I said hi to her when she walked in and able to chat a little bit. Just asked what her major was, and she was stressed about something though she was kind of flustered, and didn't look too happy. I did ask her if anything was wrong, and she said she was stressed out. She was kinda in a hurry too to leave but at least I got to chat with her a bit and I said bye to her too. Thing is she would be wondering why I was looking her up on facebutt, but also probably wondering how I knew her last name to look her up because I don't know her well or talk to her a lot. I went on our online classroom which is our online tool we have at school that our teachers can post grades, and assignements and powerpoints on and it has a email feature where you can see the class roster and email anyone. That's how I went and got her last name to look her up on facebook
oaks Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 you can see the class roster and email anyone. That's how I went and got her last name to look her up on facebook I doubt it'll surprise her that it's possible to find out the names of people in class, but probably best if you don't tell her you've been stalking her online just yet. People get funny about that. 3
Author one goal Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 I doubt it'll surprise her that it's possible to find out the names of people in class, but probably best if you don't tell her you've been stalking her online just yet. People get funny about that. So I shouldn't friend request her then?
oaks Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 So I shouldn't friend request her then? Hell no. When has that ever worked for you?
Charlie Harper Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Nope, I would wait, the world is not going to end until december 21 remember? LOL. Be patient, do you think guys are not desperate to know her if she is really hot? Be cool, and wait, also you can use that FB friendship as something funny, like ask for permission to look for her on FB in a very over the top way surely she will find it weird amusing and fun. like: I know its really soon or fast but I want to ask you something important, its personal and maybe you will say no anyways but I have to ask.... (she will get on the defensive but women are curious and she will ask, What? Do you have a FB account and if you have it, can you add me as your friend? Its completely stupid and you must say it with a straight face and then laugh at the end, she will probably keep the joke going and say of course not I don't know you or something like that. Don't ask for it just tell her you like her humor, or her dark humor whatever she comes with compliment COMPLIMENT if the occasion arises... trust me she will give you persimmon or even her phone number, just don't over do it ,and don't push for her info, let her HAVE THE CONTROL. She told you she was stressed out and that is great.... even if you don't pull the FB thing ....ask her about the stress how is it going? "still trying to see if the lamp on the fridge really goes off when you close it?" something like that... Good Luck!
Mrlonelyone Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Don't friend request her until you could honestly say she is at least a friend in real life (Do that weather you are dating someone or just want to be friends.) Being that you are in the same class before asking her out get to know her. Talk to her, listen to her, make her laugh. The next thing you know she's sitting in your lap as her regular seat. I made that happen once, yes with a girl, all without even one date...we were on and off for years after that. Don't be in such a hurry to go on that official date. Make it clear through your actions and how you talk to her that your interest is not platonic.
espec10001 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Before you waste any more time or daydreaming about her, find out if she has a boyfriend. Don't add her on Fakebook, don't even look her up on there, it'll only make it creepy. Your goal in the conversations is to get information about her. Your first bit of info you need the "does she have a boyfriend/husband/whatever". If she is not single, forget about her. If she IS single, then time to put the moves on to get the digits.
carhill Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Is there any way I can get to know this chick better and score a date? I'm going to swim against the tide and opine the best way to get to know her is by dating her. Since your interest isn't platonic, there's no need for idle chit-chat. You expressed empathy by asking her what was wrong; leave it at that. She's seen that you can appear as a sharp-dressed man and have empathy. Everything else she can discover on dates. Pick a time when she's in an obviously good mood and flirt a little and directly ask her, in person. At your age, unless she's obviously wearing a ring, don't worry about a boyfriend or husband. She will, if an upstanding lady, have no problem letting you know such things when you ask her out, perhaps even prior, while flirting. Do what you want. She's an adult and can own her perspective and choices. Fugetabout the FB stuff and any sort of 'stalking' behaviors. Nip that in the bud. Be direct. Good luck. 2
Author one goal Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 So I didnt get a chance to talk to her at all today and next week is fall break. Is it okay to send her a friend request then?
carhill Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Unless she dies, you'll see her again. If your presence was known to her today and she was sufficiently interested, I'll guarantee you a talk would have occurred. So, if so, assume lukewarm interest, assign a dry hole to this one and move on. If you run into her after fall break, act directly and accept the result. Negative on the friend request. The pattern is full. 1
Author one goal Posted October 18, 2012 Author Posted October 18, 2012 She still hasn't approved my friend request. Everyone here says I'd eventually find a gf at school! Well it hasnt worked. Told everyone it wouldn't work out!
colombiana28 Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 dude, everyone told you to NOT add her. YOU killed whatever chance you had. i don't even add the guys i date on fb. it's for close friends and family only. 3
pteromom Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 WHY did you send her a friend request? You probably just gave her a stalker vibe and just killed your chance! *facepalm*
oaks Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 She still hasn't approved my friend request. When you asked: So I shouldn't friend request her then? and I answered: Hell no. When has that ever worked for you? which part of "Hell no." did you not understand?
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 Come on, you guys. Don't we all know better than this?
EasyHeart Posted October 18, 2012 Posted October 18, 2012 She still hasn't approved my friend requestIn case you're wondering why people don't give you advice any more, here's why: Hell no. When has that ever worked for you?Nope, I would wait, Don't friend request her until you could honestly say she is at least a friend in real life. Don't add her on Fakebook, don't even look her up on there, it'll only make it creepy.Negative on the friend request. The pattern is full. 2
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