lostandheartbroken Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi guys! It's been rough for me for the past month. I've been dating this guy for about a year and a half and all of a sudden he disappeared. I liked this guy for 3 years while we were friends. From my previously post I explained a little bit about his personality; he's a workaholic. When I didn't talk to him for the passed month, I was trying to be understanding and I thought he was just busy with schoolwork and work, thinking that he'll come around like he'll always does. Stupid of me, I know. . There were times where I tried to message him, yet no response! I wanted to go confront him at house or wherever, but I don't want to look like a fool (because he pushed me out of his house last time). A couple days ago, I noticed he blocked me off of gchat and removed me from his Google+ friend's list. Boy, I was not happy to see that. I felt that it was really immature and middle/high school-ish I messaged and called him asking him to talk to me and just tell me what's going on...I asked him if WE can talk to each other personally in a mature and civilized way...I told him that his actions are beyond childish and out of respect we should just talk about what's his issue...instead of walking away and ignoring me. It's obvious that he isn't interested in this relationship anymore. But he's doing it the cowardly way to end it. I certainly just want the closure and handle this respectfully. I want to remain friends and not to hate each other (since we were friends to begin with). I want to know what was wrong and not be confused or make it cause future problems for me with future relationships. You guys, how exactly do I cope with this situation? How do I let go after liking him for so long? Do you guys think it's a good idea for me to: confront him, keep messaging him, and all that jazz? It's really making me sad...I don't understand how a person can stoop so low and just walk away from someone that cares about them with out saying anything and officially ending it. Makes me wonder how someone can sleep at night by doing this. Has anyone dealt with this type of break up?
River Rain Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 My ex actually said to me once "if I didn't care, I'd ignore you away"...three weeks later and after one text and one email from him, he dumped me. But only because I kept calling him and telling him if he was going to dump me, to not leave me hanging because it was cruel. My friend was dumped by being ignored. She was travelling by train to meet the guy, who lived 3 hours away. He never showed at the station, changed his cell number and ignored her attempts to call him. COWARDS. There is no way to deal with this other than to move on dear. You can't change their cowardly ways. If you keep trying to contact them, it only hurts you. You have to distract yourself as much as possible, make an effort to meet new people and don't contact him ever again. It's so hard to do, trust me, I went through it, but it is possible to move on. I'm sorry, nobody deserves to be treated that way 1
a.b Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 GEEZ?! IGNORING YOU!? Pathetic, hard I know but move on. Not worth your tears. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Yep, the good old fade. Really crappy way to break things. My ex did this on me for a while and it sucked -- I would have rather she had just said "enough" than done that. She had to stop the fade because we had to see each other so she tossed out some breadcrumbs after that, but yeah, the fade is the worst. You basically have to fade harder and not acknowledge the other person at all. Confrontation isn't going to help. 1
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