waterwoman Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 What do you do with the rage? When out of the blue it bubbles up and chokes you? When the sheer injustice of it all is too much to bear? Anyone use a punch bag? I am thinking of getting one.....
NotCamelot Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 There were days where, when driving alone, I yelled, screamed and beat the crap out of my passenger front seat. Don't ask me why or how.....but it helped me feel better..a LOT!
Furious Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I took up martial arts, I'm petite and the men in my class were afraid they would hurt me. By the end of a few months they were afraid I was going to hurt them...lol. 3
Ninja'sHusband Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I took up martial arts, I'm petite and the men in my class were afraid they would hurt me. By the end of a few months they were afraid I was going to hurt them...lol. And this describes my wife...careful
Owl Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I went for walks. You wouldn't believe the walks I went for. 10-12 miles in 2 hours or less. Fast paced, furious, totally oblivious to where I was going, what the weather was like, or what was around me. I'd walk many miles each day...and often end up sleeping like a baby from sheer exhaustion as a result. WARNING: At the same time, I was completely unable to keep food down. It got to where I stopped eating because I was tired of the vomiting...and I lost over 25lbs in 2 weeks. If you choose to walk or exercise (which is good)...make sure your intake equals your output. My doctor took one look at me and threatened to admit me against my will. 2
96nole Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 What do you do with the rage? When out of the blue it bubbles up and chokes you? When the sheer injustice of it all is too much to bear? Anyone use a punch bag? I am thinking of getting one..... Then get one! I understand the rage, the injustice, the betrayal. You can't let that rage just build up in you. If beating the hell out of a punching bag will help get it out of you, then get one. If yelling, screaming, and throwing things will help, then do it. But, don't hurt yourself or others while doing it. Don't break irreplaceable objects. Or put your fist through a door. You'll just have to replace the door. Trust me on that last one 1
underwater2010 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I wish I had felt rage. I was just sad. Cried alot. When the crying started I would go for a walk too. 1
nofool4u Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 What do you do with the rage? When out of the blue it bubbles up and chokes you? When the sheer injustice of it all is too much to bear? Anyone use a punch bag? I am thinking of getting one..... Until I decided to divorce my wife over it, I'd take that anger to the gym. Anger, especially at a cheating partner, is a great workout motivator. Not only that, you end up looking better when you decide you don't want their cheating ass any longer and you are now out in the dating world. 4
ThatJustHappened Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 What do you do with the rage? When out of the blue it bubbles up and chokes you? When the sheer injustice of it all is too much to bear? Anyone use a punch bag? I am thinking of getting one..... I used to have imaginary conversations with him where I'd just rip him a new one..usually in the car. I'd put my earpiece in so I didn't look crazy...not sure it helped entirely... 5
GLDheart Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I used to have imaginary conversations with him where I'd just rip him a new one..usually in the car. I'd put my earpiece in so I didn't look crazy...not sure it helped entirely... NICE! That had me laughing! I also second the "gym" stress relief... When I ran out of home improvement projects and yard work I paid in full for a year at the gym... I must say I'm looking pretty damn good ;-P 1
whichwayisup Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 What do you do with the rage? When out of the blue it bubbles up and chokes you? When the sheer injustice of it all is too much to bear? Anyone use a punch bag? I am thinking of getting one..... Join a gym! Seriously..Use the punching bag there. Take up squash or tennis. Anything to get that anger out in a more constructive/creative way. Hmm, do you know anybody who needs demolition done?? Knock down a few walls and ceilings, that ought to tire you out and rid of that anger too!
ThatJustHappened Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 NICE! That had me laughing! I also second the "gym" stress relief... When I ran out of home improvement projects and yard work I paid in full for a year at the gym... I must say I'm looking pretty damn good ;-P Want to know something weird? I had a really terrible night..I mean truly horrific. But knowing that I made a complete stranger laugh..that actually made me feel better. No sarcasm..it really did.
Author waterwoman Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 I do go running. I used to run half-marathon distances every weekend, plus another 6 or so twice a week. Then I got so many injuries I had to slow down and then eventually I gave up. Started again using a Couch to 5 K podcast - so I'm running for 30 mins 3 times a week. It helps. Sadly I tried last night and was sobbing so hard I couldn't breathe. Had to ring H to come and pick me up. Don't know why I am having such a hard time right how - was doing pretty well until a week or so ago. I think the fact that our 20th anniversary is coming up next week isn't helping. We always planned a big party (well actually we planned one for our 5th and 10th too but things got in the way). Don't feel like partying much - not while our marriage feels like it has a third wheel. I also walk our dog every day sometimes for miles and miles but have to listen to audiobooks on my IPhone or I end up thinking too much. I tried karate once - I am not petite, in fact I am nearly 6 foot tall so you'd have thought I'd been OK, but couldn't get over the 'nice people don't hit' conditioning! I think I'd manage it now
worldgonewrong Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 eta: There is a reason you are going through this horrible experience even if you don't know what it is yet. It takes the hottest fire to forge the strongest and sharpest blade. ^^^^ i love this! Yes!
Spark1111 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I do go running. I used to run half-marathon distances every weekend, plus another 6 or so twice a week. Then I got so many injuries I had to slow down and then eventually I gave up. Started again using a Couch to 5 K podcast - so I'm running for 30 mins 3 times a week. It helps. Sadly I tried last night and was sobbing so hard I couldn't breathe. Had to ring H to come and pick me up. Don't know why I am having such a hard time right how - was doing pretty well until a week or so ago. I think the fact that our 20th anniversary is coming up next week isn't helping. We always planned a big party (well actually we planned one for our 5th and 10th too but things got in the way). Don't feel like partying much - not while our marriage feels like it has a third wheel. I also walk our dog every day sometimes for miles and miles but have to listen to audiobooks on my IPhone or I end up thinking too much. I tried karate once - I am not petite, in fact I am nearly 6 foot tall so you'd have thought I'd been OK, but couldn't get over the 'nice people don't hit' conditioning! I think I'd manage it now Try gym classes, upbeat ones like Zumba, Jazzercise, pilates. Try new activities; an art class? Try to reinititate with old friends and new. Engage in fun, social activities. Try any upbeat diversion so you do not find yourself wallowing in the obssessive and sad thoughts. Find gratitude for all that is good and positive in your life during this terrible time. Try Karate again....and ethically toss some on around. 1
melenkurion Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Doing physical stuff helps deal with the rage. I went running, a lot. That helped. Any kind of exercise works. 1
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